Please understand, you don't have to convince ANYONE on this forum. It's CIC that you have to convince. All we can do is offer support and advice. It's important that you understand how CIC could interpret the situation, so that you can develop counter-arguments. Good Luck.Tina dhaliwal said:Hi Zardoz
That was never a condition in reality for getting married,that just was just my desire that i asked him to help to me to fulfill..the main reason of the separation was that i was not comfortable withe the family and him,his behavior was totally changed toward me and he stopped supporting financially and emotionally was always suspicious of me that if i m having affair with some one .... i asked him to move to some other province to be away from the family environment and we can get more close to each other we will if live separately from this joint family who was very intervening ...but he refused so i moved by myself and he suspected it as if i eloped with someone and phoned my parents that i am not loyal to him any more...and he does not want to have any relationship with me..and that bond of love and trust was gone from our marriage..how could this marriage be survived..
my Parents talked to his father who was alive at that time and a number of times to his sister with whom we were living at that time to help us to resolve our conflicts , they talked to us a few times but it didn't help..he was very abusive toward me..always blamed me that i m more favorable towards my parent's family,he never liked that why i phone back home to my parents when ever he found that i m talking to them on the phone..used to ask me if i had a BF in india..he was very nice to me when we were both in India..but totally changed when we came to Canada... He was kind of good friend of my Brother and said to him before me moved that we will unite with you in Canada....we will apply for you..that was reason i asked him to help me get my brother here so that i will feel more like home if i will have some one from my parents.. but that was all lie.. He was a Changed man now...i was feeling like deceived..why he changed so much..What i did wrong..was it wrong to talk to your parents and friends back home when you moved so far away from them.. i did not understand what was the point of insecurity ??
All this was the basic reason of Separation.. and he felt offended and divorced me.. I never asked for the divorce.. i was so broken and was incapable to tolerate all that he had blamed me so i wanted peace too... so we got divorced..Beleive me it was not a marriage of Convenience.