Sponsored wife cheated on me what to do

[soblue3]

also on the canada immigration site right in the section on conditional permanent residency and the two year condition it says

Exception in cases of abuse or neglect
Given concerns about the vulnerability of spouses in abusive relationships, the proposed condition would cease to apply in instances where there is evidence of abuse (that is, physical, sexual, psychological or financial) or neglect (failure to provide the necessaries of life).

 

[Rob_TO]

also on the canada immigration site right in the section on conditional permanent residency and the two year condition it says

Exception in cases of abuse or neglect
Given concerns about the vulnerability of spouses in abusive relationships, the proposed condition would cease to apply in instances where there is evidence of abuse (that is, physical, sexual, psychological or financial) or neglect (failure to provide the necessaries of life).

The problem with this rule is that is very generic and open ended. There will be lots of PRs that break up with their sponsors for one reason or another that has nothing to do with an abusive sponsor. You can bet that a ton of PRs will pull out the "abuse" card solely to try and keep their PR status, and start making completely false claims and allegations against the sponsor. The "abuse" clause will be abused to keep PR status. It will turn into sponsors word against PRs word with no real way for CIC or anyone else to tell who is telling the truth.

For this reason my first guess was that CIC would limit "abuse" claims to ones in which an actual police report was filed, or claims were made to CIC before any breakup or non-cohabitation required. Not after-the-fact situations in which the first claims of abuse are during a hearing where PR needs to justify not having their PR taken away. Of course that's just a guess on my part, and nobody will know for sure until we actually start seeing a few cases in real life.

 

[blazinhassan]

if you read my story, to me this should count as psychological abuse, since, she left me.
kept giving me false hope of returning, used me, then cheated on me.
Also, getting into drugs, WITH her dad. Admitting to doing M, im sure she did cocaine as well since she was hanging out with the girl who was a coke head at her work (which i found out later) She also asked her brother to where to get ACID from. He said NO.

All this, isnt this abuse???? put your self in my shoes.. how would you react, how would you feel. yes there is that condition, but where is anything my fault??

i will be going to a lawyer next week.

Thanks for all the input.

 

[blazinhassan]

also i have long texts of hers telling me cheated on me. I have proof, all her family knows as well.

 

[soblue3]

well it seems immigration acknowledges all forms of abuse recognized by canadian law so if a person has actual proof ...i think the biggest problem is the cost of divorce or separation based on allegations of abuse. well i guess have to wait and see how the immigration will deal with this...just i hope nobody has to remind in abusive relationships because they can be very damaging

 

[soblue3]

also i have long texts of hers telling me cheated on me. I have proof, all her family knows as well.

keep all the texts or any other proof you can gather....just dont do nothing rush but think about your own well being

 

[blazinhassan]

thank you..

 

[noname2013]

i read the whole story and comments. i just cant believe what some of them of written down... especially there are a few who are recommending u to stick with your wife even after she cheated so you can get your citizenship? some said to stay quite and spend these two years so you can get your citizenship... it reminds of a saying: 'better to make an enemy then a stupid friend'... in short it means atleast you will learn something from your enemy then listening to stupid advice.

I am very sorry to hear abt your situation. CHEATING is unacceptable... THE END.
i am sure half of the world gets the oppertunity to cheat and they choose not to... why? i am sure they all have their own reasons but mainly because they are married and committed and their are kids involved... families involved and at the end no one wants to be ASAHAMED/EMBARASSED infront of all these people.... BUT mainly i believe its their inner soul. Your wife has chosen that path over you.... so let it be. The karma will get her some day.
End of story.

You are required to stay married for 2 years after your PR but why it has become the requirement is the question we should all be asking?
"This will prevent marriages of convenience in which sponsor receives a financial gain or benefit, or sponsored spouse uses the relationship to gain entry to Canada, and leaves partner shortly after arrival."

>> so you need to PROVE that your marriage is/was legit. if you can prove this then you shouldnt have any problems... marriages FAIL as well. My marriage fails everyday but it doesnt mean i go and cheat or put my family/spouse in danger. the biggest danger that can be exposed is HIV/STD and other sexual realted diseases. This is a threat to her life and to the kids as well. so if you can prove that your marriage was real then "i" do not see a problem. The judge/immigration officers are real people like "US" its their job to find out about fraud marriages and they will find out if it was fraud but at the same time when they see that it was a real marriage and you tried your best to save it and couldnt the exception should be granted. Also, if she is taking some serous drugs that your life can be in danger as well.. what if the supplier knocks on your door and kills you or threats you because she hasnt paid for drug yet? we see this happening all the time in our city.. people getting killed because of drugs...

i am sure we all have read by now... the exemptions: (i dont think the case will go that far)
- evidence of prove and neglect:IRPR s.72.1(7) link is: i guess i cant post it
ADULTERY is not the cause of abuse but i am sure STD/HIV fear is. You should go get yourself checked as well.
you should also get your weight checked as well, i am sure your family dr has all the record.

You should take things step by step. its not easy emotinally... and also financially but i am sure there are payment plans available to get the lawyer take care of your case. Make sure you are not on welfare... and have been supporting yourself from the past x number of years (since you have been living and wrking in Canada) get a letter from your employer to prove how long you have been working and your work ethics etc. you should also go and get your blood test done for any kind of drugs in your blood. All these things are going to help you in this case. We CANADIANS want good people with good work and living ethics... people who are family oriented... and if you are one of them... you shouldnt be scared. Also i believe from your post that you have been living in north america for a while and it has become your "home"... no one is going to kick you out of your home buddy... we will stand for the rights! PM me and i will give you my contact info incase if you need me to sign anything... its your wife who should be KICKED out of this country! putting a bad name on "our girls" in canada.

 

[Rob_TO]

You are required to stay married for 2 years after your PR but why it has become the requirement is the question we should all be asking?
"This will prevent marriages of convenience in which sponsor receives a financial gain or benefit, or sponsored spouse uses the relationship to gain entry to Canada, and leaves partner shortly after arrival."

>> so you need to PROVE that your marriage is/was legit. if you can prove this then you shouldnt have any problems...

There is no clause to get out of condition 51, simply by the marriage breaking down on it's own due to whatever natural reasons. PRs who were in genuine loving relationships but who end up separating from their sponsor during the 2 years conditional time, definitely need to worry about keeping their status.

Again, another form of marriage fraud is a business transaction when the sponsor is being paid to marry the PR and sponsor them. These "couples" will be looking to separate as soon as possible after landing so they can each go on their separate ways, so just saying to CIC "well the marriage broke down on it's own" will not be a good enough excuse to keep PR status.

Most likely there will be 2 key factors in people having their PRs revoked due to condition 51
- if the sponsor reports to CIC that the relationship has ended and they are no longer cohabiting OR if CIC finds out a sponsor/PR is not cohabiting some other way
- if there are abuse allegations by the PR. What methods CIC will use to define "abuse", is yet to be determined

 

[QuebecOkie]

Rob_TO, sir, if I hadn't already up voted you this week for other factual and reasonable responses, that would be another.

 

[soblue3]

thank you..

you welcome....and most information is online...dont let anybody discourage you. some people just love to say things without checking it out first
here is the link and as anybody can see there is the 2 year condition and underneath is a list of exceptions http://www.cic.gc.ca/english/department/media/backgrounders/2012/2012-10-26a.asp

and technically she left you and should be still financially responsible. i mean if she cheated on you, left you and did not do anything to help you here and just left you i think you have a strong case as long as you have witnesses and proof.

 

[screech339]

While the info on this thread contains a lot of useful information. I have a feeling that the situation will be similar to getting your car fixed. Insurance companies will not cover any expenses unless it has a police report to go with.

I suspects CIC will probably be asking for the same thing. A police report of abuse.

In any case, the OP has some work cut out for himself in how to best handle the situation. As everyone said, at least see a lawyer and discuss next logical best step in preserving your PR status.

Screech339

 

[blazinhassan]

Thanks guys.

From where I see it how it says that immigration understands that if a marriage breaks down. when 2 people can't live together for a reason my reason is she CHEATED. I can't live with that person.

Noname, you have some very good info.

Iv been in Canada for the last 3 years. Working. Got married never thought anything bad could happen. But it did. And I have a valid point.

In the end we are all humans. And shit happens.

I got legal advice. And he said. Marriage broke down. She left me. And cheated.

That's the reason why we can't cohabit. I'm honest. I will take this the legal way. Fuck trying to work shit out by living with her and wait it out. This is Canada not a 3 world country.

Immigration will be hard on me, once they know our marriage was true and how everything panned out.

I have pictures and proof. Of her being a good wife. And how her friends fucked her over and she cheated on me with her ex. Yes that's my defence. Any human being in my shoes will understand. I'm here to live life. To contribute to canadian economy. I'm not going on welfare. I'm strong and want to move forward.

I'm honest.

 

[Becki567]

You spoke to an immigration lawyer on Good Friday.. Uh huh

You can plead your case all you want here, it will do you no good.

You have been told multiple times that you will need a lawyer. Reality is you had your PR less than 2 months before she left you.

CIC has kept parents away from their children for 3 more years. I strongly believe you were not abused, will not qualify and they will invoke the condition on your PR. Hire a lawyer, but prepare to have your PR revoked

 

[blazinhassan]

Thanks becki.

Yes I spoke to the immigration lawyer who has worked within my family. And he said, since she cheated, I can't cohabit with her. My case is neglect and abuse. And on the Good Friday "uh huh" keep your attitude to your self. Seriously, all I wanted was advice. And I got it. I filed my own app for PR. Without a lawyer. Did U have balls to do that without advice? I did it on my own. Got it in 1 yr. now I'm fuked cuz of my cheating wife. It's ok.

U can keep ur bs to ur self and maybe find people who work on Good Friday as well. Like "us" I heard what I needed to hear.

So yes, im prepared. For anything. And once il done with this. I will pm u.

Maybe a little sympathy helps, what if this happens to you? Would u want to hear what you wrote?