danielle902 said:
My point is, I have read frankfields posts.. and can honestly say I see what she is saying... and MAY agree with SOME of what she posts. I also feel that frankfield paints everyone with the same brush.
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Danielle, you can hop of my ferry now... I don't speak to your personal case cause I don't know you. Probably would not want to; I don't single out individuals when I post, just say my piece and when individuals take an issue with it, I know the truth hurts and sometimes cause individuals to hate. This is why there is the famous saying goes "don't kill the messenger". No one has to answer, I kinda like when there is a concerted effort to ignore my post.. No one can make you feel anyway unless you already tell yourself the same thing or realize what he or she says validates how you feel. If you are confident in your "love" then why get your draws in a knot.
I just support all persons who have made the decision to enter into marriage but I also hate to see women get taken advantage of by opportunistic MEN?WOMEN? I feel when women enter in these kinds of relationship they should guard against thieves, users, creeps who prey on unsuspecting innocent women especially. I preach if "love" is real one does not have to give their money, time, energy to individuals they cant guarantee will return such devotion when it counts... I always and will forever warn women to save something for themselves until they know over a long time.. sometimes years, that this encounter is for real..and not a real opportunity..
People can do whatever they want.. it is your prerogative. If you feel you are more special than others who have gone through some painful experience you can just continue singing. I only try to be honest with someone who may want to be reminded every now and then to open their eyes, listen to the gut and proceed with caution.. No one love a romantic story than I do.. I cant count how many men have said thank you to me for helping them save their marriage.. I account for the number of women I have encouraged to keep trying with men who wronged them. But I always remind women that we think with our clitoris, wear rose coloured glasses when it comes to the affairs of the heart. This forum is to see/GIVE advice on the sponsorship process but there is nothing wrong with getting a reality check every so often.
Just ignore me, I know your man is different, know you are super special. I am just posting for the gals who are going through painful separation, be it the immigration process or living apart though they worked like a Bit&& to bring their men here only to watch them play the fool. There are great men waiting to join their women on this site.. there are wonderful women waiting to be joined by partners. There are some wicked bastards just laughing and waiting to turn someones life upside down.. It is these creeps I speak against, whether you know them for a day or twenty years. As much as I could just lol, when I see ignorance, I don't wish to see/hear folks say why did I not have a more graceful wait and take care of me while I was waiting. This is my message..stuff it if it offends your sensibility. Two/ten years from now someone will read this post and send 50 cents instead of a dollar, to ensure you secure your future.. Women with children make sure you protect your children's future. Love hard, think harder.. ah so me se.
Maybe I watch too much movies about paradise weddings.
http://youtu.be/MseHFRzExxg
http://youtu.be/JU3mkfoPn8w