Kingston,Jamaica

[ready_fi_move_on]

@ANADA
You need to look into this a lot and see your opitions before you decide to up and go
I know this is stressfull and I know how you feel trust me it has gotten to me too big time on many occasions
There was actually a time that I started packing and was ready to book it ..then a friend of mine brought me back and showed me the ups and downs of what might happen so please consider
If you are a permanent resident you may loose your health care coverage after 6 months out of the country
Also obtaining a job legally in jamaica is hard due to the fact you are not a citizen of that country anymore
There are a lot of obstacles to over come. Trust me my girl I feel your pain … I think about it a lot
Myself and probably if I didn’t have my daughter to think about and her life here in Canada I would have said fuck it this country and gone home long time. But I made the decision to stay here and that’s what hubby I decided on to build a life here (even though I full intend on going home one day for good God willing)…however back to my point don’t take the decision lightly. If you decide to go I wish you luck….. If you decide to stay it will be hard and even harder still but the lord does not give us more than we can bare… trust me I feel like I am at my breaking point its been 83 days now since I sent in my application to immigration Canada and have heard nothing back I call and I get pure attiude from the Bitch them that work there…. I don’t even know if they received my application because I had to get a relative to mail it off for me due to business out of town and they mailed it regular mail so no tracking… it driving me crazy but what can I do but wait till I here from them… and plan another trip back home to see hubby and step daughter
Your life soon sort out my girl …all of us waiting things soon sort out …. So keep the faith and remember with ever day that goes by is one less that we have to wait to be reunited with our loved ones

 

[ready_fi_move_on]

please forgive me the cuss words just slipped out i realized after i re-ready my post

 

[Jamgirl]

yes, Ready had brought up some very valid points... I too have thought all these things, one thing to add... not only could you be at risk for losing health coverage but your CTB as well.... just prepare yourself wholly before acting on your decision

 

[Anada]

i hear that....i sooo hear that....as for me...im cad born citizen....cant lose my entitlements...but where kids are concerned....my only fear is IF i leave them behind with their Dad...well they will then get settled in there with him, and then i wont be able to get them easily back...cause what if they wont want to come back i dunno.... our plan is to build a temporary life up here at least long enough till he can get a citizen status, and then jump ship when were good and ready....BUT for the next 1.5 years...i dont and cant see myself living like this anymore...its wayy to hard on me, on our relationship...on my sanity...on everything. We can only do the best we can but this is not enough....i wnot let go of my things...just keep them in storage...we will return, but this time i dont want to go home without him....i could so do this EASY but after having carried my babies...even though they step mom fairly decent, and they have an excellent Father.....i just dont want to have that peace of mind of me not having my babies ever live with me again, even when he finally does come up here....but what would end up happening, is we'd have to move back to the city im initially from to do a 50/50 split with the kids....which i am also willing to do.

 

[Jamgirl]

Losing your health coverage and CTB payments have nothing to do with your citizenship... if you move out of province/country for longer than 6 months you will lose both....

 

[Anada]

oh God i cant do all this thnking anymore...not to mention my pumpum is throbbing and dying for help, and i just feel so torment i could SCREAM!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Anada]

Losing your health coverage and CTB payments have nothing to do with your citizenship... if you move out of province/country for longer than 6 months you will lose both....

how will they know i moved out? i know that sounds like a dumb qustion, but how would they really know..and wht if i come back to visit before the 6 mo moths is up?...

and even if i did lose it, when i come back to CAD to live, why wouldnt i be able to easily get it back?

 

[Anada]

im so miserable i cant even enjoy time spent on the phone no more, i am forever unsatisfied..i dont wanna hear him, i dont wanna hear lovers rocks beating in the background...i dont want nothing unless its him in person...even while writting this i feel my eyes wanting to swellfeel trapped here. Very trapped...and when i start feeling stiffled...its starts to fuck with me at large...just part of my character trait.

 

[Jamgirl]

First of all, in my thinking, you would have to keep a Canadian address, but they may be able to find out you are out of country thru customs but that could be a reach. You would be entitled to receive your benefits again when you reach back but it may take some time, up to 3 months with your health care coverage and the same for CTB unless they make you prove your income from when you were gone... not to sure about all the details but that is a general

 

[Anada]

First of all, in my thinking, you would have to keep a Canadian address, but they may be able to find out you are out of country thru customs but that could be a reach. You would be entitled to receive your benefits again when you reach back but it may take some time, up to 3 months with your health care coverage and the same for CTB unless they make you prove your income from when you were gone... not to sure about all the details but that is a general

its come to the point im wishing i could laid off or fired....I know normally u cant collect EI if fired, but there are exceptions...and i been working non stop here for 3 years...but they told me they cant lay me off cause my job per, id have to quit...and you cant quit and collect EI....would be the only way i could keep my address, is by having that money coming in to pay rent....and even at that, thats also illiegal cause u not supposed to be out of country when on EI...

I CANT have a baby, at least not until i come up with 5k to reverse having got tied years ago...so i dont even have mat leave to look forward to,......im just a giant ball of depressed...i got to get out of here.

 

[chickie72]

Anada, I feel for you girlfriend, there is not a day that goes by that I don't wanna say screw this and just take off to JA to be with my hubby. For 2 1/2 years we were together and we went everywhere together, grocery shopping, clubbing, visiting friends, church, we were never without each other except to go to work. The day I had to see him off at the Toronto airport, just about killed me and I felt like I truly was losing my other half. But common sense has kept me from taking off to go live down there, weigh the pros and cons of what you are thinking, that is what I did and there were too many cons for me overcome so I have decided to stay and stick it out even knowing that my process is going to be way longer then most peoples because we have so many issues still to deal with once our app gets to Kingston. Man, I feel you on the sex thing, all I can say for that is God gave us 8 fingers and 2 thumbs lol but mostly I just try to put it out of my mind. Good luck on your decision.

 

[AliCatShaw]

*princess wave*

*snorted outloud!

 

[ready_fi_move_on]

anada honey i know how you feel
and only you know what is best for you
but PLEASE look at the long run circumstances beofre you make your decision
maybe it will work for you ....i am a citizen and honestly would love nothing more than to be in hubbies arms it is very frustrating trust me missing so many things about him ....after considering mrs shaws advice i have a trip planned for this weekend to purchase so assitive devices to help me pass the long haul
i also try and go and see hubby as much as possible SHIT it spent 500 dollars to spend 2.5 days with him
looking forward to the day when i wont have to this anymore GOD I MISS HIM
omg i am getting depressed ....all of a sudden moving back till he gets through does not seem that bad at all
shit i was trying to convince you to consider the options and consiquence and in the process start convince myself to do the same as you

 

[Jamgirl]

well, if you could switch to your mother's address then that may be an option... it all risky so not advising you to do it that way just simply guessing

I hear you on this tho.... 99% of us in this forum that are still waiting are separated from our spouses and it is hard, very hard. You need to get back to your focus you had last week... you were good! you had a plan to visit every 3 months and you were strong about it! Stay strong!! set small goals if it helps. You said you booked a ticket to go in July, so start the count down til then... that is less overwhelming than thinking of the next year and a half. This process turns us into our own worst enemies, so make it easier on yourself and take some pressure off. baby steps, my girl.

PS, you can do this... BUT, you NEED to tell yourself that EVERYDAY!!!

 

[Anada]

i know...i could frequent down there on weekend...but cause i have my kisd here in tdot...and they family a 4 hour car ride away....i dont have the flexiblity...i have a trip lined up for next month...and i go every 3.5...but FAKKKKK the pros are stay here, but the cons are me loosing my mind at the thought of 18 months...dont think my marriage would work if it had to go down like that...i hate ot say it but honest....id rather say fuck it alllllllll...go have ur fucking freedom just leave me the HELL ALONE i dont need this stress and shit..while im down here up and arms...and everyone down there ahving the time of their lives!!!


yes i know that sounds messed up right cause im supposed to love him, which I DOOOO and yes i know he loves me blah blah blah....but the sake of our marriage...FOR LIFE 18 months living like this is fucked....hell i had a brother who was married and then divorced within 18 months...so anything can happen nah mean