It is ridiculously sad if not inhuman to keep spouses appart for that long, and sweetie we all go crazy with that process. We have plenty of challenge in our live on top of all this, we have to be realistic it will always be that way, but with our other half to support each other it will be MUCH easier.
We cannot kill ourselves trying to change what we can't change, but we can decide to adopt a positive attitude to make this burden a tiniest bit lighter. Focus on what you can do to make a difference, your futur with hubby, your family, your friends, etc. anything that helps you and keeps you away from depression and drawning patterns. Happy days are near, very near. Soon all this will be but a faded memory.