CdnandTrini
Champion Member
- Mar 31, 2013
- 75
- Visa Office......
- Port of Spain
- App. Filed.......
- Feb. 7, 2013
- AOR Received.
- Sept. 10, 2013 and "in process" Sept. 24, 2013
- File Transfer...
- March 28, 2013 (sponsor approval confirmed)
- Med's Done....
- Jan. 18, 2013
- Interview........
- Waived
- Passport Req..
- Oct. 7, 2013 - Thank you Jesus!
- VISA ISSUED...
- Nov. 4, 2013 - Thank you Lord
- LANDED..........
- Dec. 14, 2013 - Praise God. PR Card Feb. 14, 2014
Hi greengurl, this is not uncommon actually so please do not despair. You are correct in that it has suddenly become "real" and that is a whole other layer of feelings that surface no matter how we "think" we may react to the news. My husband and I went through some of this before he landed and some bumps afterwards as well. My hubby had never left the Caribbean either and I do believe it makes a difference for most of the spouses who have never been here.greengurl said:Thank you all for your comments about hubby's police check. As mentioned, he is fully aware of the cost and also that it could add time to our process.
Since we have gone in process, things between us have been very tense. I thought it was wonderful to finally see us in progress. I don't know if it suddenly became real for my hubby but he didn't see it as something wonderful. Sometimes he says things and it sounds like he doesn't even want to come to Canada. He has never left Jamaica and I think that he is just scared of the unknown, which I can't really blame him for. I try put myself in his shoes so even though it could add time to our process, I don't want to push him too hard about the PC.
I know it sounds crazy but any advice for dealing with a hubby who doesn't seem that thrilled to be coming to Canada??
Add to that, the fact that "on average" women are more apt to talk about their fears and/or excitement more openly than men and you will see he is probably not acting totally out of character. I will PM you with a few more details later and feel free to PM me with any specific questions. I am just going out for a bit now but will be back later with some suggestions. Blessings.