Sponsor my fiancé

[bloewen4]

I have read through all that long read but it was informative. I have spoken to my fiancé already. She agrees with me that we should make 2 trips one for a visit and a possible engagement and another for a wedding. We were both feeling the stress from trying to plan this in a way that was uncomfortable and not the right way. Our new plan is to take July's wedding plan and turn in into a visit/engagement. Our next visit we would like to be Christmas 2016 as I will get some time off work for the holiday and can combine more time off with the Christmas holiday I already have. She was okay with that and said take as long as we need to prove that our love is genuine we had been stressing recently about this and it has affected our relationship. With this new plan all the pressure feels gone. We are simply meeting each other and it feels great. We are already back to normal and feeling less stressed about this. She really is amazing and seems to be willing to do anything also to prove she is genuine. Thank you so much for all your advice. Deep down I think I Knew I had to meet her before getting married but didnt want to accept the extra time it will take for a 2nd visit. The feeling of relief for ease of sponsorship for 2 trips and not having to stress to plan a wedding so quickly far surpasses the disappointment in having to wait longer. I feel much better about this and she is willing to wait any amount of time.

I have a follow up question from her actually. Is comimg back in December for my 2nd trip for marriage enough time to prove this is genuine? She is more than willing to wait longer than that she claims and is more concerned we do this the right way to prove its real. Thanks

 

[Ontariobat]

I wholeheartedly agree with the advice given. I'm glad you've taken it to heart, bloewen4.

Why not take it one step at a time? Meet, and then see how you two interact. If it's all you thought it would be, that's awesome. Realise the "honeymoon" stage of a relationship is quite delayed because you haven't been together before. Rushing a relationship just doesn't allow it to develop properly in my opinion. Since the application won't rely on you being married, it doesn't make sense to get married unless you are both 100% ready and certain of the decision.

My wife and I met online. I visited her twice before deciding to jump ship and move up here (after 8 months of being in a long-distance relationship). I was on vistor's visas, study visas, and work visas. It was 2 years we lived together before we married even though we were pretty sure we clicked right off the bat. We were together online about 2 months before my first visit. I think we were both surprised by how different in-person was. It was great, but it was like meeting a stranger that you knew a ton about and were comfortable with in only a singular context.

 

[CANzanillo]

I have read through all that long read but it was informative. I have spoken to my fiancé already. She agrees with me that we should make 2 trips one for a visit and a possible engagement and another for a wedding. We were both feeling the stress from trying to plan this in a way that was uncomfortable and not the right way. Our new plan is to take July's wedding plan and turn in into a visit/engagement. Our next visit we would like to be Christmas 2016 as I will get some time off work for the holiday and can combine more time off with the Christmas holiday I already have. She was okay with that and said take as long as we need to prove that our love is genuine we had been stressing recently about this and it has affected our relationship. With this new plan all the pressure feels gone. We are simply meeting each other and it feels great. We are already back to normal and feeling less stressed about this. She really is amazing and seems to be willing to do anything also to prove she is genuine. Thank you so much for all your advice. Deep down I think I Knew I had to meet her before getting married but didnt want to accept the extra time it will take for a 2nd visit. The feeling of relief for ease of sponsorship for 2 trips and not having to stress to plan a wedding so quickly far surpasses the disappointment in having to wait longer. I feel much better about this and she is willing to wait any amount of time.

I have a follow up question from her actually. Is comimg back in December for my 2nd trip for marriage enough time to prove this is genuine? She is more than willing to wait longer than that she claims and is more concerned we do this the right way to prove its real. Thanks

That sounds like a much more reasonable approach to both the relationship and the anticipated PR application and will likely have positive benefits for both. I am glad to hear that you both feel much more relaxed about things. This PR process is stressful enough as it is without having to pile it on top of a new relationship. Taking your time will pay dividends and prove the strength of your mutual resolve for the relationship.

An idea. Can you see your way clear to still do a short trip this Christmas?? Perhaps find a way to cover the cost of the extra trip with some extra paying work over the next year? 2 trips would be even better evidence.

In my case I met my Mexican wife in June 2010 and we married in November 2012. And I was/am living in Mexico. My wife was able to obtain an American visitor Visa and then travelled with me to Idaho in order to meet my Canadian family. They couldn't attend our wedding in Mexico due to the death of my brother which occurred during the one month window that Mexican Immigration gave us to get married. Anyway, all of that allowed us to submit a strong application with over 200 pictures illustrating the development of our relationship over time (we had many many more pictures that we could have submitted), 13 letters from family and friends acknowledging our relationship and much more documentation. Although we are still waiting for my wife's application to process, we are confident that we will receive a positive result by the end of this year.

I truly wish you a successful relationship and PR application. Keep us posted on how things go!!