Sponsrship

[lunas]

couldn't imagine marrying someone old enough to be my father.

ditto but as the post owner said, we are all different.

 

[lunas]

I am Jamaican, 22 years old and my husband is Canadian 51 years. We got married July 2012 and we just submitted our Sponsorship application for my PR. I am worried as in 2009 I was denied a work permit to Canada and in March 2012 I was denied a TRV to visit him. Will this affect my application and make the process slower and how do i proved our relationship genuine? We have photos, letter from family and friends, tuns of emails conversations and skype, money transactions, wedding photos with family and friends. Is that enough? We have know each other since I was a child and been intimate since 2009 but can only prove since 2012 as I was really young and did not know one day we would be married and needed to do this. Thanks!

Honestly Fefe, you did ask and post here. People are telling you what you should or shouldn't be worried about. I would just gather opinions and be prepared because CIC officers are not machines, they will read your story and dig for proof more than usual.

 

[chopsticks]

Oh wow!
I am 22 and my husband is 29, my mom thinks HE is too old for me.
I am not judging or doubting your relationship, but it is really interesting to see how different people think.
I guess age really is just a number lol
If your relationship really is genuine I wish you the best of luck!

 

[R151NG5UN]

Hey Chopsticks,

I don't think many of us, if any were questioning the relationship. I just think most were advising what to expect and potential red flags. Your 22 and your hubby is 29. Although your mum may think he is too old, 7 years age difference is not very much at all.

I think most people who responded were just advising OP what to expect and a 29 year age gap is pretty big. For me personally in 15 years she will be 37 and he will be 66. I think an obvious concern for an immigration would be what kind of health may a 66 year old be in, especially if there are young children involved. They may well deem the relationship is 100% genuine but they will also asses the future and what may happen.

 

[Halfmoon]

Maybe if you brought in personal testimony from the pope saying that he knew both of you before, during, and after your marriage, then yes, I'm sure you would have slightly more than a snowball's chance in hell.

But without such testimony, I'm sorry, there's just no conceivable way that you're going to get to Canada without swimming to one of its shores.

Tuyen can we be a bit softer? just saying........ ;D

 

[chopsticks]

Hey Chopsticks,

I don't think many of us, if any were questioning the relationship. I just think most were advising what to expect and potential red flags. Your 22 and your hubby is 29. Although your mum may think he is too old, 7 years age difference is not very much at all.

I think most people who responded were just advising OP what to expect and a 29 year age gap is pretty big. For me personally in 15 years she will be 37 and he will be 66. I think an obvious concern for an immigration would be what kind of health may a 66 year old be in, especially if there are young children involved. They may well deem the relationship is 100% genuine but they will also asses the future and what may happen.

Hi R151NG5UN,

Yeah I am sure all of you were just advising her.
I know I had the age difference issue when I was gonna get married so I was just really amazed to see how some people don't give much importance to age. While my mom did not let it go even months after I got married
The 29 years age gap is not something for me, but if it works for her then that is great.
But yeah I agree it would for sure be a concern to an immigration officer.

 

[Halfmoon]

I am Jamaican, 22 years old and my husband is Canadian 51 years. We got married July 2012 and we just submitted our Sponsorship application for my PR. I am worried as in 2009 I was denied a work permit to Canada and in March 2012 I was denied a TRV to visit him. Will this affect my application and make the process slower and how do i proved our relationship genuine? We have photos, letter from family and friends, tuns of emails conversations and skype, money transactions, wedding photos with family and friends. Is that enough? We have know each other since I was a child and been intimate since 2009 but can only prove since 2012 as I was really young and did not know one day we would be married and needed to do this. Thanks!

There's actually a thread for Kingston JA. You can post there and see what information you can get from others.

http://www.canadavisa.com/canada-immigration-discussion-board/kingstonjamaica-t29680.22725.html

 

[aerogurl87]

Hey Chopsticks,

I don't think many of us, if any were questioning the relationship. I just think most were advising what to expect and potential red flags. Your 22 and your hubby is 29. Although your mum may think he is too old, 7 years age difference is not very much at all.

I think most people who responded were just advising OP what to expect and a 29 year age gap is pretty big. For me personally in 15 years she will be 37 and he will be 66. I think an obvious concern for an immigration would be what kind of health may a 66 year old be in, especially if there are young children involved. They may well deem the relationship is 100% genuine but they will also asses the future and what may happen.

This is exactly what I was getting at when I said she needed to address some potential concerns upfront instead of letting the visa officer come to their own conclusions. Love may be a number, but realistically CIC is going to want to see if they are thinking long term with such an age gap. I know if I had a daughter and she told me she was going to marry a man old enough to be her dad, I'd want to know some answers to what she imagined the future looking like. I mean, if she plans to have children with this guy, he's going to be a grandfather's age when she's still in her prime. So how is that going to affect them if they have children? Is she ready to take care of him if his health starts to fail much quicker than hers? I'm not asking these things to be mean, just being realistic and telling her she should address these long term potential issues in her application.

 

[aerogurl87]

If you haven't notice your the minority! you are who you are and entitle to your opinion! WE DO'T HAVE TO SEE EYE TO EYE ON EVERYTHING! Relationship success does not depend on people seeing things the same way. Respect for the other person's perspective is far more important than constant agreement! Everywhere around us there are average people. They entice you into being more like them by offering their acceptance and by leading you to believe that everyone else is more like them than you are. the 'average-person sales pitch' leaves out that you will be sacrificing your goals, sacrificing your individuality and unique ideas-leading a life that is not so much yours as it is determined by a preferences of your group. I am a leader you are the AVERAGE! I do not care what society thinks ans what they think should be. It is my life and I live it how I choose. MY HUSBAND IS PERFECT IN EVERY WAY. HE IS MY DREAM MAN, HANDSOME SUCCESSFUL, KIND, GOOD MORALS, HONEST, LISTEN ATTENTIVELY, TREATS ME LIKE MY *censored word* COULD MAKE A BURGER!! WHICH SAYS A LOT . HE IS LOVING, HE COOKS, HE CLEANS HE IS DOES EVERY FREAKING THING. THAT MAN IS A DARN ANGEL, so don't worry you didnt hurt my feeling and no offense was taken! HAHAHA I just couldnt believe people say those things 2 put persons down especially when it is already hard 4 them, thats all!!! now you mention you 23 I see why you speak the way you do. In time you will grow up and be in the real modern world where Blackmen are been president and 51 year men are with 22 year women hahaha!! been sarcastic

Actually I'm sure I'm in the majority and not the minority. If you're happy, then so be it. But it's not for me and that's all I was saying. As for your application, I'm not going to sugar coat it and say your application is going to go through smoothly. You have alot of red flags in your case. The age difference, the fact that you tried and failed to get into Canada right before starting your relationship with this man, the country you are applying from, etc.

 

[blueboom]

If you haven't notice your the minority! you are who you are and entitle to your opinion! WE DO'T HAVE TO SEE EYE TO EYE ON EVERYTHING! Relationship success does not depend on people seeing things the same way. Respect for the other person's perspective is far more important than constant agreement! Everywhere around us there are average people. They entice you into being more like them by offering their acceptance and by leading you to believe that everyone else is more like them than you are. the 'average-person sales pitch' leaves out that you will be sacrificing your goals, sacrificing your individuality and unique ideas-leading a life that is not so much yours as it is determined by a preferences of your group. I am a leader you are the AVERAGE! I do not care what society thinks ans what they think should be. It is my life and I live it how I choose. MY HUSBAND IS PERFECT IN EVERY WAY. HE IS MY DREAM MAN, HANDSOME SUCCESSFUL, KIND, GOOD MORALS, HONEST, LISTEN ATTENTIVELY, TREATS ME LIKE MY *censored word* COULD MAKE A BURGER!! WHICH SAYS A LOT . HE IS LOVING, HE COOKS, HE CLEANS HE IS DOES EVERY FREAKING THING. THAT MAN IS A DARN ANGEL, so don't worry you didnt hurt my feeling and no offense was taken! HAHAHA I just couldnt believe people say those things 2 put persons down especially when it is already hard 4 them, thats all!!! now you mention you 23 I see why you speak the way you do. In time you will grow up and be in the real modern world where Blackmen are been president and 51 year men are with 22 year women hahaha!! been sarcastic

A lot of the negative reactions are doing you a huge favour as to how you should prepare the answers in your application, what proof you should show, and especially how you should prepare for an interview. Visa officers are human beings with assumptions about marriage and social relations, and they can also give you lip and be "smart." There are a number of stories on here where the visa officer was downright rude and confrontational in interview. Remember that they don't know your husband the way that you do (just as none of the posters know your husband the way you do). You should be prepared to respond to the visa officer when s/he asks you about the red flags that the previous posters have mentioned to you, and you should be able to do it in a confident and non-defensive manner. You can't tell a visa officer, "Well, you're entitled to your opinion!" Prove to CIC that your husband is your dream man; they are not going to take your word for it. You mentioned that you can't believe people say these things to put others down, but you may come across a visa officer, whether or not s/he is an anomaly, who will make it his or her priority to make you crack like an egg. File your application and do what you need to do to be with your husband, but do not delude yourself. Prepare for the worst and hope for the best. Good luck.

 

[tamarindball]

I can understand some of the possible red flags being shared by some persons and t hat's helpful even though they don't have the last answer as sometimes the unexpected happens. However, it's not so much what we say but how we say it. We can be a bit more tactful in our responses without sounding so mean. This is not the forum for that. State the possible bars but we don't have to be so mean in our approach. Still some of the advice is good but it's just how it's presented. Fefe just want to say best wishes. You might come out on top even more than others. Do what you have to do and yes surely you know what you might be up against so be prepared, but still nobody here is God so they don't know your future even though they might have some experience but go in faith. All the best girl. As you say if you dont get to go to your hubby he will come to you. So be it.

 

[cher43]

tamarindball will put i know the anguish this girl is going through . we was refused because of age difference so yes that a big road block but if you trully love each other there is always a way .I am going to appeal but if that don't work i am moving there i wish you all the luck Fefe just get as much support doc as you can i will be praying for you

 

[Halfmoon]

tamarindball will put i know the anguish this girl is going through . we was refused because of age difference so yes that a big road block but if you trully love each other there is always a way .I am going to appeal but if that don't work i am moving there i wish you all the luck Fefe just get as much support doc as you can i will be praying for you

CIC won't refuse on the basis of age factor alone. Did you have other factors that could have been a negative against your application?

 

[cher43]

No she just said marriage was not genuine