Kingston,Jamaica

[lonely_wife]

Hi everyone!!!

LHNB.. I would strongly agree with Canuck on the things you can do to distract yourself.... I know that for myself I worked a lot of overtime so that I wouldn't have to come home to an empty house. This also gave me the opportunity to save a little money so that I could go visit hubby in Jamaica more often and also put a little money aside so that when he got here we go travel and do things together. I also had the reorganised everything all the closets and bedroom so that when he got here he would have room to put his belongings.... I also bought a few things so that when he got here (if he gotten here in winter) he wouldn't of froze. I think keeping busy and surrounding yourself with people is the key. I found that when I isolated myself it would make the time pass so slowly and that's when I would think about being apart from my husband. My husband has been here for almost a year already and even if it feels like we were never apart and even though I remember how frustrating and long the process was, it seem to have forgotten about it.

Congrats to all who received updates that your applications are on the way to Kingston...

I hope everyone has a wonderful day and more families are reunited!!!!

 

[Sassyoneil]

UPDATE!!! UPDATE!!

Hubby got the PPR Call this morning! She said he should bring in his Passport with the DHL slip!!

They also asked him to take in his Phone records..(he is on it as we speak)..I was wondering why though because I sent in Phone records with the Applications..well most of the records was from my end. Anyway not questioning it..I am soo EXCITED!! I couldn't even eat today at eork the way how mi excited!

He just re did his Meds so I wasn't expecting them to call so soon..he got the medical redo request Friday in the mail and did it Monday..today is Wednesday.

Thank you Jesus!!

 

[bestisyettocome]

Omg i can just imagine your excitment. i'm so happy for you guys...yeahhhhhh congrats to you... y kingston serious this year..keep it upppppp kingston
they are doing an amazing job for 2012...


who's nexxxxxxxttttt

 

[CharlieD10]

Good afternoon to everyone! Congratulations Sassyoneil, you are in the home stretch now!! Get busy organising that reunion!! ;D ;D ;D

STATUS UPDATES

2008
NAMES DATE FILED LATEST UPDATES TOTAL TIME

Sheraig(Skilled Class) Nov 07 Doc requested and Submitted
Torontogirl June 08 Husband Landed 20 months
Maple Aug 08 HUBBY LANDED 23 Months
Missingmybaby Oct 08 HUBBY LANDED 25 Months
Sassy Nov 08 Hubby Landed 18 Months
Junor Oct 08 Husband Landed 09 months
Faithhope Nov 08 Hubby Landed 16 months
Workinprogress Nov 08 Hubby Landed 16 months
Peaceloveunity Dec 08 Hubby Landed 15 months
Mizzy Dec 08 Hubby Landed 15 months
Lonley Dec 08 Husband Landed 14 months


2009
NAMES DATE FILED LATEST UPDATES TOTAL TIME
whydotheykeep Hubby Landed 13 Months
Peni Feb 09 Wife and Child Landed 12 Months
Hatewaiting Feb 09 Hubby Landed 16 Months
Longdistance Feb 09 Hubby Landed 12 Months
Kc416 March 09 Husband Landed 7 Months
Frequent March 09 Husband Landed 6 Months
Soso April 09 Husband Landed 7 Months
Glogirl April 09 HUSBAND LANDED 19 MONTHS
Missinghubby April 09 Hubby Landed 13 Months
Stressed May 09 Hubby Landed 12 Months
soanxiouswifey May 09 LANDED 22 Months
Cmom (dependant) May 09 Sponsorship approved & PR App sent
Confusedandscared June 09 LANDED 26 MONTHS
Rosemel (Quebec) June 09 HUBBY & GIRLS LANDED 18 MONTHS
Homesoon(ARC) July 09 Hubby Landed 9 Months
Helpmeplease Aug 09 Hubby Landed 5 Months
Chelley Sept 09 Hubby Landed 4 Months
Missingmyboo Sept 09 HUBBY LANDED 17 MONTHS
Jamwifey Oct 09 LANDED 13 Months
Ash Oct 09 AOR received(Conjugal spn)
Siron Oct 09 LANDED 9 MONTHS
Anxiouslyawait Nov 09 HUBBY LANDED 7 MONTHS
Kimore Nov 09 HUBBY LANDED 17 MONTHS
Yardie Dec 09 HUBBY LANDED 20 MONTHS
M.A.L Dec 09 HUBBY LANDED 13 MONTHS
highlyfavoured(familyclass) Dec 09 LANDED 19 MONTHS
2010

NAMES DATE FILED LATEST UPDATES TOTAL TIME
Highlyflavoured Jan 10 HUBBY LANDED 5 Months
Angella Jan 10 HUBBY LANDED 9 months
Miracle44 FEB 10 LANDED 3 MONTHS
Canuck Feb 10 WIFE LANDED 9 MONTHS
Waiting-for-a-star Feb 10 Interview March 30, 2011
KMC MAR 10 HUBBY LANDED 8 MONTHS
Virtuous MAR 10 HUBBY LANDED 7 MONTHS
KensWife MAR 10 HUBBY LANDED 7 MONTHS
Mylilangel APR 10 HUBBY LANDED 16 MONTHS
jesusgirl APR 10 VISA ISSUED 15 MONTHS
Mika & sick May 10 LANDED 7 MONTHS
MommyT (dependent) MAY 10 SON LANDED 7 MONTHS
NaeNae MAY 10 HUBBY LANDED 7.5 MONTHS
Child of the king MAY 10 HUBBY LANDED 8 MONTHS
LifeSoonSortOut MAY 10 eCAS updated to Medicals Received
Iambless June 10 LANDED 15 MONTHS
Godblesswife June 10 LANDED 7.5 MONTHS
KIDD June 10 HUBBY LANDED 7.5 MONTHS
Chantol June 10 DOC REQUESTED
MrsLonely June 10 Sponsorship approved
lonely_wife June 10 HUBBY LANDED 10 MONTHS
Masskendawta June 10 LANDED 16 MONTHS
Ramdont June 10 HUBBY LANDED 10 MONTHS
ebonyshine June 10 ORIG. DOC REQUESTED
kuma June 10 HUBBY LANDED 15 MONTHS
brownsuga July 10 HUBBY & SON LANDED 8 MONTHS
chukie July 10 HUBBY LANDED 8 MONTHS
ladyposh July 10 HUBBY LANDED 10 MONTHS
ABA Aug 10 VISA ISSUED 11 MONTHS
Sanchester Sept 10 VISA ISSUED 9 MONTHS
Reema Sept 10 HUBBY LANDED 8 MONTHS
butterfly10 Sept 10 Hubby LANDED
Togirl2011 Sept 10 HUBBY LANDED 9 MONTHS
jahlove Sept 10 LANDED 14 MONTHS
Can-Indy-Jam Oct 10 HUBBY & CHILD LANDED 7 MONTHS
LMF2011 Oct 10 PPR
Lonely Wifey Oct 10 HUBBY LANDED 10 MONTHS
Randysgirl Nov 10 HUBBY LANDED 14 MONTHS
proper Nov 10 LANDED 11 MONTHS
spiritrac Nov 10 WIFE via Buffalo - LANDED, SON via POS - App received
Lostwithoutu Nov 10 Application received by KG
Lilmaya Dec 10 eCAS Updated to "Medicals Received"
BBBB Dec 10 Application received by KG


2011
NAMES DATE FILED LATEST UPDATES TOTAL TIME
Irving Jan 2011 LANDED 8 MONTHS
Charlie D Feb 2011 Application received by KG
JAHBee Feb 2011 VISA ISSUED 11 MONTHS
Sassyoneil Feb 2011 PPR
MrsW Feb 2011 eCAS Updated to "Medicals Received"
Canhubtor11 Feb 2011 MED RE-DO & PPR
Needmyhusband Mar 2011 PPR
Psalm75 Mar 2011 HUBBY LANDED 11 MONTHS
Island_girl Mar 2011 VISA ISSUED 4 MONTHS
witty Mar 2011 LANDED 8 MONTHS
SmoothiesQueen Apr 2011 HUBBY & DAUGHTER LANDED 7 MONTHS
Megscominhome Apr 2011 MED RE-DO REQ'D TO ISSUE COPR 8 MONTHS
JAMinCAN Apr 2011 LANDED 7 MONTHS
JoyVine1309 May 2011 HUBBY LANDED 7 MONTHS
Neika June 2011 eCAS Updated to "Medicals Received"
suki Aug 2011 Application received by KG, eCAS Updated to "Medicals Received"
green1074 Aug 2011 Application received by KG, eCAS Updated to "Medicals Received"
Icesfluffy Aug 2011 Application received by KG
Kedeisha Sep 2011 Waiting for sponsor approval
Kym Sep 2011 Application received by KG, eCAS Updated to "Medicals Received"
Tintin79 Oct 2011 Application received by KG, eCAS Updated to "Medicals Received"
Jamgirl Oct 2011 Application received by KG
MrsLWSN Nov 2011 Sponsor approved
Bestisyettocome Nov 2011 Sponsor approved (CSQ received)
Lovehasnoboundaries Dec 2011 Sponsor approved
AmandaWood Dec 2011 Sponsor approved

2012
NAMES DATE FILED LATEST UPDATES TOTAL TIME
AliCatShaw Jan 2012 Sponsor approved
georgee (conjugal) Waiting to send app off
melmel Waiting to send app off
Nufflove Waiting to send app off
danielle902 Waiting to send app off
Deloswifey Waiting to send app off
Sammystorm19 Getting married in July
Channy Getting married in June


IF I MISSED ANYONE PLEASE LET ME KNOW!

 

[SmoothiesQueen]

Kinda ironic...you wait your whole time for the application...and its like a bit of heaven...waiting at the end of the dark tunnel, and somewhere in your mind you block out what comes next and just assume it's pure bliss. Maybe its different for us because we both migraited together..although I grew up in Canada before moving to Jamaica...so we are both desperately homesick.

All of you whose applications are done and hubby's landed...did your husbands go through terrible depression and homesickness for the island? If so how did you deal with it and support them..and did it pass and how long did it take? Hubby is terribly homesick..and so am I which in some ways I think prevents me from being the stronger one and always knowing how to support him. I swear I dream about the island every night and sometimes I wake up and think I'm there and get terribly depressed when I realize I'm not.

I hate to sound ungrateful..I'm really not. We are both thankful for the oppurtunity for my husband to come to Canada and get his citizenship..and we are thankful for the oppurtunities to start a new life and build a more prosperous future...its just Jamaica is still home and homesickness is hovering like a dark cloud.

So any tips...I would appreciate. And what a better place to ask than those who've gone through it and dealt with it!

Belated Happy Valentines to all...hubby bought my roses and a sweet card and a few other things...but forgot which country he was in and left the roses in the suv so I wouldn't see them and they died a very cold death LOL LOL LOL!!! But the thought that counts!!

Congrats to all of you with updates..and who've landed recently...so happy to hear your good news and anxious to read more updates for the rest of you!

 

[kym]

Just stopping in to see updates.
Congrates to all those with updates.

Does anyone know of any hotel deals going on in MontegoBay?

 

[CharlieD10]

SQ - homesickness is natural, it's the very human reaction to abrupt change. You said it yourself, no matter how you were expecting and waiting for it, when it finally came it was very quick in the end. The euphoria is wearing off and now you ask yourself, what have I done? When I moved to the US, everyone told me that as Jamaicans we have a "two week" limit, in that we are happy for the first couple of weeks, and then once they pass, we are ready to head back to JA. Well, my "two week limit" didn't pass until I had been there for almost 3 months, and then reality set in and I was desperate to come back home to Jamaica.

What got me through the feelings were a couple of things:
1) Some short-term reminders of home, in the form of food. I would buy things I especially missed, like patties and Ting and Ginger Beer sodas. These reminders calmed the craving for home, but did not last so long they began to prolong the craving.

2) I went out and got even more involved in things that were a part of my new life. I signed up for clubs, volunteered for projects at school, that kind of thing. Forcing myself to immerse in the new surroundings and new people had the double bonus of getting my mind off the homesickness, and getting me better acquainted with my new environment.

I'm sure others here have different suggestions you may find helpful as well!

 

[SmoothiesQueen]

CharlieD...does it ever get better though? Or do you spend all your time just fighting it off for as long as possible? Do you ever settle and become happy...able to satisfy your home cravings with vacations? Or is it pure misery that you just try to sugar coat as much as possible?

This should be in the manuel...I'm telling you DWL!! So unexpected!! You plan for this new life...never realizing they may never be happy in it!

 

[witty]

bigup sesoniel and wishing u all good luck

 

[CharlieD10]

CharlieD...does it ever get better though? Or do you spend all your time just fighting it off for as long as possible? Do you ever settle and become happy...able to satisfy your home cravings with vacations? Or is it pure misery that you just try to sugar coat as much as possible?

This should be in the manuel...I'm telling you DWL!! So unexpected!! You plan for this new life...never realizing they may never be happy in it!

Yes, it does (did) get better. I woke up one morning and I found that the routine I had built was my new "normal" rather than a way not to notice I was missing a different "normal". Streets and buildings and activities were familiar again, almost overnight it seemed! Remember that your brain is used to things being a certain way, so the new sights, sounds, smells and even emotions you are experiencing are disconcerting! It will adjust though, you just need to give yourself some time, and immerse yourself in the new normal, and eventually the old normal becomes a memory without the sharp edges that are poking at you now.

 

[lovehasnoboundaries]

Congrats Sassy!!!! Hip, hip hooray!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lonelywife thanks for the advice. I think I have enough going on to keep busy...I guess I was wondering more about things in hindsight...like a friend told me that she had wished she had saved more money... I guess things like that, "the unexpected" stuff. However, these tips are very helpful too thank you.

SQ- sorry to hear you guys are in a down time right now, but its totally understandable and even expected, thanks for being so honest. I advise, if there is a new comers or immigration centre close to you, it would be great to connect with them. They offer counselling and probably tips and tricks on how to "get through" the home sickness stage. I actually read somewhere awhile ago that there are different stages to adjusting. But hold on, I pray things will get better soon.

To the rest of my forum family, hope you enjoy your evening...looks like Spring is right around the corner!

 

[Mrslwsn]

Sq- this is the exact thing I am worried about with my husband. He hates the cold, so do I, I miss Jamaica and I been here 20 yrs, he has never been off the island on his life, I am very nervous he will get depressed. This makes me so sad.

 

[SmoothiesQueen]

Thanks CharlieD, and Lovehasnoboundries!!

I think everyone should be aware to expect this...perhaps if your prepared it will be expected and not cause such upset to you. I bet this could really take a toll on a marriage if you were expecting pure cloud nine. I'm learning it doesn't mean he doesn't love you...or that he doesn't want to be your spouse. It means this is the lowest point for him...taken from everything he holds dear and familiar outside you. Its a pride thing to...you have to start from scratch here...and it can make them feel like they are losing alot of freedom compared to being able to do what ever they want in Jamaica! Especially for my husband..we had a financially secure life for the most part in Jamaica..and drove a nice SUV and had a normal stable life. So he actually has less initially here than he did in Jamaica because he has to rebuild from square one...not easy!!

I have always had a great marriage...best husband ever so its been a huge shock to see him struggle with this. I thought it would be so easy for him because he's such a down to earth, hard working, level headed type of man. Its hard to have someone lash out at you after you put so much into trying to do all this for them...it hurts. And its hard when you put tons of effort to cook them Jamaica food...do things to cheer them up and they still miserable and complaining and frusterated with you etc etc!! Like they barely notice the effort...although in his defense when he's having a good day he does thank me profusely and apologize and ask that I just bear with him! I just talked to a good friend of mine that recently migraited to Canada..and he was telling me he's struggled just like my husband and lashed out at his wife a bit to. He's probably one of the greatest guys I know... a real calm, never ruffled, church man....so to hear him say he lashed out...it kinda made me feel better towards my husband to...because I didn't even know my friend was capable of getting angry LOL..he's that type! Because trust me..its hurts..and its unexpected!! Anyone who says that things are blissful and have no bumps upon migraiting is lying I think DWL....in their own way I supposed everyone has to go through this on some level.

I remember my first six months living in Jamaica....here you expect paradise..and I think I cried for home every day for the first six months. The first year..year and a half was the hardest!! Then it became home..and now I am struggling to readapt to Canada which still does not feel at all like home..pining away for Jamaica every day!! So I guess I just have to keep trying to support him through this.

So ladies and gentleman..prepare yourselves now for this so it doesn't shock and hurt you when it happens and your just prepared to stand by them. I was not prepared for this at all so it has been extremly challenging and has put me in a state of depression because homesickness combined with this...its alot to handle. And then when your a mom..life never slows down. You still gotta show happy faces and love to the little one..and try to conqure the feelings overwhelming you inside!!

Anyways...appreciate the continued support from this awesome forum!

 

[SmoothiesQueen]

Mrslswn....I think thats why this is a great topic for this forum. I think so many times those of us who have lived abroad and at one point been happy there..are are currently there and happy and adjusted...in our heads we kinda foolishly just expect that naturally they will just adapt to our life, be just like us and find Canada a normal happy life and it will be happily ever after with some Jamaica vacations thrown in. We don't realize that its not their home...its a new country...and its a huge process to adapt and some never do!! I don't think we realize or understand the reality awaiting us..so perhaps if we do...it helps us to be better spouses and support them through it..and handle the lashing out without it damaging the marriage! Knowing this is normal..and expected..and doesn't mean our men/women are bad people!

I feel for you mrslswn...because neither hubby or I like the cold either and its hard on us..plus the homesickness. I guess one day at a time right...we just have to do our best and hope the adaptation comes and we settle in!

 

[Mrslwsn]

YUP!..I came here when I was 11, and trust me, all now the cold makes me ill...I hate winter, I get crabby, when I am in Jamaica I look good, feel good, relaxed peaceful, but maybe that also has to do with being with my husband too...but it is too hard for us to afford to raise the kids in Jamaica right now..when I was there all summer with all 4 of my kids, we were on some sufferation chicken back eating tip lol...My husband has to kill himself off working/slaving all day to bring home likkle to nothing...it is very difficult..I think about him missing home every single day, it makes me nervous, I am worried it will affect our marriage. But I kno we are strong. It just him adjusting I am worried about.