Too much detail for the relationship development between my spouse and 1?

[claudiakee]

Hello Everyone,
I was trying to write a description about how my sponsor and I's relationship developed after our first meeting. (Question 9, IMM5490E, Spouse questionnaire)

Since my husband and I had been in a 2.5 years relationship before we got married. The description I wrote ended up to be almost 2 pages long in microsoft word. I had even included a kiss in it as it is how we started our relationship. If I am to add pictures and evidence, that would add up to almost 12-14 pages. (10 of the page are pictures) for one question alone.
I am just wondering Am i revealing too much detail on the question and Am I giving away too many pictures?
I just want to make sure the people from the Immigration office can see that we have a genuine relationship.

I would like to ask any of you who had the experience to share with me how you did it.
Thanks for reading and Good luck in the paper work!!

regards,
Claudia

 

[balibali]

Hello Everyone,
I was trying to write a description about how my sponsor and I's relationship developed after our first meeting. (Question 9, IMM5490E, Spouse questionnaire)

Since my husband and I had been in a 2.5 years relationship before we got married. The description I wrote ended up to be almost 2 pages long in microsoft word. I had even included a kiss in it as it is how we started our relationship. If I am to add pictures and evidence, that would add up to almost 12-14 pages. (10 of the page are pictures) for one question alone.
I am just wondering Am i revealing too much detail on the question and Am I giving away too many pictures?
I just want to make sure the people from the Immigration office can see that we have a genuine relationship.

I would like to ask any of you who had the experience to share with me how you did it.
Thanks for reading and Good luck in the paper work!!

regards,
Claudia

Dont do it too much otherwise it looks scripted i guess.
thats what i think, nobody really knows what they want to see.
In my opinion, write moderately and be lavish on the solid proofs.
"Lavish" doesnt mean u send them 5 angles of the same picture. 2 - 3 pictures of a certain location/ outing is enough i guess.

 

[*AFREEN*]

It's asking you how your relaionship started. How you met him, where etc... You can add for example how u were feeling or he was feeling when u guys met. Hope you don't mind but about a kiss on the paper makes it more like it's not genuine. It will be too much. You don't have to send a album full of pictures. Pictures of ur first meeting, dates, some engagement, some wedding, or ruksati ( I hope i said this word right ) shopping together and some other pics will be fine.

 

[claudiakee]

It's asking you how your relaionship started. How you met him, where etc... You can add for example how u were feeling or he was feeling when u guys met. Hope you don't mind but about a kiss on the paper makes it more like it's not genuine. It will be too much. You don't have to send a album full of pictures. Pictures of ur first meeting, dates, some engagement, some wedding, or ruksati ( I hope i said this word right ) shopping together and some other pics will be fine.

Thank you very much for replying so fast! So does that mean it is better for me skip the some critical periods in our relationship, say how we first developed feelings for each other, how did we officially become boyfriends and girlfriends, etc.

I am just confused about should I approach in a more personal way or should I write in a third-person, more objective way.

 

[balibali]

Not third person, Write in ur own words.
u fill up ur form, ur spouse fills up their form. just make sure the stories dont contradict.
emotions on paper dont work too well i suppose.
Stick to facts and minimal emotional expanation. do it only where u think is very very important.
i think u shud not put kisses etc in there.

 

[claudiakee]

Not third person, Write in ur own words.
u fill up ur form, ur spouse fills up their form. just make sure the stories dont contradict.
emotions on paper dont work too well i suppose.
Stick to facts and minimal emotional expanation. do it only where u think is very very important.
i think u shud not put kisses etc in there.

Thank you!

 

[aerogurl87]

Dont do it too much otherwise it looks scripted i guess.
thats what i think, nobody really knows what they want to see.
In my opinion, write moderately and be lavish on the solid proofs.
"Lavish" doesnt mean u send them 5 angles of the same picture. 2 - 3 pictures of a certain location/ outing is enough i guess.

I agree with this. For that question I first answered with about a half page summary of how our relationship developed from the first time we met in person, up until when I moved to Canada to be with my boyfriend to live as his common law spouse. Then I followed that up with three main point summary paragraphs entitled: travel evidence, financial evidence, and residential living evidence. I then got straight to the point of explaining how we have been able to accomplish almost all of the things that immigration is looking for in a relationship in those three categories. I also put in references to pictures and documents that pertained to each event beside whatever I was talking about. So for instance when I said we went to a wedding together, I told the immigration officer to see the pictures of us at the wedding with his family and friends that was located on page 6. Hope this helps.

 

[locolynn]

I have to respectfully disagree with the above posters. I think you should write from your heart and include everything YOU think is valid. Don't write it trying to prove genuine-ness. IO's know horse crap when they see it. So if you are planning to flourish with."when he typed a winking smiley face I knew we were destined to be together"...then probably it ain't going to fly. Be honest and truthful and the IO's will sense.

Also I totally think you should keep the emotion in!!! If I read a fact based account void of any true feelings...I'd be suspicious. Keep it real!!

As for pictures I agree: include relevant photos - skip multiple angles of the same shot. Be sure to include any that include you, your spouse and any family or friends!!

Good luck!

Lynn

 

[*AFREEN*]

Thank you very much for replying so fast! So does that mean it is better for me skip the some critical periods in our relationship, say how we first developed feelings for each other, how did we officially become boyfriends and girlfriends, etc.

I am just confused about should I approach in a more personal way or should I write in a third-person, more objective way.

your welcome sweetie,

I know how ur feeling. Well before sending in my papers I have atleast visited 3 lawyers. Sounds funny but I did. Anyways this question is asking you how your relationship started. If ur pakistani aapke relationship ke shuru waqt poch rahai hai. they are asking where did u meet him in the airport, in a restaurant where? For an example I'm answer this question I would say My husband and I met threw a good friend of mine. She had told him all about me. My husband wanted to meet me in person. On _____ date My husband ______ ( his name ) called me and asked me out for dinner. I accepted it. So on ______ ( Date ) in ___ ( restaurant ) I went to met him. I was so excited and whatever whatever. the story goes on. Make sure you don't use too much of My spouse. Use my husband more. It means the same but it makes a difference to them. Make sure when ur answering all ur question it has to be neat, well said and very clear. Write the dates and places also. Some people write it in such a way when the immigration officer reads it he/she gets confused and decides to fix a date for interview. It it will be clear the chances will be less.

 

[aerogurl87]

I have to respectfully disagree with the above posters. I think you should write from your heart and include everything YOU think is valid. Don't write it trying to prove genuine-ness. IO's know horse crap when they see it. So if you are planning to flourish with."when he typed a winking smiley face I knew we were destined to be together"...then probably it ain't going to fly. Be honest and truthful and the IO's will sense.

Also I totally think you should keep the emotion in!!! If I read a fact based account void of any true feelings...I'd be suspicious. Keep it real!!

As for pictures I agree: include relevant photos - skip multiple angles of the same shot. Be sure to include any that include you, your spouse and any family or friends!!

Good luck!

Lynn

I think including emotion is good, but not too much. I mean yeah it's good to show you have an emotional attachment to your partner, but I don't think the IO will want to read a two page summary of your first kiss with a complete play by play of the whole event. For me I did include emotion in my additional evidence letter and in the answer to question 6 of the sponsored spouse questionnaire, which asks about your first meeting with your sponsor. But for the question asking us for documented evidence, I just stuck to the facts.

 

[*AFREEN*]

I have to respectfully disagree with the above posters. I think you should write from your heart and include everything YOU think is valid. Don't write it trying to prove genuine-ness. IO's know horse crap when they see it. So if you are planning to flourish with."when he typed a winking smiley face I knew we were destined to be together"...then probably it ain't going to fly. Be honest and truthful and the IO's will sense.

Also I totally think you should keep the emotion in!!! If I read a fact based account void of any true feelings...I'd be suspicious. Keep it real!!

As for pictures I agree: include relevant photos - skip multiple angles of the same shot. Be sure to include any that include you, your spouse and any family or friends!!

Good luck!

Lynn

I understand what ur saying but I don't agree by write with ur heart. They want to know how the relationship developed. How can she use emotions while answering a question?
I'm not saying she should not use emotion but everything has it's on place. for answering proof of marriage genuine she can then use her emotions as much as she wants.
Too much emotions are also not good keep in mind.

 

[claudiakee]

Thank you so much everyone. I am now more cleared about what I should do and I just altered the descriptions for bit and would like to guy to see part of it and give me some feed back. Thanks!

I have to mention one point before I show it tho, as I am not sure if that could cause a conflict of interest.
I am currently a international student in Canada and I have been studying in Canada for 1.5 years. I am concerned that the IO would think that I am getting married so that my tuition fee can be reduced. So how should I avoid that implication but at the same time tell them our story?

Please take a look below for part of my description and leave comments, thanks! ( here, I used Alex as my husband's name)

The Long-distance relationship has helped us understand how much we love and how much we need each other. We arranged trips to visit each other during our breaks at work or school. Every time we are together, we have dinners with our families, going out with each other's friends and visiting new places. We fell more deeply in love in the process as we had found so much compatibility in terms of our personality, attitudes and values. Although we are only at our early Twenties, we were both sure that we are the one for each other and are committed to each other for the rest of our lives.

So after a discussion with my parents, I have decided to go to Canada in December 2009 to visit Alex and at the same time, look for studying opportunities in Canada. In January 2010, I finally found a suitable school to study and started the application. Afterwards, I went back to my home country on March 2010 to apply for my Canadian study permit. Later in April, Alex came to my home country to be with me and He proposed to me on 5 May 2010. He proposed in front of my parents and promised my parents and I to take good care of me. Both my parent and I were very touched and our love has been stronger than ever.

 

[locolynn]

Too much emotions are also not good keep in mind.

Says who? ;D

I think if it's in keeping with the OP's personality, she should write the truth about her feelings at the time and record all the moments that she feels are relevant to the development of her relationship.

There isn't one right way to fill out the forms. Each form will reflect the applicants and their specific relationship. Trying to fit YOUR relationship into what you perceive the IO's are looking for is a sure fire lose.

But that is just my humble opinion!

Lynn

 

[claudiakee]

Says who? ;D

I think if it's in keeping with the OP's personality, she should write the truth about her feelings at the time and record all the moments that she feels are relevant to the development of her relationship.

There isn't one right way to fill out the forms. Each form will reflect the applicants and their specific relationship. Trying to fit YOUR relationship into what you perceive the IO's are looking for is a sure fire lose.

But that is just my humble opinion!

Lynn

Well said! Thank you very much Lynn, do u mind reading part of my description and leave some comments too? Thanks again!

 

[locolynn]

Well said! Thank you very much Lynn, do u mind reading part of my description and leave some comments too? Thanks again!

I think it looks great! The only question I have is (and it might be clear in your actual application)

Did you go to school to study and meet alex? Or did you meet Alex and then decide to study in Canada?

Lynn