Just don't lose your patience and keep positive. There can be other parameters in the way of processing the delayed applications, like for instance the individual officers personality etc. It is very sad that there is no guarantee to have a decision by the approximate 8-9 months. I haven't seen my husband for 9 months now. Enquiries, as I have observed, involve some sort of non-template reply from someone at the office. Sometimes they reply with helpful comments, sometimes the complete nonsense. I have no idea about what is better to do, and definitely can't be understanding enough in this difficult time for you, but just don't take any decision in rush.