Hello all
I to am married to a morrocain man and he has been here for 2yrs 1 mth. He was approved with no interview. He had a good job back home working with a government school. He was very sweet and caring and to this day is the same way. If anything Canada has changed him a little. Made him a little harder not so nieve and more focused on what is needed here. He now attends school to get his gr 12 sciences as his schooling is not recognized he experiences many new feelings he never felt before (ie. scared, worry, anxiety, depression ) and that is because he finds it a little difficult separating his life in morocco ( excellent grades, work, constant money) with his new life here ( average grades, no work, no steady income) I keep telling him it's a new country new experiences and new feelings here, but we will work through it all together. We joke when he finishes his college in another 3-4 yrs and we then can relax when all is finished we say.
I remember talking on the net with many ppl overseas egypt, algeria, morocco, germany, holland, Canada, USA. I wasn't lookin for a relationship I just wanted to learn and talk but believe me there was a few I wish I never spoke to and new they where looking to come to canada with lots of red flags, but as I said I wasn't looking. Things however did change when I met and started speaking with my husband his personality and caring smile came through his words and camera. So I journeyed to Morocco 8 mths after knowing him being the first time on a plane and international flight. Let me tell u ppl asked if I was crazy... I said perhaps but I just had a calm and knew he wouldn't hurt me it was just a feeling.. if I could explain I would but I knew and anyway I was just going over to visit a friend never did we ever talk about marriage it was just a holiday and he wanted to show me morocco he was proud to be my guide.. We both enjoyed each others company and had so much in common continued to talk. I went back to marry almost another yr later. That's how it all started for me.. Yes I took a chance and fate and won.. I was well aware of my duties as a wife and sponsor and made every effort to make sure it was going to work no matter how much work I had to put into it at first
As for mine and my husband's relationship here in Canada we have had a lot of good times we're best friends,committed lovers and sure some silly arguments but what marriage doesn't.. I would do it all over again I love him very much and the issues that arise just make us stronger.. If ever you have questions msg me I will speak honest about our experience as a muti-cultural couple...
The biggest shock for him was some of the ppl being lazy and kids here in Canada being so unruley . I to am a mother of 2 teens 1 boy and 1 girl and both gave him a run for his money you need to set ground rules and stick to them and those where set mostly for kids. They had him trying to run back home once or twice poor man but he stuck it out and now they ask him questions and to do things before they ask me.. and he still puts them in their place by doing a lot of talking and picking battles.. He is a very good stepfather and would give anything for my kids and myself.
My husband does become depressed at times because I do have to work to pay all things but when summer comes he works hard at finding anything to put forth his share..painting, cutting grass, handyman even a few immigrants who have been here for 20-30 yrs help by calling on him to fix something if they need it, it all helps and can be done if you both put hard work into it. Some may not pay much but it keeps his pride up.
Get him started in getting his basic gr 12 (adult learning he will need english transcripts of his schooling back home) and have him take any free learning courses (ie computers, word, job interviews, etc..) again unemployment offers some free classes and check out your college if ur husband's english is good they offer A.C.E program it gives you courses free gr12 to able u to get into college courses when finished..All this will help with his english and looks good on resume and while completing that he can look for work and he does have a better chance at getting it because the government will pay the employer monies to hire immigrants. Go to your unemployment office or look up any immigrant services in your town I know here we have Goodwill and they help a little. And sometimes u may just have to bite the bullet and take on a 2nd job, a lot of families have 1 person who has to take on a 2nd job.
There are good men out there ... not all are looking just to come to Canada, but you must keep ur eyes open and see the red flags ask questions and be honest with yourself , you'll just know if it is right especially if aren't looking for it.
Good Luck and best of luck to all !!!
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