In fact I have seen at least two cases of this long ass wait breaking up marriages. Once was a nikah case who due to a long wait the girls parents started freaking out that the Sponsor husband may be making excuses and doesnt want to do the rukhsati at all ( the typical spoiled man who got married coz his parents forced him to but probably has married a gory in Canada). This broke up the nikah after a year and half of wait.
Second case was a guy with full rukhsati and his case was almost over after 2 years but then due to too many fights between husband and wife over the phone the fight broke up their marriage right after she got a PPR.
- Long distance relationship and that too when you are newly married (and just getting to know each other as a couple for arranged marriages) are really difficult.
- And then there is an extra pressure of keeping in touch (proof of contact required by CHC Islamabad) and our nikah cases cannot call back and forth too much because until the rukhsati takes place the parents don't want the girl to get too emotionally involved even though islamically the marriage is complete with the nikah.
- On top of it all there are cultural expectations and misinformation that is spread ( like girls parents thinking that it usually takes 6 months max for him to call her to Canada we have seen many cases like that but they forget that with time these things can change).
- And then there is the pressure on the sponsor to do something with the application even though there isnt much you can do. You can provide proofs or perform rukhsati and just wait
- Then those who have babies their families are just growing up without a father.
- All this and then this long wait without any clear direction from CHC Islamabad as to what the next step of the application process is for two long years (3 years for poor souls who get into the interview queue) is enough to break up marriages.
- You try to get the visit or TRV visa and for most it get denied due to family ties in Canada (you spouse)
- You try going to the Islamabad Embassy/ Local MP but both are of no use
This process has to be the
most frustrating process ever. So my advice is for most sponsors to visit spouse as much as they can and if they can afford to then move back to Pakistan until you get the visa and be prepared for the objection on this move and have support letters and other paperwork to prove that you intend to settle in Canada.