Love or Opportunity? Coffee Social

[Halfmoon]

I'm up (still).

But you probably wanted girl-talk first thing in the morning.

Exactly what do you describe as "girl - talk"?

 

[Halfmoon]

Do what most women do when they don't have a problem: create one.

Call us the "home improvement" team. There's always something that can be fixed or "improved"!!

More, more, more, more, more, morrrrrrrrrrrre, mwa ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!!

 

[jerry84]

Thanks hun! I needed that. I honestly have just left it for now, I couldn't be bothered. My exams are coming up and he is least concerned about how much stress he is giving me

 

[lunas]

When I said why would you go and tell her everything.. HE GOES AND TELLS HER AGAIN "MY WIFE IS MAD AT ME CUZ I DISCUSSED ISSUES WITH YOU", he is 28 years old and I have never seen him behave immaturely .. let alone this level of immatureness. I don't know what to do. My heart is sinking, and I hate discussing my issues with anyone .

It's certainly very wrong of him to do that and repeat the mistake. May be your friend needs to step away and say "I'm sorry I can't discuss those things with you" and stop talking. Discussing and talking about things with your husband is your right and your friend is taking that right away from you even though he/she doesn't mean to. Not okay from your husband to do that. Hang in there. I'm not a fan of the "not talking" situation. But wait until you two are more calm to talk about the issue, because you can't ignore it. Don't call or text about the same thing again today. Bake or invest your time in something you like today, love yourself and then you can send him an email about the things you did today.
I wish we could all in the forum be girlfriends and meet for coffee and let our frustruations out. Oh wait, this is a coffee social.

 

[Halfmoon]

Of course there is. Men won't stop wearing socks with their sandals!

Why do they splash like walruses when doing anything with the sink?

 

[lunas]

Is it Friday yet?

 

[lunas]

My husband sent me flowers last Friday and I left them in the office. So today I come back and I see some of them bloomed. I'm so excited, lol I know silly but this cough is killing me and its only Monday.

 

[Halfmoon]

Thanks hun! I needed that. I honestly have just left it for now, I couldn't be bothered. My exams are coming up and he is least concerned about how much stress he is giving me

Oh did I leave out the part that there is a secret compartment inside titled "I can be selfish - Advanced notice not required"?

I ignore and pick and choose my battles. It's really not about who's right or wrong, it's about finding common ground in order to have a happy medium. Miraculously, you really don't have to tell a man when he's wrong, because he KNOWs when he's wrong (but often times he'll never admit that to you). He'll show you in other ways that he's wrong but you shouldn't be the one to figure that out for him.....I could be wrong about this.....LOL but that's been my observation since birth!

 

[jerry84]

It's certainly very wrong of him to do that and repeat the mistake. May be your friend needs to step away and say "I'm sorry I can't discuss those things with you" and stop talking. Discussing and talking about things with your husband is your right and your friend is taking that right away from you even though he/she doesn't mean to. Not okay from your husband to do that. Hang in there. I'm not a fan of the "not talking" situation. But wait until you two are more calm to talk about the issue, because you can't ignore it. Don't call or text about the same thing again today. Bake or invest your time in something you like today, love yourself and then you can send him an email about the things you did today.
I wish we could all in the forum be girlfriends and meet for coffee and let our frustruations out. Oh wait, this is a coffee social.

Thank you for the advise hun, I really appreciate it. I am so glad I can come here discuss my problems without being judged. No-one knows who I am and won't judge me. This long distance bullsh*t is so frustrating. I am losing my mind already.

 

[Halfmoon]

It's certainly very wrong of him to do that and repeat the mistake. May be your friend needs to step away and say "I'm sorry I can't discuss those things with you" and stop talking. Discussing and talking about things with your husband is your right and your friend is taking that right away from you even though he/she doesn't mean to. Not okay from your husband to do that. Hang in there. I'm not a fan of the "not talking" situation. But wait until you two are more calm to talk about the issue, because you can't ignore it. Don't call or text about the same thing again today. Bake or invest your time in something you like today, love yourself and then you can send him an email about the things you did today.
I wish we could all in the forum be girlfriends and meet for coffee and let our frustruations out. Oh wait, this is a coffee social.

To me, that would be a disrespect to our marriage. I would set him straight and dissapear for 2 weeks! He'd have to hire bounty hunters to locate me!!

As Lunas said, today is "you" day. Make it all about you.

 

[jerry84]

To me, that would be a disrespect to our marriage. I would set him straight and dissapear for 2 weeks! He'd have to hire bounty hunters to locate me!!

As Lunas said, today is "you" day. Make it all about you.

I KNOW RIGHT! Who doesn't have problems? But you don't go advertising them? I am totally disappearing as of today as I have my exams and I need to focus, but can't help my stupid mind/heart think about him!

 

[Halfmoon]

I KNOW RIGHT! Who doesn't have problems? But you don't go advertising them? I am totally disappearing as of today as I have my exams and I need to focus, but can't help my stupid mind/heart think about him!

What's more important and beneficial right now? Your sanity, peace of mind and happiness? Don't blow your exams, you're stronger than that!!!

 

[jerry84]

What's more important and beneficial right now? Your sanity, peace of mind and happiness? Don't blow your exams, you're stronger than that!!!

I hope I am as strong as I think I am. I don't know why this is happening =( I feel so miserable, eyes are swollen from crying all night. He has never done this .. EVER!

 

[lunas]

I was wondering how many of you have a good support system at home (if you don't live with your husband yet).
I am in immigrant to the US myself and I don't have any family here. Only friends. I was married before and it was tough to lose all my "new" family in the blink of an eye. I hope CIC doesn't play that against me. I don't really have strong ties to the US, well, I have a good job and it took me a while to get where I'm at but no family.

 

[kyc221]

I was wondering how many of you have a good support system at home (if you don't live with your husband yet).
I am in immigrant to the US myself and I don't have any family here. Only friends. I was married before and it was tough to lose all my "new" family in the blink of an eye. I hope CIC doesn't play that against me. I don't really have strong ties to the US, well, I have a good job and it took me a while to get where I'm at but no family.

I don't see why CIC would play that against you ??? ??? if you have proof of your relationship, then that's all that matters, imo.

Anyway, about support system, yeah, I have a very good one. DH for one, but my friends are my family. I'm lucky to have a group of friends that I adore and whom I can always rely on. Leaving them and my professional life here are a real sacrifice, but my hubby and his family are worth it.