Ex girlfriend, help

[almostthere1234]

Don't go down that path. It will end in bad places.

If you were in a married-like relationship, then they can and you should assume WILL find out. People in here have reported information being found through FB posts, etc. DO NOT LIE.

I don't have any social network (luckily) and neither the items you've sent
I don't really wanna disclose this information
If they ask i could say that she was my housemate, can't I?

 

[Ponga]

:-\

Whatever.

Why are you more concerned about your wife being mad about adding this information (that really is true) to your application?

You lived with your former partner for 5 YEARS!

 

[almostthere1234]

:-\

Whatever.

Why are you more concerned about your wife being mad about adding this information (that really is true) to your application?

You lived with your former partner for 5 YEARS!

I didn't understand your question

 

[Ponga]

I didn't understand your question

You are obviously more concerned about not upsetting your wife, than being truthful on your application.

While it's not likely that CIC would ever find out about it...what happens if they do?


Why jeopardize your entire PR application on something that is so ridiculous?!

 

[bigredmoose]

No one on here is going to tell you to lie or how to deceive the CIC. The right thing to do is to declare it. Anything else is the wrong thing and there could be severe consequences. It's as simple as that.

 

[almostthere1234]

You are obviously more concerned about not upsetting your wife, than being truthful on your application.

While it's not likely that CIC would ever find out about it...what happens if they do?


Why jeopardize your entire PR application on something that is so ridiculous?!

Can I be honest? Idk
I'm just trying to discover what to do. My wife has bipolar disorder and almost kill herself when she just ask me her name once.
I'm really scared
That's why I'm asking if cic can discover
What do you really think?

 

[Ponga]

No one on here is going to tell you to lie or how to deceive the CIC. The right thing to do is to declare it. Anything else is the wrong thing and there could be severe consequences. It's as simple as that.

Exactly!

+ 1

 

[jamali]

omg I cant figure a way for them to discover it
its only be possible by documents or bank accounts right?

Can you absolutely sure that your ex did not declare you as common-law somewhere somehow during your relationship? Like others say, anything is possible so it's best to be 100% honest. Otherwise getting caught for misrepresentation can end in a 5 year ban.

 

[Ponga]

Can I be honest? Idk
I'm just trying to discover what to do. My wife has bipolar disorder and almost kill herself when she just ask me her name once.
I'm really scared
That's why I'm asking if cic can discover
What do you really think?

Oh man...if just the mere mention of your ex's name is enough for her to contemplate suicide...you might want to talk to someone that can REALLY help you both!

 

[bigredmoose]

Exactly!

+ 1

Hahahaha I gave you a +1 for the "your wife is the boss" comment!

 

[almostthere1234]

Can you absolutely sure that your ex did not declare you as common-law somewhere somehow during your relationship? Like others say, anything is possible so it's best to be 100% honest. Otherwise getting caught for misrepresentation can end in a 5 year ban.

Yes I'm 100% sure of it
I know you guys are trying to help me
but please, "off forum", tell me your toughts
I'm really scared about what my wife can do. She's visiting the psych nowadays and I don't wanna make a mess on her treatment

 

[sammystorm19]

Yes I'm 100% sure of it
I know you guys are trying to help me
but please, "off forum", tell me your toughts
I'm really scared about what my wife can do. She's visiting the psych nowadays and I don't wanna make a mess on her treatment

You've asked what you should do and have received an answer from more than 1 person. It's up to you as to what you do. We can't make up your mind for you. You were in a legal common law relationship and CUC has ways of finding things out. So if you don't want to let them know about this and risk getting a 5 year ban then do so. You want an honest answer And you've received them. Why risk not being able to be with your current wife????

 

[jamsham12]

I think you married the wrong chick, if she is more worried about you declaring the name of your ex on your application then the problems it might cause if this information is left out like the others have stated, you might wanna to take a step back and ask yourself if this is someone you want to be with for the rest of your life let alone sponsor to come to Canada. She sounds crazy as fck.......

 

[almostthere1234]

You've asked what you should do and have received an answer from more than 1 person. It's up to you as to what you do. We can't make up your mind for you. You were in a legal common law relationship and CUC has ways of finding things out. So if you don't want to let them know about this and risk getting a 5 year ban then do so. You want an honest answer And you've received them. Why risk not being able to be with your current wife????

Yes and I'm thankful for all the answers.
I was just trying to understand how CIC could discover some like that if we'd never had a single bill togheter, not even the rental (her mother used to pay for us and my name was not included).

 

[Amalthea]

Can I be honest? Idk
I'm just trying to discover what to do. My wife has bipolar disorder and almost kill herself when she just ask me her name once.
I'm really scared
That's why I'm asking if cic can discover
What do you really think?

Hey, take a deep breath. It's not worth jeopardizing your application to appease your wife, but at the same time you don't want to trigger her into an episode. I encourage you both to seek professional help, and to ask their advice on how to approach your wife with the importance of declaring your past on your application.

If you don't declare it and they discover it, you will be guilty of falsifying information and failing to provide accurate information, and they will not hesitate to bin your application. If you're applying Inland, then that's the end of the line - no appeals.

If your wife is struggling right now, her therapist/psychiatrist/mental health professional would be the person to talk to about this. When it would be appropriate to bring it up to her. Or, you could each fill out your own application and she doesn't need to see yours. She knows this is part of your past and it's not a secret. I'm not going to tell her to "get over it" because she is obviously suffering from serious mental health issues, but you really need to speak to a mental health professional about this situation. You need to declare your past on your application, as your partner was common law. However, you don't want to sacrifice your partner's health in the meantime. Wait until she's stable enough, and then apply. Or fill them out independently. Regardless, please seek professional help immediately.

Threatening suicide is not only a cry for help, but it can also be a very terrible and manipulative form of emotional abuse. Are you safe? Please, please, seek a professional counselor or therapist out. You need support, too, friend - not just her. Best of luck.