Hi waitingonforever, First of all I want to say how I feel about this whole thing. This is terrible what you are going through. No thoughts or feelings I can express can console your feelings but it breaks my heart and everyone else.s I read your post last night but wanted to wait until I got my thoughts back in order. One thing that upsets me is how does the government think they can mess with people's lives. as I am Native American and the first people who was in this country before everyone else. If we still had control of our own country things would be different. But i don't want to get into that history. If our people had a say in how our own country was run, I would have my say and let all the ones who truly love each other be together.
I also sent phone cards etc. There is a lot of others on this forum who has done the same. By sending phone cards etc, plus copies of e-mails and conversations etc. that is to prove how we maintain communication throughout our separation and to maintain our relationships. This process is always asking for proof. How else can we prove it to them if we don't take pictures of ourselves naked and in bed with our spouses. I am wondering what more they are expecting from people and what goes on in their head to make these kind of judgements. I believe all of us here have sent phone cards and have purchased phone credits for our spouses. It has nothing to do with money as phone cards are petty and different from straight out cash and asking for mega amounts so our spouses can do as they please. Then I would be worried for myself and would not be in this process because I would have recognized the problem for myself and so no immigration officer would be telling me that. I would not let that happen to me. What is true here is the love we feel for our spouses and the need to keep our relationships close in heart because we are a thousand miles apart. That is why it is so important to keep communicating with each other.
Also, I am wondering how can they expect your husband to know what kind of medication your daughter is on? He is not able to be with you to help with you and your family. That is not something we talk about on a daily basis to even remember something like that. How often do we remember about our our own medications we take or even know how to say or spell them properly? Look at our our own parents/grandparents, do we know what kind of medication they are on? I myself can say I don't know what kind of medication my own mother is on.
Love comes in many forms, no matter how we met our spouses. Only we ourselves know how we feel in our heart and no immigration officer can tell us otherwise. They look at our lives, all the proof we send them, then they review us or want to interview us for a very measly time period? How can they know us in 2 hours or so? I say those immigration officers need to come spend the day with each one of us as a couple. Then they can see for themselves and maybe their judgement will change. IO will see for themselves what we are about whether it be good or bad.
But waitingonforever, it is not the end. your determination and willing to fight is what is going to make things change. Proud of you! appeal is on!!!!!
But for the rest of us, something has to be done to change this process. There is a lot f us not liking the way things are going. It has to start with us. Talking to each other does not help the situation, but it helps with our own feelings and it makes us feel better. But in order for the higher up to hear, they need to hear from us. Start writing your MP's, government etc. and let them know how you feel, and complain. Myself, I would even organize a protest in front o the CIC office, why not....I have done it before to other forms of government for other things. I am one who is not afraid to do it and an activist at heart. I would even organize it and find others willing to help. Newspapers, etc., I would call them all. LOL! This is just my spirit and the person I am.
Waitingforever, my thoughts and part of me is with you in spirit, keep on going and do what you have to do. You go girl!!!!!
