Too much detail for the relationship development between my spouse and 1?

[mirjahan]

Just answered all Ws it will be. I hope you understand all Ws and H.

 

[sidkrose]

I guess the OP got the answer they needed, but I thought I'd add my two cents. Our answer to that question was over 25 pgs and included all the photos we submitted (over 50). However, we did not reiterate any info in that document elsewhere in the application. The tone was formal and specific, but written in first person. Some people include "relationship essays" in addition to this question, but we felt that a thorough answer to this question would remove the need for that. Just my two cents.

 

[claudiakee]

I think it looks great! The only question I have is (and it might be clear in your actual application)

Did you go to school to study and meet alex? Or did you meet Alex and then decide to study in Canada?

Lynn

Thank you very much Lynn!!!
I met Alex before i decide to go to Canada to Study. We were already in a long distance relationship before I study in Canada.

 

[claudiakee]

I guess the OP got the answer they needed, but I thought I'd add my two cents. Our answer to that question was over 25 pgs and included all the photos we submitted (over 50). However, we did not reiterate any info in that document elsewhere in the application. The tone was formal and specific, but written in first person. Some people include "relationship essays" in addition to this question, but we felt that a thorough answer to this question would remove the need for that. Just my two cents.

Thank you for sharing!!!

 

[locolynn]

Thank you very much Lynn!!!
I met Alex before i decide to go to Canada to Study. We were already in a long distance relationship before I study in Canada.

Well I think that answers your concern about the cheap tuition...you are studying in Canada - at great expense to yourself - in order to pursue your relationship. If it weren't for said relationship you wouldn't even be studying in Canada. Are you applying spouse or common law?

 

[claudiakee]

Well I think that answers your concern about the cheap tuition...you are studying in Canada - at great expense to yourself - in order to pursue your relationship. If it weren't for said relationship you wouldn't even be studying in Canada. Are you applying spouse or common law?

i am applying for Spouse. The thing is, the money thing is one of the many concerns that my husband and I have. If our finance can be eased in terms of my international tuition. Getting on with life would be easier for us too as we can aside more money for our house, daily expense, car expense, etc.

 

[missmini]

I guess the OP got the answer they needed, but I thought I'd add my two cents. Our answer to that question was over 25 pgs and included all the photos we submitted (over 50). However, we did not reiterate any info in that document elsewhere in the application. The tone was formal and specific, but written in first person. Some people include "relationship essays" in addition to this question, but we felt that a thorough answer to this question would remove the need for that. Just my two cents.

i second sidkrose and locolynn, first of all u need to write about feelings, they need to see how u started from all points of view and where u r now, what u accomplished together; i don't want to offend anyone, but having a spouse/partner is about feelings otherwise how will the officer see u r genuine - from ur words + proofs (including romantic letters, cards - not a lot, just as an example, the older the better)
while explaining make sure u go through all proofs u have including the photos but without repeating urself; make sure any info u give, u give it once, same for the proofs; if u have things not related to the relationship history or other extra proofs u find useful then add a few paragraphs as extra details and refer to those proofs too
we wrote either as first person singular or plural, formal and to the point; my letter about the relationship (the sponsor) is abt 10 pages and his answers to all questions together abt 10 pages too; our relationship passed through many different stages (online, visiting, actually being together, working together, etc etc) and we both thought it's important to be mentioned - otherwise how will they understand each specific situation?

each relationship is different; it's also based on culture and many others that's why other members might have suggested otherwise; but i noticed the experience of some members who got approved very fast and for me it looked that it happened just because they gave enough proof/answered any question possible from the beginning; good luck!

 

[missmini]

Says who? ;D

I think if it's in keeping with the OP's personality, she should write the truth about her feelings at the time and record all the moments that she feels are relevant to the development of her relationship.

There isn't one right way to fill out the forms. Each form will reflect the applicants and their specific relationship. Trying to fit YOUR relationship into what you perceive the IO's are looking for is a sure fire lose.

But that is just my humble opinion!

Lynn

looool good point, we don't FIT at all with the "normal standard relationship" guide many couples have here in this part of the world :-X the most important is to be yourself, be honest and answer as the events happened not as u think they would like to read; cuz at the end, no lawyer in the world knows exactly what's in an officer's mind when he starts to process you;

claudia, what u wrote it's very nice, i would leave it as it is; if ur sponsor also writes similar in his essay in his own words it's even better; the part u said u r similar in personality, values, attitudes, i would develop it even more with some concrete examples; or make sure they could see it from the rest of the essay; good luck, this is the hard part, putting it in words!! (which u would have to do it anyway in case of an interview and that will b even more stressful)

 

[Hauser]

one picture is worth more to them than 10.000 words.
And one money transfer is worth more than 100 pictures.

 

[AllisonVSC]

one picture is worth more to them than 10.000 words.
And one money transfer is worth more than 100 pictures.

I think that depends on whom is sending money to whom and for what reason, but showing an interdependent financial relationship is one of the four "interdependencies" described as characteristic of conjugal relationships in the OP 2 manual.

 

[locolynn]

I think that depends on whom is sending money to whom and for what reason, but showing an interdependent financial relationship is one of the four "interdependencies" described as characteristic of conjugal relationships in the OP 2 manual.

Exactly. At our visa office - me sending my husband regular money would be seen a big minus. big. minus.

Lynn

 

[scylla]

Exactly. At our visa office - me sending my husband regular money would be seen a big minus. big. minus.

Lynn

I was about to say the same thing. For some visa offices, regular money transfers would raise suspicions that the relationship is a MOC.

 

[pelipeli]

I also want to give some input, just finished putting together our package so I'm still pretty hyped over it ;D

I agree with those who say that putting your emotions in your application is also important. They have asked for it, saying :"provide any additional details of your current relationship that you believe would help to prove your relationship is genuine and continuing" so what better way to prove your genuine rel'p (aside form all the photos and emails and stuff) other than to talk about your relationship, how you started, your future plans, and how can you talk about your relationship with your spouse without getting some emotions and feelings involved? HOWEVER.. You should also know how to balance it because too much emotion isn't good either, don't make it sound like a romantic novel, Don't exaggerate. It may come off as "scripted" or "fake".

Personally, we did involve some emotions especially in the essay, we couldn't help it! We talked about what we love about each other, how we fell in love, how I felt converting to his religion, etc. I even included how many kids we want and the name that we want for our first child (shows you have concrete plans for the future)

Some additional details for what we did:

For the spouse questionnaire, my hubby typed an 8 page answer to Q#9 (development of relationship) then attached 28 pages of evidences (photos, scanned, docs) pertaining to trips taken together, photos of family occasions we were both in, photos of our dinner/ movie dates (to show stuff we love doing together) . Photos of wedding and reception were also attached to answer q#15 and q#18. Some(but not all) photos attached to spouse questionnaire may have been repeated in the proof of relationship(POR) since our photo set in the POR is arranged by year of occurrence (as opposed to spouse questionnaire where it was arranged by event)

We also typed our separate relationship essay (as asked, but not required, in both sponsor and spouse questionnaire), 5 pages for hubby's and 8 pages for me. Both were done in first person point of view coz we did it separately. However, in the POR, captions and narrations were done in 3rd person point of view because hubby and I both did it and it gets kind of confusing as to is speaking if we use the first person, especially when referring to whose relatives or friends are in the photos with us. But I provided an explanation for this =)

 

[fernendez]

The VO is only interested in a real relationship.

 

[pelipeli]

Please take a look below for part of my description and leave comments, thanks! ( here, I used Alex as my husband's name)

The Long-distance relationship has helped us understand how much we love and how much we need each other. We arranged trips to visit each other during our breaks at work or school. Every time we are together, we have dinners with our families, going out with each other's friends and visiting new places. We fell more deeply in love in the process as we had found so much compatibility in terms of our personality, attitudes and values. Although we are only at our early Twenties, we were both sure that we are the one for each other and are committed to each other for the rest of our lives.

So after a discussion with my parents, I have decided to go to Canada in December 2009 to visit Alex and at the same time, look for studying opportunities in Canada. In January 2010, I finally found a suitable school to study and started the application. Afterwards, I went back to my home country on March 2010 to apply for my Canadian study permit. Later in April, Alex came to my home country to be with me and He proposed to me on 5 May 2010. He proposed in front of my parents and promised my parents and I to take good care of me. Both my parent and I were very touched and our love has been stronger than ever.

Perfect its great! facts + what u feel about those facts.