I think I have just been scared out of continuing with my relationship of 2+ years with my brazilian finance. We have been planning on getting married and living here. I read many examples of women who thought they were in a great relationship until the man arrives to Canada and abandons her. Yesterday I researched marriage fraud as my fiancé made mention of not wanting to get married Brazil, which I saw as a red flag. The thing is, I met his family, his church group, friends and co-workers. I do not appear to be a secret in his life. He seems to have a good life and good job with status ( and pension) in Brazil, so I do not see why he would give that all up for anything other than love. Still, I am very suspicious that he might be keeping a secret based on his strong desire to not get married in his home country, and now the whole relationship seems to be much too big of a risk for me. It is a sad day as I have either just realized I was being duped, and if I have not been duped, I have abandoned a perfectly sincere relationship for nothing.