on-hold said:Figure out early what you think about things like the dowry, and try living in her village and see if you like it or not. I love Thai village life, but a lot of people hate it. Also, Thai is VERY easy to learn, it just requires an initial input because everything is so different -- 4 months of hard work, pay attention to the tones, and you'll be good. Also, please accept my congratulations as well as my rude advice, if you're going to entangle yourself with a new woman and a new country, Thailand is the place to go.
2 years in Thailand, 1.5 in Japan, 6 months in Korea, and the rest in Southern China and Hong Kong. Long enough to understand the work ethic, but not long enough to understand the culture, that being said I could live in any of these countries for 50 years and I still wouldn't understand their culture.sunsun said:Lived in Asia for 11 years..
Which countries did you live ? How well do you know those countries?
And just to prove my point here is a link.sunsun said:Lived in Asia for 11 years..
Which countries did you live ? How well do you know those countries?
Ya, that are a couple cases, on a whole I would disagree. If you take second gen rich kids, in any country most of them are lazy. Just look up the two economies and that will tell you the picture on a whole. That being said Chinese are the most likely to leave their countries and never come back. Also countries will bend over backwards to get Chinese tourists/students/workers to come to their countries, not because they are lazy and not hard working but because they are hard working and have tons of cash. And as my mother once said money doesn't grow on trees.sunsun said:In Thailand some Chinese live there and they can speak Mandarin but many of their sons/daughters don't understand it. I have few Thai friends live in Sydney,Australia.. They are really hard working people..They could live whatever the conditions when they were International students..Now they live permanently with their husband in Sydney..They love so much their husbands..I also had 1 male Thai friend when I stayed about 2 years in Sydney and he is a native Thai and he worked so hard in Thailand and Sydney..I asked him,"Don't you feel tired?" He told me he didn't mind as long he could get money for better future.
on-hold said:If that's what you think of the Thai dowry, then it's obvious you don't know much about the place -- your description has nothing to do with it's reality, and anyone marrying a Thai woman needs to think seriously about their opinion on it.
I asked her about dowry and she tells me it is not needed. She only has one sister who is married with kids in Bangkok. They wouldn't expect a dowry as she claims.collectskulls said:hmmm i never paid a dowry to marry my wife been going there for close to 15 years now![]()
First of all, yes, some bias there and not to mention way off topic. sunsun and ttcd please start your own thread if not related.Luckyman said:wow...there are some serious problems with this thread (Asian racial bias etc).......so I'll get back to the original poster.
Yes slow is good....but at the same time, when meeting someone online and realizing that physical visiting can and will only happen average 4 weeks a year, one does need to consider the long haul in the beginning....also realizing that things progress differently in a long distance relationship is good.
Remember, that even if you do marry quick, you will still be apart for the majority of most western courtship terms before "starting" your life....so I say, go with the flow, AND consider marriage and the future as well.
Cheers!
(BTW I proposed after 3 months and meeting wifey's family and I don't regret it at all....we celebrated our one year wedding anniversary last Nov......apart)
Thank you!!!!collectskulls said:hmmm i never paid a dowry to marry my wife been going there for close to 15 years now![]()