unfortunately that's how the system is....there's not much u can do just to wait
it's not abt hearts and feelings, when ppl work that's secondary....it's just policies that they have to respect....if they don't and they give u the visa when their supervisors thought they were not supposed to, they will loose their work....unfortunately going just to visit Ca while the spouse and in some cases children r there it's hard for them to believe....and it's hard to convince them otherwise (that u'll leave)....they might feel bad for our situations as we do, but they r just workers, not the gouverment....it's the system which needs to b changed...and yeah it also became so strict because as Amoss said, so many ppl cheated it in the past and the honest ppl suffer now cuz of that
u need to b hopefull
26 months is for 80% of the cases not everyone, 20% r done in less time etc....if u submitted a complete package, they will not ask for new documents and they will waive the interview it will b faster
and yeah meanwhile ur wife can visit u when ur son grows a little bigger and of course u can try to apply for visit visa again, with more proofs of ur ties with Pakistan....u never know
there r so many in this situation, with children who don't even remember their fathers, it's really
just hang in there!!