It is heartbreaking to me to hear all the terrible things that sponsors are going through after their spouses arrive in Canada. I know how painful and difficult it is waiting to be with the one we love. The immigration process itself takes a toll on us each day, and affects us more than we could have thought of before we entered into sponsoring a spouse. All everyone is looking for is not necessarily a fairytale ending, but at least a happy one. I am always hoping that the couples will be happy together, but as we all know it seems to have terrible endings much more often than we like. I have been following this forum and others for over 5 years, and the number of terrible endings are in great numbers with these sponsorships, but I can also say that there are those who do have happy endings, unfortunately those numbers seem to be the minority, but they do exist.
I can say that there are good men who do arrive here, and are great husbands. They have good jobs, have children and are devoted to their wives and family. I know it is a big risk and commitment financially as well as emotionally, and we really need to keep our heads clear and our eyes open when going into these marriages and sponsorships.
I also took that chance when I decided to marry and sponsor my Husband from Morocco, and I can say that I am so happy that I did. He has been here for over 3 and a half years, and He is really a very kind, loving and commited Husband. Like Patopato's husband , my Husband also did not want to find friends to hang out with here, He wants a quiet and peaceful life , and he is not looking for anything else. We enjoy our days off together, and do everything as a couple. He is very laid back and easy going, and so easy to live with. He is kind, considerate and very respectful to me, and to everyone else. He loves the lifestyle here,and has felt at home since he arrived. I am truly blessed to have him in my life.
I pray that others will also be loved and cherished by their Husband's like they deserve to be, after all the love and sacrifices they have put into this so that they can share their lives with the man they love.
I just ask that you please be careful, and pay attention when there are obvious warning signs that you see but sometimes don't want to see, and choose to ignore hoping that it will be OK when he gets here, but instead it turns into a nightmare for them after their husband lands, and as you have seen, there is really no legal recourse when things turn out badly.
I would say follow your heart, but don't follow it blindly, I have seen too many good women get hurt, and put themselves through so much suffering, But I still have hope because I also know that there are good men out there who do love and appreciate their wives , and who show it when they get here.
God bless you all, and I'm praying for more happy endings.
