I agree completely with Dair, You need to face the reality now before it is too late. You should consider yourself lucky that you are seeing the real man that your Husband is before he get's to Canada and it is too late. You are not the only one that left it in the hands of the appeal judge to decide their fate, but were faced with horrifc realities when their husbands arrived in Canada, and they realized they made the worst mistake of their lives by not ending the relationship nand sponsorship when they had the chance.
I am really afraid for you because your story is so familiar to other horror stories that I have seen. The men cry for forgiveness, confess their love with all their apologies and arrive here are are extremely abusive physically and mentally. They push the woman to extremes so that they can be thrown out of the house by abusing the women and their children, even going to the extent of threats against their children if the women don't give them money. Once the woman throw the men out they have the excuse to go directly to the welfare office and the women arefaced with the repayment of the wefare that he collects. I ask you , are you prepared emotionally and financially for the consequences of what he can do to you once he is in Canada. Don't fool yourself into believing that you can have him out of your life or deported if he mistreats you, because once he is here, you are on your own. CIC will not help you to have him removed.
I agree that marriage is very serious, but you are not his wife with this kind of treatment, you are his victim. What if it was happening to someone you loved, would you tel hr to take a chance and see what happens. If he says he loves her, and is nice sometimes that that is enough,that she can't ask for everything like caring and respect. He is her husband, and she should be happy with the nice times, and ignore the humiliation and abuse.
I bit my tongue and tried to support a friend in this same circumstance and tried to support her when her husband did these same types of things to her, because I didn't want to make her feel bad, because she wanted to hold on to hope, but as you can guess she won the appeal, and arrived here and made her life miserable, including threatening her kids. He also professed his love for her, and cried for forgiveness. He said all the words a woman wanted to hear. He left her after receiving his PR card, but her misery didn't end there with him.
YOur Husband should be showing you all the love and respect that he can because he loves you, and also because of everything you have been going through. Can you really believe that this is what you call love? I promise you that it will only get worst, and the apologies from him are to try to stop you from ending the sponsorship. He is angry because he is frustrated at trying to pretend to be in love, and not having his freedom when you are there, but at the same time he realizes that he may be blowing his chance if he goes to far, so he brings out the I love you's and the tears.
I know I am being harsh right now, but It really hurts me to see great women being hurt and humiliated like this because they want to believe that the man they fell in love with is just going through a tough time, and it will get better, but what you are seeing is the reality of who he really is. After he gets here he wont even show you those few nice moments because he won't need to anymore, he will have what he wants.
If my Husband would have done just one of those thing to me while I was there, or disrespected me in any way, I would have walked to the airport if I had to. I love him, but I love myself even more. If you think is would be costly to leave there early, think about how costly it could be to the rest of your life if you stay.
Do you want a man that shows you love and respect? or do you want one that you Pray to God will not be a complete monster, and hope for the best.
This is your marriage, but this is also you and your son's life that you are taking a chance with. With the way your husband has been treating you, is he really worth the great risk? because that is what this is, a HUGE risk, that you cannot take back once he arrives in Canada.
I have nothing to gain by telling you this, except to try to help someone who I really believe needs serious help right now, before it is too late. I have never seen not even one marriage like this turn out with a happy ending , but I can't even count how many ended with the womens lives and her children's ending in hambles. The men that treat their wives with disrespect when they are ther, increase the abuse when they get here. It is not a location issue, it is a personality issue. He will sweep you off your feet, but drop you on your head, and laugh when you bleed. Love does not come from what country you are standing in, it is in your heart wherever you are.
If he loved you truthfully you would feel it from him in his actions, and you would not be going through this. You would be enjoying a man that is loving, and by your side , not abusing you and deserting you to be with his friends.
But as Dair said , only you can make the decision of what you want in your life, Love and respect, or fear and abuse. That is really the only decision you have to make. If you love him and trust him enough to put your life and your son's life, and your financial future in his hands , and you are willing to accept the abuse, humiliation, disrespect, and lies that you can be sure will follow him to Canada, I will pray for you, and wish you the best. But first I will pray that you will see the truth beyond your love for him, and your hope that he will be different when he gets here.
There are caring and loving men everywhere including Morocco, but a man that can even think about treating his wife like this is not one of them I promise you. Yes I PROMISE you.
God bless you
