Aww it will soon happen Mrs Proper. I always cheer myself up by thinking it will get to a point eventually where it HAS to come through...so there is always an end to this process. And I always hate that Im living a life with my husband.....a wife and mother and every time i visit Canada I have to come alone as if I was single. I daydream everywhere I go of what it would be live doing it with my family here!
I think we have to keep our expectations broad. Count on sixteen or seventeen months...then anything that comes before is a blessed surprise. Its a process with no pattern...and setting your expectations sooner is a set up for stress, heartache and disappointment in my opinon. I am doing that now...I think ok by next summer we will be through or close to based on the timeline. So this way anything before would be such a beautiful and amazing surprise.
One of my best friends works at immigration in Canada and she told me in the beginning not to get my hopes up regarding timelines because every day she see's couples come through from all over the world and she says it about blows her mind to see some of the people they let through and how quick they get through. She says there really is no fairness in the process...its all a process of chance really. Who gets your file and how quick a worker they are, how quickly your medicals go through. All these things are random in how quick they happen. Then if you meet the criteria you will get through..but the criteria doesn't always fully depend on how genuine your marriage is because if your not at an interview...they can't fully determine if its genuine if there is no obvious red flags! So she says you just ignore others cases and know that your own will go through providing you meet the criteria. Comparing cases is a set up for frusteration!
I mean I've been married to my husband for several years before we ever decided to file...I had everything in place from jobs to go to...a home to move into...vehicles to drive when we get back to Canada as well as a normal life here where we both work. I had every possible bit of proof that our relationship was genuine....i can't imagine sending in a more solid and honest case. The amount of letters of support I sent in....including one from my best friend who works for immigration. Yet about about four years ago before I even understood immigration a girl I know of in Canada got through in four months. She met her husband hustling on the beach in Negril...they got married quick...he didn't even treat her good. I just found out yesterday they just got a divorce..ironically right after his papers came through to be a citizen. He fathered two children with another girl behind her back in those years....and shes left in the dust. He told her he used her. Its very sad!! This is only one of many stories I've heard or witnessed in others where the final outcome of the marriage was devestating!!
Then you see the Propers and Ebony and her man...two couples who so clearly to me are as genuine as they come..yet look at the wait time. As well as other including myself and y'all on here...whose marriages are one hundred percent genuine and love based...who are not guranteed a quick process in any way.
So clearly its random as far as the process...so getting our expectations higher than the timeline is really a set up for disappointment and frusteration. I'm attempting to keep that thought in my head to avoid unnessassary frusteration...although Im not sure I can avoid a bit of disappointment if it takes that long!
I think we have to keep our expectations broad. Count on sixteen or seventeen months...then anything that comes before is a blessed surprise. Its a process with no pattern...and setting your expectations sooner is a set up for stress, heartache and disappointment in my opinon. I am doing that now...I think ok by next summer we will be through or close to based on the timeline. So this way anything before would be such a beautiful and amazing surprise.
One of my best friends works at immigration in Canada and she told me in the beginning not to get my hopes up regarding timelines because every day she see's couples come through from all over the world and she says it about blows her mind to see some of the people they let through and how quick they get through. She says there really is no fairness in the process...its all a process of chance really. Who gets your file and how quick a worker they are, how quickly your medicals go through. All these things are random in how quick they happen. Then if you meet the criteria you will get through..but the criteria doesn't always fully depend on how genuine your marriage is because if your not at an interview...they can't fully determine if its genuine if there is no obvious red flags! So she says you just ignore others cases and know that your own will go through providing you meet the criteria. Comparing cases is a set up for frusteration!
I mean I've been married to my husband for several years before we ever decided to file...I had everything in place from jobs to go to...a home to move into...vehicles to drive when we get back to Canada as well as a normal life here where we both work. I had every possible bit of proof that our relationship was genuine....i can't imagine sending in a more solid and honest case. The amount of letters of support I sent in....including one from my best friend who works for immigration. Yet about about four years ago before I even understood immigration a girl I know of in Canada got through in four months. She met her husband hustling on the beach in Negril...they got married quick...he didn't even treat her good. I just found out yesterday they just got a divorce..ironically right after his papers came through to be a citizen. He fathered two children with another girl behind her back in those years....and shes left in the dust. He told her he used her. Its very sad!! This is only one of many stories I've heard or witnessed in others where the final outcome of the marriage was devestating!!
Then you see the Propers and Ebony and her man...two couples who so clearly to me are as genuine as they come..yet look at the wait time. As well as other including myself and y'all on here...whose marriages are one hundred percent genuine and love based...who are not guranteed a quick process in any way.
So clearly its random as far as the process...so getting our expectations higher than the timeline is really a set up for disappointment and frusteration. I'm attempting to keep that thought in my head to avoid unnessassary frusteration...although Im not sure I can avoid a bit of disappointment if it takes that long!
POS used to be 16mths then they went to 15mths now 14 mths maybe they are screwing with medicals from the other islands hope they aren't tho and they just got more people in their VO doing more work
