my bf has been living in canada for 6 years illegally and we are having a baby

[chipolopolo]

I have to agree with you. I lived apart from my husband for 5 years only seeing him here and there because I didn't want to be illegal and I wanted to finish my education. We are finally married and going through the immigration process (waiting for DM). So even though I do see how Sh**t happens its still 6 long years of being illegal. At some point you have to sit back and realize this isn't right. Its not like there aren't options. After living together one year they had an option to legalize him.

well so are you guys suggesting that he just forgets about his pregnant girlfriend and move on? They are obviously trying to fix their mistake. But i guess this forum is full of perfect people who have made no wrong in their life. What he did was wrong by staying illegally, and working, but whats the way forward now? i was also apart from my wife , and son and my human part wouldnt want anyone to go through such. Hope it works out for them, of course using the right channels, and fixing their situation legally

 

[brucem]

well so are you guys suggesting that he just forgets about his pregnant girlfriend and move on? They are obviously trying to fix their mistake. But i guess this forum is full of perfect people who have made no wrong in their life. What he did was wrong by staying illegally, and working, but whats the way forward now? i was also apart from my wife , and son and my human part wouldnt want anyone to go through such. Hope it works out for them, of course using the right channels, and fixing their situation legally

Filling out a form incorrectly, being given bad advice, staying a few months over your visa are 'mistakes'. Living and working illegally for 6 years is more than a 'mistake' its a blatant disregard for Canada's rule of law. Nobody is suggesting that he 'move on' they are pointing our their frustration at someone who has knowingly failed to adhere to the rules and regulations that we all follow and probably pay the price for in terms of longer wait times. I'll say it before and ill say it again its down to personal responsibility - we are all adults and therefore if you don't play by the rules you have to accept the consequences.

 

[dominokitty]

I think the biggest thing people missed is that, to my understanding, the original poster and her boyfriend have not been together for the full 6 years. He was illegal in Canada before they met and began a relationship which is what makes me feel so suspicious of it. She is still married to someone else and said that they have been living together for less than 2 years.

Additionally, it's just not that hard to follow the rules. Those who don't have to live with the consequences of their actions in my opinion - to say that people just get swept away in the circumstance and it's hard to say goodbye or do long distance... I honestly don't think that's an excuse. I made a choice to enter into an international long distance relationship knowing full well that to legally close the gap would require that we stick it out and do it properly. It's horrible living away from my husband, it hurts me every day especially as we are so eager to settle down together and start a family. But I do it because that's the law and we want to do it right. Long distance relationships are all about making good choices and planning for the future.

 

[Rob_TO]

Additionally, it's just not that hard to follow the rules.

True for most visa-exempt people. For people requiring special TRVs to have status in Canada, it is harder to get approved for visitor extensions.

So quite often people arrive in Canada legally, then exhaust their work permit, can't afford a study visa, and would be rejected for further TRV extensions (you can only request so many before CIC would think you're trying to "live" here). So the only 2 choices are to return back to home country, or stay illegally.

I agree though completely that it's no "mistake" when people overstay for such a long time, it's a personal choice. You can't expect to break the rules, then all of a sudden have Canada bend their policies or laws when it suddenly suits you.

 

[chipolopolo]

Thank you all for your opinions. Highly respect all your views. I hope they work it out, and learn from the past..happy new year..wish you all the best in 2015

 

[Mariac819]

well so are you guys suggesting that he just forgets about his pregnant girlfriend and move on? They are obviously trying to fix their mistake. But i guess this forum is full of perfect people who have made no wrong in their life. What he did was wrong by staying illegally, and working, but whats the way forward now? i was also apart from my wife , and son and my human part wouldnt want anyone to go through such. Hope it works out for them, of course using the right channels, and fixing their situation legally

Nope we are suggesting they just fill out the CIC forms like everyone else on here has and get their stuff straight.

 

[chipolopolo]

Nope we are suggesting they just fill out the CIC forms like everyone else on here has and get their stuff straight.

ummm thats what the original poster of the thread intends to do. However some people dont agree

 

[VioletBlue]

What do you mean by "He doesnt get PR, has toleave Canada and is not able to return" ???

There have been hundreds and probably thousands of people who for whatever reason are removed and deported even and are still able to return here legally...So even if the worst case scenario happens...its still not the End...you can always do Outland sponsorship if he is sent back which is Waaaay faster...

In any case, IF he wants to become legal in Canada and get PR as your spouse (or common-law partner), he is going to have to tell CIC.

The way I see it, he has three options:
- leave Canada and probably not be able to return
- marry you and be sponsored for Permanent Residency
- be sponsored for Permanent Residency as your common-law partner

In the last 2 cases there are 2 possible outcomes:
- he gets Permanent Residency and he is legal in Canada, no more problems
- he doesn't get Permanent Residency and he has to leave Canada and probably not be able to return

There is no way he can get legal status in Canada without involving CIC. The can of worms has to be opened, or you can keep it closed, he stays illegal and you hope and pray that nothing bad happens.

 

[AshleyAnne]

I''ve been beyond fortunate with my husband, he and his family paid for me to go to college in the States so that we could be together and see where we wanted our relationship to go. We have been together over 3 years now and living together 2.5. We have been in the States while I went to college (2,000$ a semester not counting books) We got married just this March and have been thinking about Canadian immigration for 2 years.

I have spent MONTHS just filing out forms, getting evidence and spending HOURS and more tears then I would like to admit trying to do everything legally. And here we sit. Waiting.

Our timeline is beyond short compared to most, and we are super lucky. But I COMPLETELY understand what the other user said about being guilted to work and feeling helpless not being able to help out. We've both been unemployed since March 2014 and have been living with my husbands parents. I know what it feels like to count your pennies and wince because even a minimum wage job would be a breath of fresh air.

I have however REFUSED multiple guilt trips, fights and arguments with others over my employment. I refuse to be an illegal worker and get caught and lose the chance to live with the love of my life. I'm 21 and capable of making responsible choices, no matter how hard they are. I miss my home and my family, I miss working, I miss having friends and family nearby. I miss a lot by being where I'm at and WAITING.
It makes me angry to know that my wait could be long from over and yet there are SO many people applying as illegals or for reasons that make little sense and slowing down so many of us who have worked really hard to get where we are at and getting responses faster than those of us following the rules.

My hubby's family went out of their way and has broken their backs trying to keep us together and help us out, my family has done the same because they know how much we need each other, I can't imagine the pain many people are going through without the graces we have had. I can't imagine a week without my husband, I send my strength to those of you who go months to years waiting to see your loves. <3

I hope you REALLY think this through. Marriage is a life long commitment, not one you make because you are pregnant.