almostthere1234 said:
Can I be honest? Idk
I'm just trying to discover what to do. My wife has bipolar disorder and almost kill herself when she just ask me her name once.
I'm really scared
That's why I'm asking if cic can discover
What do you really think?
Hey, take a deep breath. It's not worth jeopardizing your application to appease your wife, but at the same time you don't want to trigger her into an episode. I encourage you both to seek professional help, and to ask their advice on how to approach your wife with the importance of declaring your past on your application.
If you don't declare it and they discover it, you will be guilty of falsifying information and failing to provide accurate information, and they will not hesitate to bin your application. If you're applying Inland, then that's the end of the line - no appeals.
If your wife is struggling right now, her therapist/psychiatrist/mental health professional would be the person to talk to about this. When it would be appropriate to bring it up to her. Or, you could each fill out your own application and she doesn't need to see yours. She knows this is part of your past and it's not a secret. I'm not going to tell her to "get over it" because she is obviously suffering from serious mental health issues, but you really need to speak to a mental health professional about this situation. You need to declare your past on your application, as your partner was common law. However, you don't want to sacrifice your partner's health in the meantime. Wait until she's stable enough, and then apply. Or fill them out independently. Regardless, please seek professional help immediately.
Threatening suicide is not only a cry for help, but it can also be a very terrible and manipulative form of emotional abuse. Are you safe? Please, please, seek a professional counselor or therapist out. You need support, too, friend - not just her. Best of luck.