Newlywed canadian husband assaulted me, I'm on tourist visa

[thewildblueberry]

I'm a sarcastic person. Sarcasm helps me deal with stressful situations sometimes.
As a funny story... I can tell you that when I went to the police station next day after having filed the report, I had a conversation with the officer like this:
O: so you're enjoying your honeymoon, eh?
me: excuse me? no, the honeymoon was scheduled for one week from now
O: ah. well you're not the record breaker. I had husbands assault wives on the wedding night. so, you didn't make it to the record book.

True story, believe it or not. And don't ridicule me for trying to be sarcastic, even if police can have conversations like that with victims of assault on the next day after filing a report.

I didn't realize that being assaulted was a funny thing now-a-days.

This must be a joke.

 

[SenoritaBella]

I was just giving you some information about subpoenas because some alleged victims may not want to testify, especially if it's against a lover.

That said, if you run out of money and need to return home, inform the police before you leave - very important. You can ask them about testifying through videoconference.

Sounds like you have some Canadian work experience(since you once had a work permit)? Perhaps, if you decide to go back to your home country you could look into whether you qualify for the skilled worker program or Canadian Experience Class.

what if I run out of money to stay in the country? the court date might be in 6 or 12 months from now, and I dont have any source of income. I cant just be in Canada with nothing or live in shelters, are you sure there's no exception to this rule? I'm just a visitor here. Cant I give testimony through videoconference or something like that? I'm originally from Europe so it's not like I can just hop on a plane and travel to Canada easy...
Thanks for all your other advice points! I really appreciate this.

 

[basketballfan]

I'm a sarcastic person. Sarcasm helps me deal with stressful situations sometimes.
As a funny story... I can tell you that when I went to the police station next day after having filed the report, I had a conversation with the officer like this:
O: so you're enjoying your honeymoon, eh?
me: excuse me? no, the honeymoon was scheduled for one week from now
O: ah. well you're not the record breaker. I had husbands assault wives on the wedding night. so, you didn't make it to the record book.

True story, believe it or not. And don't ridicule me for trying to be sarcastic, even if police can have conversations like that with victims of assault on the next day after filing a report.

I get it; victims may deal with things in their own way. You appear very strong. I don't have any answers other than if you do plan on divorcing maybe you can get an annulment instead, given the circumstances. I wish you the best of luck.

 

[thewildblueberry]

Yes, I do have one year of experience here and my boss was extremely happy with me. So applying for a work permit from abroad probably wouldn't be that much of a problem.

The more I think of all the events though, the more I realise that it's probably for my own good if I stay away from Canada as far as possible, because abusers tend to stalk and monitor their victims as much as they can, and I don't want to live my life in fear of bumping into him some day.

Thank you so much for your response!

I was just giving you some information about subpoenas because some alleged victims may not want to testify, especially if it's against a lover.

That said, if you run out of money and need to return home, inform the police before you leave - very important. You can ask them about testifying through videoconference.

Sounds like you have some Canadian work experience(since you once had a work permit)? Perhaps, if you decide to go back to your home country you could look into whether you qualify for the skilled worker program or Canadian Experience Class.

 

[thewildblueberry]

I looked into it a bit, and annulment is possible only in exceptional cases... as in no consummation, or already married to someone else, stuff like that. Even if it was marriage of convenience, the court would not count it as grounds for annulment.
So looks like I'll have to be dealing with regular divorce timings, 1 year...

I get it; victims may deal with things in their own way. You appear very strong. I don't have any answers other than if you do plan on divorcing maybe you can get an annulment instead, given the circumstances. I wish you the best of luck.

 

[canvis2006]

if you leave canada and go back to your country, i don't think your country of origin's system will care much about your marriage in Canada.

Unless u got married back in country of origin which is a diff story

You can start your new life as soon as you return back, there is nothing holding you back.

Not sure if you'll qualify for any extensions, etc from CIC if your status is that of a visitor.

 

[sunsun]

Mickeymkye....you said married Canadians just because very badly, very much,really really want to live in Canada..are you kidding?
Don' t tell me your wife choose number 3 !!

 

[mikeymyke]

Mickeymkye....you said married Canadians just because very badly, very much,really really want to live in Canada..are you kidding?
Don' t tell me your wife choose number 3 !!

Yes my wife is #3, and I'm happy about it, because I know she's not using me to get PR. And why would she be so desperate to come here? She makes 10x the average salary in her country, her family owns rental properties that generate enough money for them to never have to leave the house, she's lived in her country her entire life, why would she be so desperate to go to a strange country that she's never been? She's only applying for the PR so that she can live with me, and I was the one who asked her to live in Canada because I have a great paying job, a house, the whole 9 yards. If I lived in her country, which I don't mind if her PR is refused, she would basically be the one caring for me because my job prospects aren't that good, aside from teaching English.

Vietnam might not be as developed as Canada, but that doesn't mean you can't have a good life over there if you're with your spouse. It would be really weird for my wife to want to come to Canada so bad when she's never even been here before. I've been to Vietnam 5x already, and having been in that country, I don't mind to live there at all despite Vietnam's shortcomings.

 

[sunsun]

I know about Vietnam because my brother in law has business over there and one of my country rich man, Ciputra has contributed to Vietnam greatly!!!
I also has Vietnamese friends and I know the wages in Vietnam.
I bet that you also know that my country low airline fare,Lion Air has also contributed to Vietnam .
You can tell anything to other people who do not know anything about Vietnam.
Anyway, I heard that Mcdonald franchise Just Opened for the first time because of the son of Vietnam leader.
They were just trained in Thailand...so tell me how great is Vietnam? I bet that your wife also wants to live in Canada so badly..

 

[Kev1n]

I know about Vietnam because my brother in law has business over there and one of my country rich man, Ciputra has contributed to Vietnam greatly!!!
I also has Vietnamese friends and I know the wages in Vietnam.
I bet that you also know that my country low airline fare,Lion Air has also contributed to Vietnam .
You can tell anything to other people who do not know anything about Vietnam.
Anyway, I heard that Mcdonald franchise Just Opened for the first time because of the son of Vietnam leader.
They were just trained in Thailand...so tell me how great is Vietnam? I bet that your wife also wants to live in Canada so badly..

Hi Sunsun, I would disagree, with you that, Mikey's wife wants to live in Canada so badley. as Mikey said his wife earns 10 times the average income, she can live a life of luxury on that income, she can have foot massage naily done and eat out on the money she earns, I know because my wife is Chinese, and she can that on her income there :-X

 

[missmatalini]

I'm a #3 . . . the ONLY reason I'm moving to Canada is to be with my husband. Otherwise I wouldn't want to live in Canada. Love my home country more, feel like I have better opportunities as well as the fact that I would prefer to live closer to my family as my husbands isn't as supportive as we'd like them to be (Which is why we are applying for a green card for the states as well as my PR in Canada)

 

[mikeymyke]

I know about Vietnam because my brother in law has business over there and one of my country rich man, Ciputra has contributed to Vietnam greatly!!!
I also has Vietnamese friends and I know the wages in Vietnam.
I bet that you also know that my country low airline fare,Lion Air has also contributed to Vietnam .
You can tell anything to other people who do not know anything about Vietnam.
Anyway, I heard that Mcdonald franchise Just Opened for the first time because of the son of Vietnam leader.
They were just trained in Thailand...so tell me how great is Vietnam? I bet that your wife also wants to live in Canada so badly..

Again, I know Vietnam has its shortcomings, be it communism, a corrupt government (yes I know all about the McDonalds President being the Prime Minister's brother-in-law), a lower quality of life, constant rolling blackouts, dangerous driving, etc. But it has a rich culture, awesome food, everything is inexpensive there, fun lifestyle.

I don't know where you get the idea that my wife wants to come here so badly, again she's never even been to Canada before and she has a great lifestyle in her country. If your spouse is willing to go wherever you will, and vice versa, then you know you have a great partner

 

[sunsun]

My main point is your conclusion about people really really want to move or live in Canada so badly. That is why I was upset. That is why I was trying to make you mad but you are not... lol

 

[Obronibini]

My main point is your conclusion about people really really want to move or live in Canada so badly. That is why I was upset. That is why I was trying to make you mad but you are not... lol

haha I don't see why you should be upset though.. He listed three categories . And I agree with most of the things he listed. Just not sure abt few if them . Lol

 

[screech339]

Yes my wife is #3, and I'm happy about it, because I know she's not using me to get PR. And why would she be so desperate to come here? She makes 10x the average salary in her country, her family owns rental properties that generate enough money for them to never have to leave the house, she's lived in her country her entire life, why would she be so desperate to go to a strange country that she's never been? She's only applying for the PR so that she can live with me, and I was the one who asked her to live in Canada because I have a great paying job, a house, the whole 9 yards. If I lived in her country, which I don't mind if her PR is refused, she would basically be the one caring for me because my job prospects aren't that good, aside from teaching English.

Vietnam might not be as developed as Canada, but that doesn't mean you can't have a good life over there if you're with your spouse. It would be really weird for my wife to want to come to Canada so bad when she's never even been here before. I've been to Vietnam 5x already, and having been in that country, I don't mind to live there at all despite Vietnam's shortcomings.

Mikeymike,

I agree with a lot of your postings. But there is one thing I like to point out. Now that you mentioned that your wife has come from a rich family if you will. It is now easy for you to ask everyone else if they are willing to move to the spouse's country, in the event that the PR sponsorship failed, knowing yourself that you can live comfortably in your wife's country.

I agree with the notion of "are you willing to move to your spouse's country if all else fails" in their determination of how genuine their relationship is. But the question loses merit when it is coming from you telling that to others when you can in fact live comfortably in the Vietnam.