Honestly I don't know what I want for our friend. I do think he is a crazy man. Yes he is smart but I think he is also blind. He has even said that if she left him quickly to him that is okay because he at least bettered her life by getting her out of Cuba. This man to me is a womanizer personality. I am 25 years younger than he is and I know for a fact, since he has told me directly, that he would never look at a lady who appeared 50 years old that to him is too old. He was our best man at my husband's and my wedding, We had a small intimate wedding with about 15 friends and family present. Our wedding was preformed by my pastor and took place at some good friends house. One of the people at the wedding was a woman in her mid 50's who looks younger, he was tripping over himself to get her attention. Even though just weeks before he became engaged to the woman he is now married to. I think for him the fact that he could marry someone so young was a sort of status symbol. In the 1 and a half years since he asked her to marry him, (they would have married within a few months but he could not produce a birth certificate and had to find other proof of his birth place, which is not Canada, then the first time they were to have married he went down there not taking all the papers of proof that he had as to who he was and his divorce decrees and since he did not have it all he ended up not being able to marry her during that visit) the things I hear most from him about her are, she is a Doctor, (which she had to give up to marry him because they do not let Doctors immigrate out of the country) that she is young and that she is very petite. To me this says he does not know her all that well even though he calls her often. (I don't know about now but I know for a long time they used a translation program both for phone calls and emails since she is limited in her English and he has almost no Spanish). All this said, I know I need to support his choice as my husband and he have known each other for over 20 years and consider each other their best friend. So how do I support him and help him navigate through as I am sure he does have an uphill battle much more than most of us. And how do I support him if in the end CIC says noway to her and her daughter being sponsored by him? I know him well enough to know he will appeal to as high a level as he can to win his case. So what does a person who themselves in trying for PR support someone who more than likely has a long road ahead?