Marriage of Convenience - Fraud - Misrepresentation! i just reported her to border services for getting her PR and left after only 9 months.

[kevin_metnik]

I sponsored my actual spouse ''The Snake in the Grass''. We connected online, engaging in 5-6 months of conversation that led me to believe we could build a happy life together. After six months, I found myself on a flight to Morocco, covering the costs of our wedding and related expenses, initiating the immigration process. We officially married on August 15, 2019, with me shouldering all financial responsibilities and providing support in various ways. she didn't and never spent a penny! NONE. ZERO. i was the Husband-HusBANK.

Upon her successful acquisition of permanent residency in October 2020 and her move to Canada immediately the same week, a drastic shift occurred in her behaviour. She departed our home abruptly on July 18, 2021, a mere day after completing nine months of residency in Canada. Her sudden departure was accompanied by troubling news of her pregnancy. The once amiable relationship turned tumultuous, revealing her true intentions after obtaining PR status.

We engaged in frequent arguments, and it became clear that her motives were not rooted in our relationship but rather in securing permanent residency. Despite my offer to fund her return flight, emphasizing her initial claim of coming for our relationship rather than PR, she insisted on staying in Canada independently.

The unfolding events exposed a pattern of financial exploitation, with her draining my resources throughout the immigration process. I sent money regularly, covered wedding expenses, supported her family, paid immigration fees, and provided for her needs upon arrival. In return, she left abruptly, taking advantage of the pregnancy to, as it seems, secure her stay in Canada.

This situation prompted me to report the misrepresentation to border services, recognizing the evident fraud in the guise of a legitimate relationship. She meticulously orchestrated her actions, deceiving both the immigration officer and myself into believing her intentions were rooted in love. The subsequent discovery of her conversations with an ex-boyfriend, disclosing her strategy of marrying someone in Canada for PR purposes, further solidified my belief in her fraudulent intentions.

Adding to the complexity, she is attempting to exploit her PR status by claiming financial benefits and insisting that the child, conceived during our relationship and now a year and a half old, is mine. This has placed a considerable emotional and financial burden on me.

Despite my substantial contributions to her well-being, evidenced by receipts and emotional support, I have not received any communication or updates from border services on the status of my complaint since the initial report in July 2021. Recognizing the urgency and severity of the situation.

Today i just found out she sued me in court for something in the family court. ..! propably tryin to get child benefits even tho i never saw that baby since she got born almost 2 years ago!

To be continued ..!

Lesson Learned: ''Avoid marrying from abroad at all Cost - don't fall for it''.

 

[Amiah_world]

Man I’m so sorry you’re going through all of that. Sure sounds like a nightmare, I don’t think she’ll loose her PR status though buddy, it’s too far along. Now as for your child, get a DNA test, if it’s positive then I can assure you you’ll be paying child support for the next 16 years, and also back support from the baby was born. Very bad situation you’re in buddy, stay strong.

 

[scylla]

I sponsored my actual spouse ''The Snake in the Grass''. We connected online, engaging in 5-6 months of conversation that led me to believe we could build a happy life together. After six months, I found myself on a flight to Morocco, covering the costs of our wedding and related expenses, initiating the immigration process. We officially married on August 15, 2019, with me shouldering all financial responsibilities and providing support in various ways. she didn't and never spent a penny! NONE. ZERO. i was the Husband-HusBANK.

Upon her successful acquisition of permanent residency in October 2020 and her move to Canada immediately the same week, a drastic shift occurred in her behaviour. She departed our home abruptly on July 18, 2021, a mere day after completing nine months of residency in Canada. Her sudden departure was accompanied by troubling news of her pregnancy. The once amiable relationship turned tumultuous, revealing her true intentions after obtaining PR status.

We engaged in frequent arguments, and it became clear that her motives were not rooted in our relationship but rather in securing permanent residency. Despite my offer to fund her return flight, emphasizing her initial claim of coming for our relationship rather than PR, she insisted on staying in Canada independently.

The unfolding events exposed a pattern of financial exploitation, with her draining my resources throughout the immigration process. I sent money regularly, covered wedding expenses, supported her family, paid immigration fees, and provided for her needs upon arrival. In return, she left abruptly, taking advantage of the pregnancy to, as it seems, secure her stay in Canada.

This situation prompted me to report the misrepresentation to border services, recognizing the evident fraud in the guise of a legitimate relationship. She meticulously orchestrated her actions, deceiving both the immigration officer and myself into believing her intentions were rooted in love. The subsequent discovery of her conversations with an ex-boyfriend, disclosing her strategy of marrying someone in Canada for PR purposes, further solidified my belief in her fraudulent intentions.

Adding to the complexity, she is attempting to exploit her PR status by claiming financial benefits and insisting that the child, conceived during our relationship and now a year and a half old, is mine. This has placed a considerable emotional and financial burden on me.

Despite my substantial contributions to her well-being, evidenced by receipts and emotional support, I have not received any communication or updates from border services on the status of my complaint since the initial report in July 2021. Recognizing the urgency and severity of the situation.

Today i just found out she sued me in court for something in the family court. ..! propably tryin to get child benefits even tho i never saw that baby since she got born almost 2 years ago!

To be continued ..!

Lesson Learned: ''Avoid marrying from abroad at all Cost - don't fall for it''.

I agree with the comment above. I think there's extremely little chance she will lose her PR status. That ship sailed a long time ago and IRCC will simply look at this as a relationship gone wrong vs. a MOC.

This is now a family court matter (not an immigration matter). If not already done, hire a good family lawyer to represent you.

 

[armoured]

I agree with the comment above. I think there's extremely little chance she will lose her PR status. That ship sailed a long time ago and IRCC will simply look at this as a relationship gone wrong vs. a MOC.

To underline the point: even IF the evidence were extremely strong against the ex-spouse, it's entirely up to IRCC whether to pursue the matter. And should consult a lawyer, but even if IRCC did so - and even if it did get so far as deporting the ex-spouse, however unlikely (read: extremely unlikely) - it likely still would not make the family court matters disappear, anyway (or at least not entirely). So on so many levels: that ship has sailed.

 

[scylla]

To underline the point: even IF the evidence were extremely strong against the ex-spouse, it's entirely up to IRCC whether to pursue the matter. And should consult a lawyer, but even if IRCC did so - and even if it did get so far as deporting the ex-spouse, however unlikely (read: extremely unlikely) - it likely still would not make the family court matters disappear, anyway (or at least not entirely). So on so many levels: that ship has sailed.

Agreed. Even if IRCC decides to investigate (and I think the chances of that are low), this process takes a very long time.. Agreed the family court matter will be there regardless. OP needs to focus there.

 

[Kaibigan]

Man I’m so sorry you’re going through all of that. Sure sounds like a nightmare, I don’t think she’ll loose her PR status though buddy, it’s too far along. Now as for your child, get a DNA test, if it’s positive then I can assure you you’ll be paying child support for the next 16 years, and also back support from the baby was born. Very bad situation you’re in buddy, stay strong.

In what province does the child support obligation end at age 16? In BC, the age of majority is 19. Child support ends at that time, unless the child is "unable to withdraw from the parents' charge or obtain the necessaries of life". That can mean an ongoing obligation for a child attending full-time post- secondary education, or an ongoing obligation for a child who might, for example, be plagued by mental health issues that prevent them from becoming independent.

The first thing the OP needs is a DNA test to establish paternity. The Snake in the Grass is unlikely to simply agree. Likely a court order will be necessary. I expect the Snake will also seek spousal support. In that case, it would likely be ordered only on a "needs" basis rather than a "compensatory" basis and of short duration.

It will be difficult to navigate the family law issues without legal help. That will cost. Although, I did read on this forum recently where someone wrote that the courts in her province have paid lawyers on staff who do all the work required for free. Sounds a lot better than trying to qualify for legal aid. I still doubt the veracity of that story, but my granny's "Was ya' there Charlie" rule applies and I cannot say for sure.

 

[Xilikon]

In what province does the child support obligation end at age 16? In BC, the age of majority is 19. Child support ends at that time unless the child is "unable to withdraw from the parents' charge or obtain the necessaries of life". That can mean an ongoing obligation for a child attending full-time post-secondary education, or an ongoing obligation for a child who might, for example, be plagued by mental health issues that prevent them from becoming independent.

The first thing the OP needs is a DNA test to establish paternity. The Snake in the Grass is unlikely to simply agree. Likely a court order will be necessary. I expect the Snake will also seek spousal support. In that case, it would likely be ordered only on a "needs" basis rather than a "compensatory" basis and of short duration.

It will be difficult to navigate the family law issues without legal help. That will cost. Although, I did read on this forum recently where someone wrote that the courts in her province have paid lawyers on staff who do all the work required for free. Sounds a lot better than trying to qualify for legal aid. I still doubt the veracity of that story, but my granny's "Was ya' there Charlie" rule applies and I cannot say for sure.

For the next 16 years it will be from the court decision which is when the baby is 2 years old, just simple math.

For the OP, everyone here is right and I had lived a bad experience similar to you but no child fortunately. The family court ordered me to pay alimony to my ex-wife and had no luck trying to deport her even if I managed to withdraw the application before it got processed.

 

[Kaibigan]

For the next 16 years it will be from the court decision which is when the baby is 2 years old, just simple math.

The simple math does not reveal the true extent of the obligation. I am guessing the OP had paid nothing thus far. If the kid is his, then 2 years of arrears have already accrued. The obligation will be for at least 18 years and, potentially, much longer.

 

[Amiah_world]

The fact that he did all he did there’s absolutely no fraud there, yes her intentions might’ve been to get PR & dip but he cannot prove any of this as fraud.

In what province does the child support obligation end at age 16? In BC, the age of majority is 19. Child support ends at that time, unless the child is "unable to withdraw from the parents' charge or obtain the necessaries of life". That can mean an ongoing obligation for a child attending full-time post- secondary education, or an ongoing obligation for a child who might, for example, be plagued by mental health issues that prevent them from becoming independent.

The first thing the OP needs is a DNA test to establish paternity. The Snake in the Grass is unlikely to simply agree. Likely a court order will be necessary. I expect the Snake will also seek spousal support. In that case, it would likely be ordered only on a "needs" basis rather than a "compensatory" basis and of short duration.

It will be difficult to navigate the family law issues without legal help. That will cost. Although, I did read on this forum recently where someone wrote that the courts in her province have paid lawyers on staff who do all the work required for free. Sounds a lot better than trying to qualify for legal aid. I still doubt the veracity of that story, but my granny's "Was ya' there Charlie" rule applies and I cannot say for sure.

OP says the child is two years old, he will have to pay until the child is 18, hence why I said the next 16 years and also, if she’s as evil as he says she’s definitely ask for back payment.

 

[Kaibigan]

I sponsored my actual spouse ''The Snake in the Grass''. We connected online, engaging in 5-6 months of conversation that led me to believe we could build a happy life together.
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Lesson Learned: ''Avoid marrying from abroad at all Cost - don't fall for it''.

I am quite sympathetic to your situation, but, at the same time, I won't agree with the broad brush statement about avoiding marrying from abroad at all costs. While meeting a future partner online is commonplace these days, it strikes me that being committed to marriage after 5-6 months of online chats, video calls, etc., is not the same as spending 6 months with someone 24 hours a day. In the former scenario, all you get to see is their online persona. You can be sure that while engaging with you online, they won't exhibit any negative personality traits. They will do their best to suppress them. In all likelihood, you will too.

There are many who say that an online relationship is not a relationship at all. That may be true. To me, it's not a sufficient basis on which to found a marriage, with little time together in person. Seems to me that's the real lesson here and your coming here and relating your experience serves as a tale of caution.

 

[Simba112]

I sponsored my actual spouse ''The Snake in the Grass''. We connected online, engaging in 5-6 months of conversation that led me to believe we could build a happy life together. After six months, I found myself on a flight to Morocco, covering the costs of our wedding and related expenses, initiating the immigration process. We officially married on August 15, 2019, with me shouldering all financial responsibilities and providing support in various ways. she didn't and never spent a penny! NONE. ZERO. i was the Husband-HusBANK.

Upon her successful acquisition of permanent residency in October 2020 and her move to Canada immediately the same week, a drastic shift occurred in her behaviour. She departed our home abruptly on July 18, 2021, a mere day after completing nine months of residency in Canada. Her sudden departure was accompanied by troubling news of her pregnancy. The once amiable relationship turned tumultuous, revealing her true intentions after obtaining PR status.

We engaged in frequent arguments, and it became clear that her motives were not rooted in our relationship but rather in securing permanent residency. Despite my offer to fund her return flight, emphasizing her initial claim of coming for our relationship rather than PR, she insisted on staying in Canada independently.

The unfolding events exposed a pattern of financial exploitation, with her draining my resources throughout the immigration process. I sent money regularly, covered wedding expenses, supported her family, paid immigration fees, and provided for her needs upon arrival. In return, she left abruptly, taking advantage of the pregnancy to, as it seems, secure her stay in Canada.

This situation prompted me to report the misrepresentation to border services, recognizing the evident fraud in the guise of a legitimate relationship. She meticulously orchestrated her actions, deceiving both the immigration officer and myself into believing her intentions were rooted in love. The subsequent discovery of her conversations with an ex-boyfriend, disclosing her strategy of marrying someone in Canada for PR purposes, further solidified my belief in her fraudulent intentions.

Adding to the complexity, she is attempting to exploit her PR status by claiming financial benefits and insisting that the child, conceived during our relationship and now a year and a half old, is mine. This has placed a considerable emotional and financial burden on me.

Despite my substantial contributions to her well-being, evidenced by receipts and emotional support, I have not received any communication or updates from border services on the status of my complaint since the initial report in July 2021. Recognizing the urgency and severity of the situation.

Today i just found out she sued me in court for something in the family court. ..! propably tryin to get child benefits even tho i never saw that baby since she got born almost 2 years ago!

To be continued ..!

Lesson Learned: ''Avoid marrying from abroad at all Cost - don't fall for it''.

There is almost zero chances that she will lose her permanent resident status since she was sponsored and documents proved marriage existsed . Looking at the timeline, the fact she became PR October 2020, She is eligible for Citizenship. I guess there is Citizenship in process by now. For a child, If she/he's yours, you will end up paying child support regardless you never saw a baby since birth.

 

[Kaibigan]

The fact that he did all he did there’s absolutely no fraud there, yes her intentions might’ve been to get PR & dip but he cannot prove any of this as fraud.


OP says the child is two years old, he will have to pay until the child is 18, hence why I said the next 16 years and also, if she’s as evil as he says she’s definitely ask for back payment.

Point taken, for sure. Although date on which liability ends will be age of majority where the child resides and, even then, the liability can go on well beyond that date.

An order for retroactive child support is almost assured. In the family law cases I see here in BC every day, the courts chant the incantation that "child support is the right of the child and cannot be waived by the parent". It is possible, in some cases, to reduce the arrears by showing "hardship". There is also a resistance in some cases to order arrears extending back for more than 3 years. In the OP's case, that threshold has not been reached.

 

[steaky]

Lesson Learned: ''Avoid marrying from abroad at all Cost - don't fall for it''.

Even if you marry or dating locally, it might cost you too. How about just being a bachelor or bachelorette?

 

[Kaibigan]

Even if you marry or dating locally, it might cost you too. How about just being a bachelor or bachelorette?

That might beat having to wear a bulletproof vest, out of fear of your beloved:

https://www.bccourts.ca/jdb-txt/sc/23/15/2023BCSC1589.htm

The whole judgment is an entertaining bit of reading, but the bulletproof part first comes up at para. 32.

 

[ValDen]

I sponsored my actual spouse ''The Snake in the Grass''. We connected online, engaging in 5-6 months of conversation that led me to believe we could build a happy life together. After six months, I found myself on a flight to Morocco, covering the costs of our wedding and related expenses, initiating the immigration process. We officially married on August 15, 2019, with me shouldering all financial responsibilities and providing support in various ways. she didn't and never spent a penny! NONE. ZERO. i was the Husband-HusBANK.

Upon her successful acquisition of permanent residency in October 2020 and her move to Canada immediately the same week, a drastic shift occurred in her behaviour. She departed our home abruptly on July 18, 2021, a mere day after completing nine months of residency in Canada. Her sudden departure was accompanied by troubling news of her pregnancy. The once amiable relationship turned tumultuous, revealing her true intentions after obtaining PR status.

We engaged in frequent arguments, and it became clear that her motives were not rooted in our relationship but rather in securing permanent residency. Despite my offer to fund her return flight, emphasizing her initial claim of coming for our relationship rather than PR, she insisted on staying in Canada independently.

The unfolding events exposed a pattern of financial exploitation, with her draining my resources throughout the immigration process. I sent money regularly, covered wedding expenses, supported her family, paid immigration fees, and provided for her needs upon arrival. In return, she left abruptly, taking advantage of the pregnancy to, as it seems, secure her stay in Canada.

This situation prompted me to report the misrepresentation to border services, recognizing the evident fraud in the guise of a legitimate relationship. She meticulously orchestrated her actions, deceiving both the immigration officer and myself into believing her intentions were rooted in love. The subsequent discovery of her conversations with an ex-boyfriend, disclosing her strategy of marrying someone in Canada for PR purposes, further solidified my belief in her fraudulent intentions.

Adding to the complexity, she is attempting to exploit her PR status by claiming financial benefits and insisting that the child, conceived during our relationship and now a year and a half old, is mine. This has placed a considerable emotional and financial burden on me.

Despite my substantial contributions to her well-being, evidenced by receipts and emotional support, I have not received any communication or updates from border services on the status of my complaint since the initial report in July 2021. Recognizing the urgency and severity of the situation.

Today i just found out she sued me in court for something in the family court. ..! propably tryin to get child benefits even tho i never saw that baby since she got born almost 2 years ago!

To be continued ..!

Lesson Learned: ''Avoid marrying from abroad at all Cost - don't fall for it''.

extremely sorry that this happened to you. My husband and I have been in the PR process for 19 months now and had to resubmit more documentation to prove the validity of our relationship. Which has now been accepted, thank god.
I do need to say that the person you married is an absolute POS! This is why it takes so long for IRCC to go through everything, because of the person that she is.
Unfortunately, you found a bad egg in the batch. But, you are a father and could be a great supportive dad. Don't let that snake in the grass control your life with your child. Its too late to send the package back, but you can still enjoy the gift that was in it.