Kingston,Jamaica

[Jamgirl]

I don't believe that, and if you sat down, calmly, and thought about it, you wouldn't believe yourself either. You need to "hctib" slap yourself out of this thinking! Put on your big girl panties on and tell yourself you can do this so that you can have a lifetime of happiness with your man! Anada, joking aside, you have it in you, you just have to find it and sure, scream if you have to, but you CAN and WILL do this!

 

[ready_fi_move_on]

Laid off or fired hmm sounds appeasing but if you are laid off …you wont receive unemployment if you are not in the country and now you have to prove that you are actively looking for work
Lol *** there is so much fucking red tape it is fucking crazy its ridiculous how all our lives are being put on hold by a bunch of fucking people who at the end of the day get to go home and be in there husband/wives arms I tell you its unfair and then they sit on the asses and hold up things just because they can fuck this fucking sucks
Shit I am on the phone with my travel agent right now long weekend July I am going home to get laid

 

[Anada]

and i have my own issues...that require work but none the less they are issues. I HAVE MAJOR jealousy issues!! i also have trust issues...because im the type that could be trusted to watch u conceal a body and not say a word...and yet its sooo hard to trust so blindly cause ive had it broken by least likely of ppl in the past...i have MAJOR jealousey issues...not because my man ever makes me feel less....but the everyday summer, women frolicking around in the sun, wining and bubbling and everyon drinking a juice even if out on the road....or him going to even a car show without me and having a GOOD TIME INFURIATES ME!!!!!!!! IM mean i get FURIOUS!!!!!...and i cant stiffle the man and a jus suh it go in Jamaica....but as for me and my inner person and my thoughts....they can get REALLY effed up...

and tht is not healthy for him OR me....but sadly this is the way it is...I DONT EVEN LIKE HEARING ppl passing my in the road if they sound like they have a vagina!!! IT MAKES ME MADDDDDD when i know hes extra sexy and fine, and yea hes ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLL mine, but far as im concerned...IM not the one they gets to look at him every day, or smeel him coming fresh clean out the shower, or watch him look all sexy when hes bussing blanks for his tunes....when i say this is driving me mental that is a gross understatement.

and then whats gonna happen because he knows i get worked up...i leave him open to lie to me rather to avoid my WORKED UP NESS...but i cant take it no more. ...i cant keep the man in a cage...but far as im concered...they got wayyyy to much effing freedom down there...everything is just tooooooooooooo easy!!!!

 

[AliCatShaw]

OK here's my 2 cents....coming from a long previous marriage of 17 yrs. You've got to live for yourself, PERIOD. Yes we all love our spouses of course, but they can't be the do all end all of our lives. Put the focus back on yourselves and your children, live and do the things that make you happy. That way when the spouses come home....you will be a happy well rounded woman that realizes she can make it in life on her own, but how enjoyable it can be to share it with someone you love. I made the mistake in my first marriage of making everything revolve around him and pleasing him. DUH!
And regular visits for new BOB's also help.

 

[ready_fi_move_on]

Anada hon I don’t think they have it any easier than we do yeah
Life seems more free there but think about the advantage
Remember my girl a yu wear the ring and any dutty gal can look but don’t touch
If you have faith in your man then hon there is no need to be jelous
Trust me when I tell you there are times when I get so jelous and angry that wish I could lock my hubby his house but that wont accomplish nothing but resentment
So what do I do trust in my love for him and visa versa and wait
God it hurts to wait but what else can I do
If only I heard something anything at least I would know there was some kind of progress
Shit this is hard

 

[Anada]

OK here's my 2 cents....coming from a long previous marriage of 17 yrs. You've got to live for yourself, PERIOD. Yes we all love our spouses of course, but they can't be the do all end all of our lives. Put the focus back on yourselves and your children, live and do the things that make you happy. That way when the spouses come home....you will be a happy well rounded woman that realizes she can make it in life on her own, but how enjoyable it can be to share it with someone you love. I made the mistake in my first marriage of making everything revolve around him and pleasing him. DUH!
And regular visits for new BOB's also help.

i do that every single day.....my world cant revolve around someone who isnt even here....but my world here is very pathetic without him....my kids, my job....and phonecalls...THATS my life...i could be around a thousand ppl...and still feel the same way....

BUT im trying to force myself to go out this weekend....where i will hve no fun....i went out with a group of ppl down here right before we got married...and then realized how ready i am to get married...cause i stayed sober, alert..and was just BORED because i wasnt with who i wanted to be with.

 

[Anada]

OK here's my 2 cents....coming from a long previous marriage of 17 yrs. You've got to live for yourself, PERIOD. Yes we all love our spouses of course, but they can't be the do all end all of our lives. Put the focus back on yourselves and your children, live and do the things that make you happy. That way when the spouses come home....you will be a happy well rounded woman that realizes she can make it in life on her own, but how enjoyable it can be to share it with someone you love. I made the mistake in my first marriage of making everything revolve around him and pleasing him. DUH!
And regular visits for new BOB's also help.

lol what are new bobs?? lool

 

[nae-nae]

hello everyone

sorry to butt in here, I've been reading the conversation and thought to suggest to you anada that you give it a try for the summer months while the kids are off school. Take a leave of absence from work. It doesn't hurt to give it a try....if it's not working out, come back before school starts. If it is, stay and enrol the kids in school.

I know other women that have done it and they didn't mind it. You only live once!

if you can afford it, and can have your husband work and support you and the kids while you are there, why not try it?

on the other hand....it may not take 18 months to process. Who knows, it may only take 5 like some of the others on this forum. One never knows how long their process is going to take, you just have to live one day at a time

 

[Anada]

Anada hon I don't think they have it any easier than we do yeah
Life seems more free there but think about the advantage
Remember my girl a yu wear the ring and any dutty gal can look but don't touch
If you have faith in your man then hon there is no need to be jelous
Trust me when I tell you there are times when I get so jelous and angry that wish I could lock my hubby his house but that wont accomplish nothing but resentment
So what do I do trust in my love for him and visa versa and wait
God it hurts to wait but what else can I do
If only I heard something anything at least I would know there was some kind of progress
*censored word* this is hard

my man said he can defend himself...and no dutty gyal could ever get that close to even chat to him, man a tugs, and not no loose man...a rate him rate mi...and would never diss me like that. ...then says yuh madd' lol......YEs im madd!! lool but i see catties eyeing him more while when im with him....so i can only think if he were out how much worse they would be espcially well knowing he's got a sexy foreign women...u well know nuff mattey *censored word*es THRIVE off the tought of tiefing a nex womans man!!

BEFORE i got married i thought the wifey mateys parties sold off....now i bun them out!!!!! BEFORE i got married Tanya Stephens its a pity was one of my fav tunes...NOW i cant manage it....women down there are SCANdalous iya....but he assured they could never get that close...but that assurance aint extra assuring especially when u got urself a star....but luckily...they know im kinda effed up already...i would never fight over a man...but i would hurt someone over blatent disrespect YES....If u know thats MY man...and ur there trying to get brite..i feel sorry for u.

 

[AliCatShaw]

lol what are new bobs?? lool

*battery operated boyfriends

 

[Anada]

hello everyone

sorry to butt in here, I've been reading the conversation and thought to suggest to you anada that you give it a try for the summer months while the kids are off school. Take a leave of absence from work. It doesn't hurt to give it a try....if it's not working out, come back before school starts. If it is, stay and enrol the kids in school.

I know other women that have done it and they didn't mind it. You only live once!

if you can afford it, and can have your husband work and support you and the kids while you are there, why not try it?

on the other hand....it may not take 18 months to process. Who knows, it may only take 5 like some of the others on this forum. One never knows how long their process is going to take, you just have to live one day at a time

thats what im saying too...but i work fro a chinese company...and they VERY strict.i can leave every few months for a week no prob...but anything more than that nah make it...plus i wouldnt get paid nce i use up my vacation days...then how would i pay my bills...

 

[Anada]

taking the whole summer off to be down there oh GOD how nice that would be..and so perfect.

 

[icesfluffy]

im soo lost bare with me while i explain this i went to go check my email suprize i got one from ecas tracker (but) when i opened it it said was showin my latest update to my ecas but there was nothing new it said the same thing that is already in my ecas "We received your application for permanent residence on August 23, 2011."


does this mean anything

 

[nae-nae]

aww that sucks anada! is there any way your hubby can support you while you're there? maybe he can help you get an under the table type job?

 

[Anada]

*battery operated boyfriends

looooool i had a teeny tiny bullet someone bought me at a toy party couple years back...but battery died..and well i just depend on myself and then shower LOL...but shiiiiit....we try u know...like not to be explicit, but i cum for him nuff times on phone too....but whop di dooo....not when i know what hes packing lawd gawd it makes me weak!!