Love or Opportunity? Coffee Social

[Ms Malawi]

Re: Love or Opportunity?

Thank you Half Moon.

No, that is the sad part of the story he was not deported. He was here under different terms and just stayed. And he has continued to leave a long line of heartbreak and children along the way. I keep hoping something will happen and he will be sent packing, but I haven't heard of it yet. I feel for all the women he manipulates and the children he has fathered, but like you say karma has a way of getting back to you.

 

[Halfmoon]

Re: Love or Opportunity?

Thank you Half Moon.

No, that is the sad part of the story he was not deported. He was here under different terms and just stayed. And he has continued to leave a long line of heartbreak and children along the way. I keep hoping something will happen and he will be sent packing, but I haven't heard of it yet. I feel for all the women he manipulates and the children he has fathered, but like you say karma has a way of getting back to you.

I assure you that you that Daddy Daycare will meet his match.

 

[blueangel371115]

Re: Love or Opportunity?

You are a very strong lady. Hugs

 

[JimM]

Re: Love or Opportunity?

Sponsorship application can last a while. What might be easier and faster; is if a non-Canadian finds an employer with an LMO. That will not only bring him/her to Canada faster, but also contribute to the financial part.

That's how it went down with me and my Canadian husband. Although now we will be submitting a sponsorship application; this demonstrated to me and him that I am more than wiling to work, contribute to our living together, suck up through the winter, etc, to be with him.

LMO process lasted a while, but I am here, freezing, working, and loving my hubby.

That's great when it works

We had originally intend for me to go up on a work visa for a year before we married and applied for PR to make sure everything would work 24/7. Unfortunately the economy shot us down. I'd definatly recommend trying it though.

 

[JimM]

Re: Love or Opportunity?

Yeah, if someone would give a worthy advice on how to prepare yourself for 9-12 months (or maybe more) of being apart. That's speaking about love, patience and the rest of the basics of any relationship. I guess, get two jobs so all the free time you'll get would be for sleeping (((. And doing some sports on weekends and forget the concept of holidays till you get any more or less worthy news.

dreading all this

We've been lucky that work has kept us both busy, very busy so a lot of time gets ate up there. I also make a point of not missing the gym which kills time and along with work means I'm so tired I fall right asleep without time to lay there and feel lonely.

We also text each other frequently during the workday, though we both know it may take a while to get an answer if the other is busy. And we talk on the phone at least once a day as well with messages on Yahoo messenger when we're both home. It keeps the sense of togetherness there. Try things like putting the same movie on and messaging as you watch it

Also research anything you might need to know for or after the move, like moving companies if your taking a lot of stuff, or as I'll be doing after the gym today checking what supplement I use are available in Canada, I know a couple are against the law there, so I'm checking everything and looking for alternatives. Stuff like that makes you feel like your doing something, not just sitting waiting

 

[visahunter]

Re: Love or Opportunity?

To be very clear. falling in love online is very easy. a man can love 100 of women online. you have asked too many questions which a woman should know. but dont you know that women are always suspicious? its in their nature. they will never stop suspecting you untill and unless u are with her. some of the questions asked are is he willing to be in his country? How a person can do this if he is from a developing country. and lives from hand to mouth. whats harm if you sponsor him and make his life? is he not a human? even if he has used you or using as a gateway to canada or USA. thats the only option he has. have you ever tried to ask him about his past life? have you ever asked how is he leading his life. have you ever tried to help him? we all are humans. and when u r helpless. you search for the different ways... if someone uses you for visa. then what? its an inevitable fact that he will love you more. because you made his life. try to study the past life of the person who is claiming that he loves you...................! its from a man's perspective. because i am a man and a man bears lots of responsibilites. he has to setup his life, his family life. and this is the only option specially if your are from the country where no jobs are available and its BOP is in deficit. BE HUMANZ>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>! Otherwise there is no love!

 

[amikety]

Re: Love or Opportunity?

To be very clear. falling in love online is very easy. a man can love 100 of women online. you have asked too many questions which a woman should know. but dont you know that women are always suspicious? its in their nature. they will never stop suspecting you untill and unless u are with her. some of the questions asked are is he willing to be in his country? How a person can do this if he is from a developing country. and lives from hand to mouth. whats harm if you sponsor him and make his life? is he not a human? even if he has used you or using as a gateway to canada or USA. thats the only option he has. have you ever tried to ask him about his past life? have you ever asked how is he leading his life. have you ever tried to help him? we all are humans. and when u r helpless. you search for the different ways... if someone uses you for visa. then what? its an inevitable fact that he will love you more. because you made his life. try to study the past life of the person who is claiming that he loves you...................! its from a man's perspective. because i am a man and a man bears lots of responsibilites. he has to setup his life, his family life. and this is the only option specially if your are from the country where no jobs are available and its BOP is in deficit. BE HUMANZ>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>! Otherwise there is no love!

Sorry, if someone uses you for a visa, that isn't love. It's a crime.

Here's a news flash. Just because someone is born in the USA or Canada doesn't guarantee a good life. Lots of Americans and Canadian live hand to mouth too. In addition, you aren't helpless. If you have access to a computer, you have access to a world of education and opportunity as well. If you lay there and say "Immigration is my only option" then guess what? You will be blind to real opportunities that pass by you. Feeling sorry for yourself isn't the answer and frankly, it's annoying.

I think your user name says it all.

 

[Halfmoon]

Re: Love or Opportunity?

To be very clear. falling in love online is very easy. a man can love 100 of women online. you have asked too many questions which a woman should know. but dont you know that women are always suspicious? its in their nature. they will never stop suspecting you untill and unless u are with her. some of the questions asked are is he willing to be in his country? How a person can do this if he is from a developing country. and lives from hand to mouth. whats harm if you sponsor him and make his life? is he not a human? even if he has used you or using as a gateway to canada or USA. thats the only option he has. have you ever tried to ask him about his past life? have you ever asked how is he leading his life. have you ever tried to help him? we all are humans. and when u r helpless. you search for the different ways... if someone uses you for visa. then what? its an inevitable fact that he will love you more. because you made his life. try to study the past life of the person who is claiming that he loves you...................! its from a man's perspective. because i am a man and a man bears lots of responsibilites. he has to setup his life, his family life. and this is the only option specially if your are from the country where no jobs are available and its BOP is in deficit. BE HUMANZ>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>! Otherwise there is no love!

The law of averages tells me with this being your very first post amongst the thousands of threads on this forum, that you set up a new account to let this off your chest and in fact are an active forum member and this is your alias. I'm not accusing, just going by the law of averages.

Secondly, sounds to me like you are admitting to being one of those men that attempt to meet women from "developed countries" online for the sake of getting them hitched to try and get a visa? FYI - if your desire is to have a life in Canada, there are legitimate LEGAL ways to come here vs doing it the illegal way. Your background nor lifestyle doesn't give you any right to lie and manipulate someone into loving you, marrying you for the sake of getting a visa and if you weren't aware before, let me advise you that it is illegal and fraudulent.

You last words mention that a man has lots of responsibilities including that of his family...Sounds to me like you'd be the same man who'd use a Canadian citizen to gain entry, obtain status, divorce your CDN spouse and then attempt to bring your 100 wives and offspring from your country up here.

Would your name happen to be Daddy Daycare by any chance?

Visahunter
Date Registered: November 25, 2012, 04:21:50 pm
Last Active: November 25, 2012, 04:43:09 pm

 

[blueboom]

Re: Love or Opportunity?

if someone uses you for visa. then what? its an inevitable fact that he will love you more. because you made his life.

I try not to post in these kinds of threads but L O L.

 

[lunas]

Re: Love or Opportunity?

I try not to post in these kinds of threads but L O L.

Hahahaha true! ROFL

 

[McDutch]

Re: Love or Opportunity?

According to Visahunter, i guess it is also an act of love to live of the dime of your visa-victim for three years as well.

 

[Halfmoon]

Re: Love or Opportunity?

According to Visahunter, i guess it is also an act of love to live of the dime of your visa-victim for three years as well.

We call ppl like this "bottom feeders" aka parasites.

I'm sure he's lurking with his "real" username as he set up "visahunter" just to post that comment.

 

[R151NG5UN]

Re: Love or Opportunity?

We call ppl like this "bottom feeders" aka parasites.

I'm sure he's lurking with his "real" username as he set up "visahunter" just to post that comment.

LOL for sure that post is a total wind up and the actions of a desperate troll to spark a great debate over his lack of intellectual intelligence. I certainly agree that is a pseudo name and the real owner of that alternate name is lurking somewhere. lol

 

[Mevakesh]

Re: Love or Opportunity?

You have to let your head do the thinking and not your heart when it comes to falling in love with someone in a different country. There are obvious red flags such as excessive money requests, constant excuses not to talk/chat, lack of whereabouts for long durations, etc. etc. Don't just meet their friends and relatives, but create a bond with them. Get to know them well, get to know more about your partner through them and other sources.

I don't want to sound sexist, but not just in sponsorship cases, women in general tend to get too attached to their partner who take advantage of them. Look at your relationship from the outside. Don't let the jerks take advantage of you.

 

[blueangel371115]

Re: Love or Opportunity?

I agree. I have been burned a time or two. This time I got lucky ;D He's been so supportive in all of this.