thanks for the response guys.LOL Imagine how messed up that is that we have to explain everything in detail and treated with skepticism even if we slightly deviate from cultural norms because of whatever someones personal circumstances would have been. I do agree with you and this warrants attaching a note saying why certain things were done slightly different than how they would normally be done.
so just to summarize why rukhsati was not done:
1. mutually agreed by parents/families that rukhsati to be done once spousal application is approved as rukhsati implies that the couple will start living together for good, but in my case i was travelling to Canada within 3 months of my Nikkah, and then my wife would have to go back to her house which is something frowned upon.
2. since rukhsati was not happening, we decided to "officiate and publicise" our marriage, we held a function with limited guests due to social gathering restrictions because of covid.
in your opinion, would the above note be appropriate? will attaching consent or agreement letter written and signed by parents help this?
any ideas are welcome.