May 2011

[ddobro2]

congrats, sthomas. That sure was fast. Happy homecoming.

Hi! How is everyone doing? I landed here in Canada last September 19 Everything went out smoothly Flight was good, no problem Immigration officers were really nice Overall, I had no problem going through all the immigration thing

The weather here is still nice, sunny and not yet cold. Around 19 degrees Celsius. So not bad, but good luck to me, winter is coming and I am living here in Saskatoon

Anyways, my only complain is my husband doesn't own a rice cooker, so I better buy one soon!!! Everytime we go to a store, I always forget to buy one

 

[eeeeeeeelectric]

Yay, st thomas! So happy it's finally over for you! Welcome home to you!!!

 

[dair2dv8103100]

CONGRATULATIONS St Thomas!!!

Welcome to Canada... ;D

 

[dair2dv8103100]

Well I had something interesting happen.

I got an email from ecas... said our status was updated.

It now says "We received (my husbands) application for permanent residence on August 9"

We started processing (my husbands) application for permanent residence on August 16"

So they actually started processing it a week after it arrived. So why does it take 6 months to hear from them???

I mean I am not complaining. I am glad to know someone has been assigned to it and is looking at it. But I did not think it would take 6 months to get a response when so many other people and places hear within weeks or couple of months.

Sigh... I guess I am just feeling impatient tonight after receiving the gifts that my husband sent home with my friends when they met up with him there. What a incredibly thoughtful man. Not only did he send my daughter a flute that he loved and had bought for himself initially (he found out she loves to play it)... he also sent her chop sticks because she loves sushi...LOL
And he sent me a mahogany jewelry box and a smaller one with a necklace in it... and his sister sent my daughter some jewelry too. I miss him so much...

 

[theachrissy]

Hi! How is everyone doing? I landed here in Canada last September 19 Everything went out smoothly Flight was good, no problem Immigration officers were really nice Overall, I had no problem going through all the immigration thing

The weather here is still nice, sunny and not yet cold. Around 19 degrees Celsius. So not bad, but good luck to me, winter is coming and I am living here in Saskatoon

Anyways, my only complain is my husband doesn't own a rice cooker, so I better buy one soon!!! Everytime we go to a store, I always forget to buy one

nice to hear from u. I like the rice cooker part... ;D ;D. hve a blessed life...

 

[Habibti]

So from the looks of things the 9 months they post for Rabat is not truly accurate (possibly)... because people whose applications where received in March are just having interviews now (6 months later) and are being told at the interview that they have to start security checks now and that will take 4 - 7 months.... hmmm I am not great in math but that is at least 10 months if my adding is correct and up to 13 months. The only figures that add up are the "if you are denied you will hear from us within 2 months"... so looks like I might be in for a longer wait than we originally anticipated. :'( :'( :'(

No..... security checks do not take 4 to 7 months. My husband was told (at the end of his interview on Sept. 12) 4 months only but two consultants in immigration told me it is faster than 4 months with Rabat. It could be within 2 months. So impossible the application takes up to 13 months to process By the way, I am with the March group.

 

[dair2dv8103100]

No..... security checks do not take 4 to 7 months. My husband was told (at the end of his interview on Sept. 12) 4 months only but two consultants in immigration told me it is faster than 4 months with Rabat. It could be within 2 months. So impossible the application takes up to 13 months to process By the way, I am with the March group.

Well that is good to know...

Things are not going so well for us right now... so I have to know how much time I have to make a decision about what I will do.

 

[Habibti]

Well that is good to know...

Things are not going so well for us right now... so I have to know how much time I have to make a decision about what I will do.

What decision are you talking about? It has been only 4 months since Rabat has your file... you have to wait 2 or 3 more months before hearing from them I guess.

 

[dair2dv8103100]

What decision are you talking about? It has been only 4 months since Rabat has your file... you have to wait 2 or 3 more months before hearing from them I guess.

I am having to decide whether to continue with sponsoring my husband or not. There are a lot of things going on between us... partly because of the length of time this takes and differences we have been discussing between life there and life here.

 

[ddobro2]

Dair....my unsolicited advice is to not cancel the sponsorship. Problems can be temporary. If you cancel it, and you later regret that decision, you will have to start from scratch. I think it's better to let the process run its course. You can always reevaluate whether you want to continue later. Sorry to hear you are having problems.

I am having to decide whether to continue with sponsoring my husband or not. There are a lot of things going on between us... partly because of the length of time this takes and differences we have been discussing between life there and life here.

 

[MandyUK]

I am having to decide whether to continue with sponsoring my husband or not. There are a lot of things going on between us... partly because of the length of time this takes and differences we have been discussing between life there and life here.

Dair I agree with ddobro2 , things are very hard during this process, even though we have been married 12 years we are feeling a strain of being apart, and that's what the problem is the being away from each other, we have had arguments over the phone that we would not have had if we were together, just the other day i got jealous of him being with his family and im here on my own, its our wedding anniversary this coming sunday and his family is having a party, not for our wedding anny but for his dad who's birthday is the day before, but they are having it on the sunday. i was so mad with him that he would be around people and enjoying the day, when i knew for a fact that was opposite to what he would be having. :'(

I too have considered the differences of being here in the UK to being there in Canada, I dont think there is anyone who has not thought of this at some point. It a major change in your life, and one that should not be taken lightly. I myself will leave my daughters and granchildren behind. something i do not relish, but I know that I want to be with my husband because he is my world, my children have grown and got their own lives now. Its time for us and Canada is where we both want to be.
Sometimes in life change is hard and staying is easier than leaving. Sometimes you just have to take a leap of faith.

 

[shamsia]

Well that is good to know...

Things are not going so well for us right now... so I have to know how much time I have to make a decision about what I will do.

I apologize to be butting in like this, but dair I have really enjoyed your comments on the other thread "last one to reply". You, along with ddobro & Mandy seem so full of life and positive, that reading this just makes me sad. Im sorry that you are going through this, and I really wish things get better with your husband

And just my two cents, a day before you were opening your husbands gifts and missing him so much and a few days later, you want to withdraw your application. Don't veer between the two extremes. Im sure you are a smart girl and will take the right decision. All the best

 

[ddobro2]

That's exactly what I wanted to say......how can things have gone wrong so fast? You were saying how your husband got you and your daughter the sweetest, most thoughtful gifts the other day. Don't you remember what it says is your signature? True love, you cross oceans for. Come on, we expect you to follow your own mantra!

And thanks Shamsia. You are too sweet. And MandyUK - I would have NEVER guessed you have grandchildren, haha As I said before, you are going through a lot right now and I commend you for your patience.

I apologize to be butting in like this, but dair I have really enjoyed your comments on the other thread "last one to reply". You, along with ddobro & Mandy seem so full of life and positive, that reading this just makes me sad. Im sorry that you are going through this, and I really wish things get better with your husband

And just my two cents, a day before you were opening your husbands gifts and missing him so much and a few days later, you want to withdraw your application. Don't veer between the two extremes. Im sure you are a smart girl and will take the right decision. All the best

 

[dair2dv8103100]

Thanks everyone...

Yes, I know it seems like 2 extremes...but the problems have been on my mind for much longer. After receiving the gifts it is that momentary high of emotion. But gifts are one thing...moving to another country a totally, completely different thing. I know he is a very generous, thoughtful man... but being that and living with someone from a different culture and lifestyle are also 2 very different things. These are the highs and lows I live with everyday because I am worried from all the stories I read here and other places.

The last couple of weeks have been bad for me and I realised that I stopped talking. So last night I forced myself to spit out all of it to him... hahahaha... there is no emote here for the expression on his face I think the closest I can come is :O .... lol

We had a long conversation about a lot of my concerns and I definitely feel alot better now. He helped to relieve some worries I had about his family. So at the end of the day... I feel better and I will continue my path... taking that leap of faith without being able to see the next step...

But I thank you all for your thoughts. It is very nice to have this forum and a group of strangers that can bond together over a common goal. You are all appreciated greatly!

 

[spicymum]

Thanks everyone...

Yes, I know it seems like 2 extremes...but the problems have been on my mind for much longer. After receiving the gifts it is that momentary high of emotion. But gifts are one thing...moving to another country a totally, completely different thing. I know he is a very generous, thoughtful man... but being that and living with someone from a different culture and lifestyle are also 2 very different things. These are the highs and lows I live with everyday because I am worried from all the stories I read here and other places.

The last couple of weeks have been bad for me and I realised that I stopped talking. So last night I forced myself to spit out all of it to him... hahahaha... there is no emote here for the expression on his face I think the closest I can come is :O .... lol

We had a long conversation about a lot of my concerns and I definitely feel alot better now. He helped to relieve some worries I had about his family. So at the end of the day... I feel better and I will continue my path... taking that leap of faith without being able to see the next step...

But I thank you all for your thoughts. It is very nice to have this forum and a group of strangers that can bond together over a common goal. You are all appreciated greatly!

Hi Dair. Hi ddobro2, theachrissy, ferrer29 ...Congrats sthomas and BritishBulldog.
I have been following conversations here (sorrta') but just not commenting. Just exhausted with this process, I cant bring myself to comment.

I just wanted to say to Dair - Hang in there, dear. As U can probably tell from some of the responses to Ur somewhat-surprising post, U guys are not the only ones having your relationship strained by this process. Infact, I believe it is sorta to be expected - the strain, ie. I guess what matters is that we are able to manage the stress in our different ways and pull through with smiles in the end.

I can say this for myself, if I knew that we would be put through this gruelling process, I would DEFINITELY have made some decisions differently. This too shall pass, though.