Sigh... I was at work... typing, posted, wanted to adjust, people came around desk, pressed delete, closed it down! I worked hard on that little blurb lol.
Anyways...........
I will give a mini version of it.
I was saying that I was really nieve thinking that the hardest part of my marriage was going to be "the time apart and the immigration process"... and I was certain that If we could make it threw 3 years of not being together and being in a long distant relationship and dealing with immigration that once we were together finally that the rest of our relationship would be smooth sailing and that we would never "take eachother for granted". But I was totally wrong.... After my hubby had landed and that honeymoon phase had ended, that is when reality kicked in, and, other than the normal issues a married couple deal with there was also a lot of other issues resulting from the transition of him coming here. The most challenging thing for me, was having to be the one who was responisble for everything and for him, was being totally dependant on me for everything. There is just way too much room for conflict in a relationship when you dont feel like things are 50/50. We knew it would have to be that way but it was a tough ride in the beginning. two worlds colliding into one. So happy we were able to put our pride to the side and we were able to trust eachother enough to know that in the end things would be just as we imagined.