Habibti
Hero Member
- Apr 4, 2011
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- Category........
- Visa Office......
- Rabat, Morocco
- Job Offer........
- Pre-Assessed..
- App. Filed.......
- 08-02-2011
- File Transfer...
- 31-03-2011
- Med's Done....
- 10-01-2011 / 06-09-2012
- Interview........
- 12-09-2011 / Denied 4-11-2011
- VISA ISSUED...
- January 9, 2013
- LANDED..........
- January 18, 2013 in Montreal
I am sorry Vjamal to hear about your situation. I am in a very good position to understand you. I have not seen my husband in 5 months and a half and I have to wait 6 more months before I can see him again. I snapped out of my depression. I guess it was not as deep as yours. I am the kind of nature who bounces back quickly. And you know what helps me a lot (other than the chocolate fondue lol) ? I set myself some goals for every single month until I see him again and I found a renewed energy. One of my three jobs is to work for a language website and this website is expanding so much that there is now too much work. I can work as many hours as I want on this site. The more time I work for them, the more I earn money of course. So I work non-stop until bedtime (I miss reading books!!!) when I come back from my other two jobs and my full weekend is devoted to this website too.vjamal said:
With the extra money I am doing, I did some plans for the house. I start seeing the denied visa as a blessing. Other than the fact, I get to know more about my husband's character and strength (how he is coping with failure, grief and stress), it allows me to have the freedom to work 18 hours a day 7 days a week. If he was here, I would not be able to earn all that extra money. I would spend my evenings with him and we would do outings together on the weekend. He would take lots of my attention. So, this month I am planning to pay off a few old bills and new tires on my car. February, I am going to have my hot water tank and toilet replaced. Youhou! It will be exciting to shop for a new toilet lol... never done that before! March, I will replace my fridge, my dryer and my washing machine. April, I will pay off my credit card and taxes. May, I will buy airfare for my trip to Morocco and airfare for my mother so she come here while I am gone and June I will use the extra money to rent an apartment for my husband and I. He said he will pay for the rest: food, transportation, outings, etc. I find this quite exciting and he gives me the courage to hold on. When my husband is here one day, all will be ready for him and I to start a new life. It is like I am clearing the way until he comes...
Having said that, is there anything you would like to achieve that would take your mind off the immigration file? Something exciting that would bring you a sense of accomplishment and therefore you would feel less depressed, less defeated? Something to look forward to it? I can't wait to go shopping for my new toilet let me tell you lol
Sending you my best thoughts. Hang in there girl! You will see time will fly faster if you set some goals, does not matter their size. Imagine... it has been already 4 months since my husband got the interview! and 2 months since the refusal letter! I am sure when we will be in June, we will be surprised to realize how fast it went.
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