Kingston,Jamaica

[Halfmoon]

They sent my husband to secondary immigration on his first visit to Jamaica because his return ticket was booked for 7 months in the future. The IO was suspicious when he said he was coming to live with his fiancee and get married, and "flagged" him. 5 months later when he was leaving, the immigration officer actually asked for his marriage certificate! Fortunately for us, we had gotten one right after we got married, and he had it with him. On his second visit, they asked for his return ticket/itinerary, and when he said he didn't have it because he booked online and hadn't printed it, they sent him to secondary again, and gave him a computer and told him to print off the itinerary and show them. Again, fortunately he had a return ticket booked and was able to print it for them.

My husband and I were apart for exactly 11 months and 2 days while we waited. I won't lie, it was hard. However, I think we had an "advantage" in that our relationship started online so we were already used to being separated once we had an emotional connection. Separation means nothing to us, being together is what's important. As my husband said, "I was separated from you for more than 30 years before we were together, I can bear another year and a half to make sure we are never separated again."

It's so true Charlie - there are people who ask me how is it possible to uphold a marriage long distance. I say to them, a marriage is still a marriage regardless of distance. We have the same love, joy that all healthy marriages have and have similar issues and disagreements like all human relationships. Hubby and I say to each other how do we manage to do it with such minimal "pain"? Our success factor is really in creating goals for our self where we are keeping productive in a good way. Keeps us busy and we then get to encourage one another and share our achievements while apart. We've set routines to create the consistency and stability that relationships need. Last but not least, we constantly reassure our love and commitment for each other not only by words but by action. My hubby said something of the same " If there was any lack of happiness from the time were born until we met, I will make sure you get all and more for the rest of your life".

 

[Halfmoon]

being together!! lol

Yes I see it now. Being apart but do know this is just a moment in time - it's not forever. I wish you the best in whatever road you take.

 

[Anada]

Thank you all - we will see. Today is today, next week is next week....etc.

My Husband has said all that to me to (well in other words), but im tired of talk now - and im just tired of the shituation.

His lifestyle is not that of a settled married man, and thats not even entirely his fault. Its a matter of where he lives, company, and how he's been able to survive all these years. Im not comfortable with it...time for WIFEY to change up the program!

 

[Halfmoon]

Now don't get it confused girls, we have have our moments of heat which sometimes I actually look forward to in a weird way. We spat, kick and brawl it out, I tell him where to go and he get's silent (why do men always get silent in a disagreement) and then I tell him I have better things to do then hear him breathe and then sometimes a day goes by then RRRRRRing, I may or may not answer right away but when I do, I see he's rebooted and adjusted his thoughts and himself and appreciates me more and vice versa...I in turn find joy in my heart that we're even stronger and closer than before.

 

[Halfmoon]

Thank you all - we will see. Today is today, next week is next week....etc.

My Husband has said all that to me to (well in other words), but im tired of talk now - and im just tired of the *censored word*uation.

His lifestyle is not that of a settled married man, and thats not even entirely his fault. Its a matter of where he lives, company, and how he's been able to survive all these years. Im not comfortable with it...time for WIFEY to change up the program!

Now I'm going to talk to you like a "sister" here, women cannot change a man nor his ways...maybe temporarily but it always resurfaces. Only he will change based on his hearts desire to change in who he associates with, his pass time activities. The respect he has for you will be the driving force to adjust any of his ways that makes you feel uncomfortable. An honorable man will always honor the desires in his heart. If you try to change anything about him he's not willing to do on his own, resentment may surface later on.

 

[Halfmoon]

Good Sunday afternoon discussion session while I'm trying to clean and cook!

 

[dancehallvid]

dam i have not bin on this form for like 3mnths now.how is er body doing? as for me im kinda of like this place.but er thing is tax tax tax lol

 

[Anada]

Now I'm going to talk to you like a "sister" here, women cannot change a man nor his ways...maybe temporarily but it always resurfaces. Only he will change based on his hearts desire to change in who he associates with, his pass time activities. The respect he has for you will be the driving force to adjust any of his ways that makes you feel uncomfortable. An honorable man will always honor the desires in his heart. If you try to change anything about him he's not willing to do on his own, resentment may surface later on.

you are correct...and its not his ways i want to change. Its the life absence of ME that has got to change.

its the 50 million cousins/friends that come to our door, like he has no woman - that i want to change, its not necessarily the lifestyle - its the ever 'party a keep, party a keep, party a bloodclaaaaat keep, every day of the week'

As an individual he's very strong minded and not a follower - but u know what, he's still a man. im not making it that flexible or easy no more, im not leaving that much leash no more. No woman can program a man, especially not a jamaican man....but switching up the program means:

YOU EAT breakfast before u bun ur spliff - you dont step out on the road to ga pawty, unless im there with u. You dont work with your bredrens every day to survive in life, u work along side your woman to BUILD one.

Everything else can gwaan - the the lack of my absence, thats got to come to a rapid end.

Where he lives u cant stop associating with ppl u have grown up with from babies - u cant drop the world or ppl cause now u have a white woman....ppls get baddups/gunshots for that kinda issh. There needs to be a happy medium....the happy medium is me being there.


Everyone keeps saying to me: yall never even lived together....how u know its gonna work. Well pretty sure it would and will, but now im gonna put it to the test.

 

[Halfmoon]

you are correct...and its not his ways i want to change. Its the life absence of ME that has got to change.

its the 50 million cousins/friends that come to our door, like he has no woman - that i want to change, its not necessarily the lifestyle - its the ever 'party a keep, party a keep, party a bloodclaaaaat keep, every day of the week'

As an individual he's very strong minded and not a follower - but u know what, he's still a man. im not making it that flexible or easy no more, im not leaving that much leash no more. No woman can program a man, especially not a jamaican man....but switching up the program means:

YOU EAT breakfast before u bun ur spliff - you dont step out on the road to ga pawty, unless im there with u. You dont work with your bredrens every day to survive in life, u work along side your woman to BUILD one.

Everything else can gwaan - the the lack of my absence, thats got to come to a rapid end.

Where he lives u cant stop associating with ppl u have grown up with from babies - u cant drop the world or ppl cause now u have a white woman....ppls get baddups/gunshots for that kinda issh. There needs to be a happy medium....the happy medium is me being there.


Everyone keeps saying to me: yall never even lived together....how u know its gonna work. Well pretty sure it would and will, but now im gonna put it to the test.

All I gosta say about this is...wow. That's a hectic life.

 

[Anada]

YUP

 

[Halfmoon]

YUP


Bootcamp - Sergeant Anada.

 

[Anada]

u tink a joke lol plenty ppl down there know my boot well big already.



my boot well heavy - having said that: i respect my husband enough to not over power his role as the MAN - he does have goals, there is a course he wants to take in the fall....he has DREAMS!! .... he is not required to listen to me....im not going to there under the 'you have to'.....but now im here ' so what u wanna do - let me help you'

 

[Halfmoon]

Has anyone done an interview with VO and if so what was the experience like? and overall what kinds of questions may be asked?

 

[ready_fi_move_on]

morning family and happy monday
i am soo glad the weekend is over cause it means kgn is back to work and getting more people outta the way so they can get to all of us still waiting ......boy i am anxious and nervous..never though there would be a point in my life that i hate weekends and long weekends especially ......
kgn send home me family nuh please give me something to smile bout ;D

 

[Anada]

I saw an email this morning from 'immigration' - then realized it was just a notification from this forum lol