AAL1984 said:
Look Habiti I know its tough right now, but you have to consider the fact that sometimes things happen for a reason. You may hate something that is good for you, but like something that is bad for you, you don't know but GOD knows, I know its hard but you gotta think of it that way if you are a person of faith.
Please and I say this with all due respect, I see a huge disturbing pattern here with older Western White women and young Moroccan men. It is quite obvious they are using you guys to get out of Morocco, you are just too naive to see it.
29 yr old young Arab Muslim men marrying 47, 48 yr old women? Give your head a shake, do you know how odd that is in Arab culture! If you were not a Canadian Citizen do you still think this man would have any interest in you, HELL NO!! I don't care how pretty you are!
Do you know how important it is in Arab and Muslim culture to marry a younger virgin girl, settle down and start a family!! No guy is going to give that up. I know this culture very well from my fathers side of the family. Please, please be careful.
Immigration authorities have obviously caught onto this. I am sure they have seen numerous cases of men using this way to get into Canada then abandoning their wives.
I cannot believe what I am reading here! You say that it is important in Arab and Muslim culture to marry a younger virgin girl, but what about Mohammed??? His first love and His most precious love was for Khadija. And she was 20 years older!!!
You don't know our story, how could you judge us that way? I know other members would tell me I should not reply to you, but I feel like it. I feel it will help me with my grief. I need to express myself, otherwise the strong emotions risk to choke me. Writing has always helped me to get some relief.
I am a French instructor online for an international website. My husband registered on that website in January 2008 to learn Spanish beginner and French advanced. I reviewed one of his writing exercises and during the time I was typing my comments to him, I could feel a force around me. Without knowing his age, or other personal information and without a profile picture, I felt I already knew him, I felt I already loved him. I felt he was family. He appreciated so much my corrections on his exercise, that he chose me as his personal French teacher. One day, 3 weeks later, I went online and he was also online. He connected with me and we chatted for 3 hours. Our conversation was both deep and funny. On that first day we talked, I told him how I was strongly against being in a relationship. I told him I never wanted to marry again. He did not know about my age and I did not know about his age.
Before my present husband, I got married to the father of my son who is the SAME AGE as me (same nationality, same religion). He lied to me, he cheated on me, he mentally abused me and he took something more valuable than just a visa: MY SANITY.
So you see... age is NOT a guarantee for a sane healthy happy relationship.
It took me years to regain my sanity, my identity and to rebuild my finances. That is why I told my present husband (almost 4 years ago) that NEVER I will marry again. I raised my son by myself and never I was involved in a relationship. My son and my work were my priorities. I decided to have it the hard way. To spend my days and my nights alone. I completely lost the faith in true love.... until my present husband came into the picture in 2008. As I said it was just a relationship as teacher and as student. But often we emailed to each other or chatted as great friends. He did propose marriage a couple of times, but each time I refused. I was not that naive... If I was naive, I would have fallen right away in his arms or in the arms of any Canadian man who was interested in me.
My husband went through a heartbreak when I told him end of summer 2009 he should find another woman than me, a woman from his country. Even if he was heartbroken, he told me it was best for me to be with a Canadian man. To make a long story short, we had mystical experiences and meaningful signs from life or God I don't know! that we had to meet. I went to meet him during summer 2010 with complete detachment. I did not care about the outcome because I was happy with my life. I just went there as an observant and I must say I got impressed with his high morals, his beautiful qualities, his values, etc. I observed him and his family for weeks. I did not get involved romantically. He gave me faith again in true love and that is why I decided to marry him.
As for age difference and have children... this is something I told my husband numerous times! I tried to discourage him. He told me he could be with a woman from the same country as him, the same age, but deep down he felt he won't find the same happiness with her as with me. Life is made of minuses and pluses. Yes, he has to give up on a younger woman, on children, etc. but he prefers to give up all that to be happy with me. With a woman his age, he could have another set of minuses. With any woman or any man, does not matter the age, you find a set of good things and a few bad things. He prefers to have the good things and the bad things with ME. This is what is love about!
And if what you say is right... that is using me to get visa, so be it! I believe that life will take care of him in a harsh way one day or the other.
