besykobuset said:
im speechless and blanked..
I am sorry. I have seen this a number of time. It seems to be a cultural issue, where "living together" and "married" are seen as being very different things. Under Canadian law, they are not - living together in a marriage-like relationship for 12 months and being married are treated the same for the purposes of immigration law.
The obligation to disclose all family members during the course of an application for permanent residence is to permit opportunity for examination of those family members regardless of whether they are accompanying the appellant or not. Paragraph 117(9)(d) is not limited to deliberate or fraudulent non-disclosure but applies to any non-disclosure that may prevent examination of a dependent. The combined effect of paragraph 117(9)(d) and provisions of the Act that govern admissibility[14] prohibit a visa officer from issuing a visa to someone as a member of the family class where the sponsor did not previously disclose the relationship.[15] The courts have confirmed the constitutionality of paragraph 117(9)(d) and its strict application[16] even where a person was not aware of the existence of a child prior to being landed as a permanent resident.[17] In summary, a non-accompanying family member who has not been examined for a reason other than a decision by a visa officer will not be admitted as members of the family class.
Source: http://canlii.ca/t/ft69g (this is a successful appeal of a VO's decision to refuse a spousal application.)
One difficulty with such cases is that IAD lacks jurisdiction to consider H&C grounds for such an appeal if you are excluded as a member of the family class.
Another interesting spousal case: http://canlii.ca/t/ft68d
This one might give you some hope, as it suggests that the nature of your relationship is relative to cultural norms and requirements: http://canlii.ca/t/ft30m
At this point, I would suggest that you find qualified legal counsel. If you do not have an attorney, I would suggest searching through CanLii decisions until you find cases where the appellant (or applicant in federal court) was successful. The attorney that represented such a party would be someone to put on your list of potential lawyers.