Age Difference

[aerogurl87]

Bulls**t

My wife is young enough to be my daughter, (17 year difference), and we have plenty in common. Thankfully she's sponsoring me so we don't have to deal with nearly as much hassle over it as we would if the ages were reversed.

It may surprise you but it's quite possible to have similar tastes in entertainment and hobbies despite an age gap. Of course there's differences but we have a wide overlap in our tastes in music and movies enough tolerance of each other's tastes to deal with our difference. We go to plenty of concerts together, I'm not going to complain if she goes with friends to see some rapper for example.

And when it comes to one's core beliefs, (ethics, religion, politics, etc), you believe what you believe regardless of age. One can be religious or not, have conservative or liberal political views, etc regardless of their age. Whether or not you share those beliefs is not related to your age. And I particularly find "What do they plan to do regarding starting a family?" annoying. Has it never occurred to you that there are plenty of couples, (of all ages), who don't want to start a family?

So you still don't think those are legitimate questions to be wondering about? By the way, I don't consider 17 years to be as big of an age difference as say 30 years. I dated someone who was 15 years older than me once. And looking back on it, we were in two very different stages in life. He was a great guy, but I was 19 and still figuring out life, while he was established and ready to settle down. So my questions come from personal experience, not some preconceived notion. Also, as many couples as there are that don't want children, there are those that do. So the questions are still valid, whether you choose to acknowledge them or not.

 

[Ttcdfolk]

My husband and his ex-wife were 16 years apart in age, her being the senior. They played WOW together.

No wonder they got divorced instead of playing World of Warcrack, they figured out that one day they would have to join the real, and the ex-wife wasn't a beautiful Night Elf at all.

 

[tuyen]

My biological clock went off 5 years ago - I remember the exact moment down to what I was doing.

I still want nothing to do with children.

Yeah but when did you decide you don't want children? Was it way before your biological clock played any role at all? Or just very recently?

 

[amikety]

Yeah but when did you decide you don't want children? Was it way before your biological clock played any role at all? Or just very recently?

It was before I met my ex-husband, so by the time I was 20. Hasn't changed, even when the clock went off. There are a couple of factors - such as I don't like babies... most women love babies... I think they're ugly, whiny, and annoying. Kids don't work for me financially, emotionally, or practically.

 

[Shiny88]

It was before I met my ex-husband, so by the time I was 20. Hasn't changed, even when the clock went off. There are a couple of factors - such as I don't like babies... most women love babies... I think they're ugly, whiny, and annoying. Kids don't work for me financially, emotionally, or practically.

:-X i understand some people dont like babies but u really think theyre ugly? http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xt5eni_adorable-twins-dance-to-guitar_fun

 

[aerogurl87]

It was before I met my ex-husband, so by the time I was 20. Hasn't changed, even when the clock went off. There are a couple of factors - such as I don't like babies... most women love babies... I think they're ugly, whiny, and annoying. Kids don't work for me financially, emotionally, or practically.

Haha, so true. When babies first come out they are not cute at all. They look like little bloody aliens to me. I didn't want children myself, until my first nephew was born. Had it not been for him, I still probably wouldn't want any. Him and my other nephew are the only children who have made my maternal instinct come out.

 

[messenger]

Do not worry about age difference, you have all pics, documentation of your wedding and the most important is that is legit, just be yourself answeer the questions and so. I am 28.5yrs older than my wife, I sopnsored here from Nicaragua, she landed on Sept 2011. I send all papers for application and aproval on February 2011.

Hi to all

Also me and my spouse have 29 years difference. I am the sponsor (husband common law). i do not feel that we have something against us. As long as we can prove our relationship that is now 5 years old then all will be ok.
And YES we both want to have children. She was pregnant last summer (10 weeks) but she suffered a miscarriage. After January we are to try again.
Canada does not hold prejudice against couples with age difference!

 

[JimM]

My biological clock went off 5 years ago - I remember the exact moment down to what I was doing.

I still want nothing to do with children.

Might have something to do with being used as a live in babysitter by my parents............. I have a cat and I'm happy.

Some people just never want kids. I've known my wife over ten years and she's never wanted kids, she's past 30 now and and still has zero interest in motherhood. Which is fine with me, the two I have from my first marrige are more than enough

 

[Rob_TO]

I agree that there's no general right to immigrate. But in my view, there is a right to family reunification. How can you have a right to found a family with the person of your choosing if the family can't be together in either of the two people's countries?

I'm not arguing that the right should be absolute, in cases of serious criminality, etc. But I feel any humane society must ethically allow families to be together.

That is exactly how it works. If it's a genuine relationship and the person wanting to immigrate doesn't have a criminal background or serious medical condition, then you would be welcomed to Canada.

However its an absolute fact that some people abuse the system and try to immigrate here with fraudulent marriages. So obviously there must be some due diligence by Canada, and they can't just accept someones word that a relationship is genuine. And no matter their best efforts, there will always be frauds getting through, and genuine couples denied. Just goes with the territory... you can't do it perfect with no wrong choices on either side.

You say that an interview does not constitute discrimination even if the reason you're getting it is because of your or your partner's age, race, religion, etc. An interview constitutes unfavourable treatment in this case - you are being subjected to scrutiny other people aren't on the basis of your race, age, etc.

Sorry but you are not even close. Again an interview is part of the immigration process, all the info and policies on potentially having an interview are all clearly stated and EVERYONE who submits an app is declaring they are willing to go to an interview for whatever reason. Now in lots of cases, the VO choose to waive this interview. But because someone actually does an interview, for whatever reason, is in no way even near discrimination. Rather... you should think of it like lots of couples that have extra-strong applications are lucky enough to have their interview waived. It is up to the VO to, for whatever reason they possibly want, have the interview or not.

Now as i said if after an interview your application was refused ONLY on the basis of age-difference and nothing more, THAT would be discrimination.

 

[JimM]

So you still don't think those are legitimate questions to be wondering about? By the way, I don't consider 17 years to be as big of an age difference as say 30 years. I dated someone who was 15 years older than me once. And looking back on it, we were in two very different stages in life. He was a great guy, but I was 19 and still figuring out life, while he was established and ready to settle down. So my questions come from personal experience, not some preconceived notion. Also, as many couples as there are that don't want children, there are those that do. So the questions are still valid, whether you choose to acknowledge them or not.

In and of themselves, no I don't. The proofs a couple submits should show common interests, we didn't have a lot of pictures but what we did was from a variety of things such as concerts, sporting events, a museum, things that showed several shared interests. Some others were also touched on the development of relationship essay. Now if neither of these indicated much in common, then yes I would wonder about it as well, but short of that no.

I might also give some consideration to how they met and how long they'd known each other. In my case I first crossed paths with my wife on line when she was 18, (we frequented the same IRC channel), but were just online friends for several years before meeting while she was on vacation, (she wanted to see Niagara Falls which is up the road from me), and falling for each other then. I'd think in a situation like that it would be obvious there must be a fair amount in common.

And yes, I know lots of couples do want a family, but I wouldn't assume they do. Indeed, I'd be inclined to assume the opposite in the case of a couple with a large age difference.

 

[sunsun]

Happywife08.....just apply and no need to ask us about age difference , if you have any questions about your applications you can ask in here....there are seniors can answer it.....

 

[ekaterina1984]

I've dated girls older than me, and younger than me...so I'm very well versed in age differences when it comes to relationships. But 28 years? At that point, aside from both needing food and water to live, what else do you have in common that would be substantial enough on which to base a marriage?
1.a baby together (I'm pregnant)
2.trust
3.care
4.respect
5.kindness
these simple things we need and our true love based on it . I have never thought that someone would control my destiny my life and my husband's life . I mean canadian goverment or visa officer. nevr thought that I would prove to people who dont' know me at all either my husband that our marriage is not fake.




Do you think it might have anything to do with the fact that there's an entire industry based on Russian "mail order" brides?
I'm a former USSR STATE I think it would be considered like as an immigration purpose '' a free ticket to get out of a country'' that's all I meant.

 

[ekaterina1984]

an enormouse age difference is discrimination ?!
but the same sex relationship sponsorship is not discrimination
IT'S NORMAL IT'S OK , IT'S GOOD , IT'S CRAZY !!! IF Canadian goverment allows the same sex marriage,sponsorship and it's not discrimination. why the large age difference is red flag then ?

 

[messenger]

an enormouse age difference is discrimination ?!
but the same sex relationship sponsorship is not discrimination
IT'S NORMAL IT'S OK , IT'S GOOD , IT'S CRAZY !!! IF Canadian goverment allows the same sex marriage,sponsorship and it's not discrimination. why the large age difference is red flag then ?

You are so right ekaterina1984
As I wrote above I am also with a big age difference from my spouse 29 years. People here are right in some way of not understanding this. I used to be like this 5 years ago. I criticized and never understood what brought people with such a vast age difference together. For the first coupe of years of my relationship I felt the same even for my self. Now I know what it is and since I have stopped fighting with my self. Its Love, understanding one another, friendship and many more. God (or nature) provides that two people one young and the other older to come together and live a happy life.
My spouse for example it seems she is growing a lot faster than I did when I was her age. I never tried to influence her in any way but even the same age friends she used to have she replaced them with more mature friends. When it comes to activities I am usually the one to provoke while she is more passive at living to the foulest of her age.
Now if God helps us to have a baby (we lost one in the last summer by miscarriage) then we will have all we ever want from life.

Happy New Year to all and good luck with your applications
messenger

 

[amikety]

an enormouse age difference is discrimination ?!
but the same sex relationship sponsorship is not discrimination
IT'S NORMAL IT'S OK , IT'S GOOD , IT'S CRAZY !!! IF Canadian goverment allows the same sex marriage,sponsorship and it's not discrimination. why the large age difference is red flag then ?

And why exactly does a same sex relationship deserve more scrutiny?