Jamgirl- let me be honest with you, as a (poorer class) Jamaican, it is literally told to us from we were small farrin is the promise land, everything is better, there is so much money, there is all the materialistic things you would want in life are in farrin. Farrin meaning UK, US and Canada. It is ingrained in us, that if you marry a fariner you will get papers, they will mind you etc etc . This attitude often unfortunatly affects legitimate love. It also can be percieved that way from others who arent J'can either. Straight up, even I feel it still. Sometimes me and my friends will be like yuh kno seh ah papers him ah look, or what not, but I also tend to look at the broad picture, like why is a 20 yr old man with a 49 yr old woman....lol yu understand. Reality is, people will always have that ignorant outlook, but dont let it get to you, take pride in the fact that YOU know what is what, YOU know your love is real, YOU guys both share that beautiful baby etc, so F dem.
You are not the only one. I never yet have sent my husband money. Not once. When he was making more $$ he used to send it to me, and I would have him send it in a male friend of mine name (just cuz he was able to collect it faster than I was) and this girl a few years ago literally traced me gone to bed about how I am minding my man in Jamaica instead of buying things for my kids, and all I could do was laugh. We were even talking about her the other day and my same male friend was like look how stupid she is, I seen it, collected it witness it first hand for myself how your husband sent money to you, and we dont know of ANYONE as J'cans that usually get money coming from yard. Assumption is a hell of a thing.
That being said I am still weary of SOME yardies that marry farriners, but instead of judge on a whole you have to look at the broad picture. It is too bad that some scammers ruin it for all the good. ya get mi?
