Bye Bye Friends - Thanks a lot

[elmo_25]

HI Ruka, I just would like to share my opinion too if u dont mind, I think u just have to save the door open for the future of your kids. You see my father died when I was 2 years old and since then my mother became my father too. My mother raised me and my brother and provide us food, shelter and education until now though she old and also having some health problem she is still at our side. What did my parents and your parents and a lot of parents in this world have in common is to look forward for the sake of their family, for ur kids and for the future of the children of ur kids too. U see I am a catholic and once I heard a sermon, the priest asked if ur on a boat that is going to sink, u have to choose who is to save between ur mother and your child, who will you choose?

 

[Pippin]

It has been interesting reading this thread, all the pros and cons we see in Ruka's selfless decision. I don't think Ruka has to choose between saving either his parents OR children. Ruka has stated that family responsibility comes first. Demonstrating that value for his/her children may be more of a gift to them than flying the family away from beloved grandparents "for the sake of something better". Yes, for all those who have and are working so hard to get their Visas it is hard to understand that anyone would turn back so near the goal. But it doesn't mean that Ruka cannot reapply in the years to come when the time is right for their whole family. Have a Good Life, Ruka.

 

[rocky272727]

I really though of migration for some time. It was a real struggle inside me to take the decision.

My parents are really old and they would badly miss me if I make the move.
The main reason for my deciding to go to Canada was my kids' future.

But I finally decided not to proceed with the migration plan.

I have decided to build a new house here and live there with kids and parents.

Thanks a lot for all your wishes and help during the last few months.

And thanks for the friendship in this community and there are great minds who are really willing to help others.

special thanks to ankit, meena, ICE_CUBE and Qorax.

I am really really going to miss you all.

Wish you all the very best.

ruka

Wish you good luck Ruka. I wish you stay happy wish your decision. I have great respect for your decision. You will always have your parents blessing.

 

[Ario]

Yeah
We have to respect his decision. It is his life after all. Immigration can be a challenging decision at times

God bless you Ruka

 

[elmo_25]

Keep your option open, like qorax says wait for the four seasons...

 

[meena]

Hi ruka,

I just read your post here and its really sad to hear that you are not continuing with yur Immigration but on the other side I feel really happy that u r so posessive for your parents and thinks in this way.

Though its true that this is life time opportunity but parents should be on first priority.

But I would like to suggest if you go this way that just take the Immigration and go there for formalities and come back and stay with yur family. Before it expires go again alone and continue the same. Try to find good Job there and if u get a nice Job than call yur parents also there along with yur family and kids.
In this way they can also enjoy good life with u in CANADA.

Rest all is yur decision.

Best of Luck in whatever u decided...

 

[ruka]

Friends,

Thanks for all your inputs. I did not really withdraw as withdrawing at this stage is not going make them refund. I am just not continuing if I get the medicals. Some of you are suggesting me to take my parents there. My mom got her stones removed off her kidney a few years back and she's taken for checkups annually and she has some other health issues too.

by the way, it's a question mark how I can do all this if I take them there and would it be possible to get visa for them with these health issues.
On the other hand they should be able to withstand the climate change at their age.

Further more, Since I am the only earner , I should be able to get one of the super paying jobs to do all these.

So what is more likely to happen if I make the move ? Isn't it that they are going to miss me ?

Thanks again

Cheers

ruka

 

[Ario]

Yeah Ruka
It is wise to consider these issues before you make the move. I think Canada State Healthcare does not cover some pre-existing health conditions (regular medication for pre existing conditions ,glasses for myopia or any other vision deficiency ) You'll have to pay for these yourself. ,it is just sad that you are taking these issues seriously at this stage ,it would have been better and cheaper to take them into account before you file your application.
Still I think money earned in Canada can go a long way when spent in the phillipines.In other words, with an ordinary job in Canada you should be able to support your parents back home

 

[ruka]

Thanks ario,

Yes, It would have been cheaper if had made this decision before. But I was kind struggling to take the decision when I started and 0213 was on its way off the list. So I was forced to apply and take the decision later before missing the train.

But things got a bit more complicated there after. It didn't take long for me to identify that my dad was starting to get a bit depressed. All these because I was so close to them.

Re. Earning in Canada and supporting the parents here ........ It's not really a problem of money. My parents do not need our money at all. What they really need is love and care.

thanks again

I still feel a lot as I have closed the doors for my dear kids. I always pray god and ask him to make me feel comfortable with my decision and make me content without any repentance in future. That's all I need at this moment.

Thanks for all your prayers and wishes.

ruka

 

[Big Mike]

Thanks ario,

Yes, It would have been cheaper if had made this decision before. But I was kind struggling to take the decision when I started and 0213 was on its way off the list. So I was forced to apply and take the decision later before missing the train.

But things got a bit more complicated there after. It didn't take long for me to identify that my dad was starting to get a bit depressed. All these because I was so close to them.

Re. Earning in Canada and supporting the parents here ........ It's not really a problem of money. My parents do not need our money at all. What they really need is love and care.

thanks again

I still feel a lot as I have closed the doors for my dear kids. I always pray god and ask him to make me feel comfortable with my decision and make me content without any repentance in future. That's all I need at this moment.

Thanks for all your prayers and wishes.

ruka

Ruka,

You can take different paths to your future and make good/bad decisions along the way but do keep God in your daily life and you will end up making all the right choices in life.

Thank you for the time and thoughts you shared with us over the months.

May God be with you and your family at all times.

God Bless!

BM

 

[Pippin]

I don't want to muddy the waters, and I am no expert, but I would be surprised if having surgery for removal of kidney stones would be a problem for immigration. Regarding medical coverage....the way Ario worded it...I don't think that is correct. It would be for the kind of health insurance you get for travel, with regard to pre-existing conditions. With regular health care, any care that became necessary would be covered by Provincial Health Insurance whether or not it was pre-existing.

 

[Ario]

@Pippin
Please verify ,you would be surprised to learn that Most Healthcare do not cover pre existing conditions or congenital diseases. Canada Healthcare is no exception ,that's the whole point of sending people for Medical examinations. A person found with active TB would not be granted PR but he would be advised to seek treatment and re take the medical examination at a later stage. This is just one example.
There are other cases of people currently living in Canada: Regular medication for sickle cell diseases (anemia) Healthcare does not pay for that ,glasses for shortsight is another example.

 

[Pippin]

Thanks for the clairification, Ario (and sorry Ruka for this sidetrack). I thought the medical examinations were to make sure that those carrying communicable disease (example TB) would be treated and clear before getting PR or to determine those who would be a considerable drain on health care dollars. You are correct that glasses and medications are not covered by our Provincial Health Care as I have had to pay for them all my life. Do other countries usually pay for all those things for their citizens? What I meant was, if Ruka's parents did feel up to making the move, I didn't think the kidney stones would prevent her getting PR, but I am not an authority. If his mother had a reoccurence of kidney stones, she would be CARED for by the medical system in the same way as if it was her first time. Whatever ongoing treatement with medication would have to be paid for. Some companies do offer employee prescription plans with their benefit packages, but they are exceptional. I think Pharmacare also helps depending on income and the total amount of prescription costs.
I certainly don't mean to lead anyone astray. It was just encouragement to Ruka that I thought a person with a previous history of kidney stones would still be eligible for PR, IF that was the only reason holding back the decision to proceed with Ruka's PR.
The bottom line is, I think we ALL wish Ruka could sail through immigration, move here, settle and sponsor her parents. The reality is that Ruka's parents aren't in a position to move that easily, and I know if the situation was the same in my family, I would never be able to leave my 89 year old parents and emigrate half a world away either. Blood is truly thicker than Maple Leaves.
Blessings and peace of the season to everyone!

 

[Ario]

In Europe yes glasses and all kind of medications are covered by the state healthcare for those who qualify.The only difference with Canada is that here in Europe the state healthcare does not cover every one irrespective of their earning. In other words you have to be earning less than a certain amount and the family size is also taken into account.But most people who need it qualify for the state medical card ,and with it everything is covered including glasses , GP consultation and medication from chemist.No need to say the waiting list is sometimes too long for some special services( Specialist consultation ,circumcision)
For those who can't wait there is always Private Healthcare Insurance which is better but comes with costs.
But you are right to say : BLOOD IS THICKER THAN MAPPLE LEAVES.
If she was still alive ,I wouldn't leave my mom to go and settle half a world away if she wanted me near her. Some experiences have to be lived first hand you can't pass them onto other people. Only Ruka himself knows what he is going thru while wrestling with this decision. It is very selfless of his to do what he believes to be right.

 

[ruka]

Friends,

Thanks for all your inputs. I did not really withdraw as withdrawing at this stage is not going make them refund. I am just not continuing if I get the medicals. Some of you are suggesting me to take my parents there. My mom got her stones removed off her kidney a few years back and she's taken for checkups annually and she has some other health issues too.

by the way, it's a question mark how I can do all this if I take them there and would it be possible to get visa for them with these health issues.
On the other hand they should be able to withstand the climate change at their age.

Further more, Since I am the only earner , I should be able to get one of the super paying jobs to do all these.

So what is more likely to happen if I make the move ? Isn't it that they are going to miss me ?

Thanks again

Cheers

ruka

Hi friends,

Two days back I received my medicals. But as I said I have no idea to proceed with the application.

Thanks