crisetphil said:
yeah he is very relax he said he dont want to be both of us get depress if we not get gud answer from them.. im jealous to other cause when they ask call them. they call them right away...mine not i said ur not excited he said he is.....
it drives me crazy this things.. i almost said to him just withdraw the application so that i will not think about itt........cause he dont want me to think about... but my feeling with this is like u apply for a job or something that u want to know the result if its gud or bad..........
he said dont go to this forum..cause it make me worried.. but im still here lol
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Lots of people don't visit forums and don't make phone calls to CIC. And they are still ok, they still receive PR's.
It is natural to think a lot about something that changes your life so much. But getting nervous to the point where you feel you have to withdraw the application to remain sane, is out of proportion. You and your husband want to be together, right? Good things are worth waiting for! We all have to wait, a phone call won't change that. You have to stop driving yourself crazy over it! Take a deep breath and realize you can't control this thing. We did our part by filling out the application and gathering all documents to the best of our knowledge. Now it's up to CIC and they will do what they will do. It's not in our hands anymore. That is an uncomfortable feeling but we have to come to terms with it.
Your husband is probably just trying to distract himself so that he doesn't have to think about it so much. Perhaps you should try that too. However, perhaps you can make an agreement with him, for example "If we haven't heard anything by _ _ _ , we're making a phone call". It is just a phone call after all, the worst that can happen is them giving you no information.
I know what you're going through, I am going through it myself and it is harder than I thought. Every day I think about it and every day I consciously do things to keep myself busy, to distract myself. And every day I will be one day closer to receiving PR. I wish you good luck and peace of mind!
