Please excuse my mistakes in previous email. I actually know better but was stealing some time. I am a very positive person and would in no way enjoy putting an end to the euphoria. I use to come on here and read all the stories of love and pain and they strengthened me. I also remember one woman who warned us not to keep our heads in the cloud. My husband and I have a great relationship. There are people who love our story and the ways we kept the romance alive. BUT as much as we are in love this is one hell of a ride. I am just saying that despite your fights or your love making, be aware that if you are use to living alone living with someone you barely know/have known for years does not make the transition any easier. I lived with my husband for a year in Jamaica before we got married and living together in Canada has taken much work. My husband is the sweetest, kindest human being I know and still manages to get on my nerves and I no doubt get on his. I am just saying that every relationship is sweet when you are apart. Most men are patient when they want to ensure everything goes ok with the relationship. sometimes you will never see the true quality of your spouse/nor will he see yours until you are away from the hotel, the beach, the neverending love sessions. I in no way wish to offend anyone here just giving a shout out to Charlie and warning adult women to know that marriage will take lots of HARD work and sacrifice. Be prepared! Our best friends(our men) have parts of themselves that they may choose to hide from fear of loosing you. As women we sometimes have unhealed parts of ourselves that will be triggered when we enter into this life time journey. I am not asking folks to not celebrate your love but be cautious when you try to make others feel that your love is the only one. Some of the relationships that are not sounding wonderful will last a lot longer than those which puts us in hog heaven. I know I am blessed to meet my husband after 6 years but boy do we have our work cut out. The sacrifice you are now making to be with your men will come to be a source of some of your arguments when your man behave in ways that seem like they dont appreciate you. You will expect more of this relationship that one formed here. This is the reality! I am not saying that the men will be bad and run away. I am saying that some of us women can be undercover devils too. And the men we marry will infact regret their decisions. It goes both way. Celebrate your love, but be humble, be wise, be sympathetic towards others here. More importantly, show respect for other peoples idea and opinions. Love hard but know that hard love comes at a price. There will be fights, there will be feelings of resentment, there will be moments when you miss being alone. The will come days when you wonder if you did the right thing. If your love withstand all of these things then know that you will have even more work for the next fifty years. Another beef to pick, some women here marry men without money a fact they fully understand. Their love is based on an understanding that together they can ride the storm. Because the man is poor does not mean he is using the woman to come to canada. I seen proverty stricken men come to Canada and allow their women to stop working. Because he is rich does not mean he wont use you to come here also. So because none of us know the future let us encourage each other, cry together, celebrate our moments of joy. The waiting is hard but this forum will get you through the rough times. Husbandman and friend is here 9 months and despite the highs and lows I say we are rolling up the sleeves, putting on the helmit, and work boots to make our lives together will be lasting one. Also know that "foreign" to most Jamaican means fantasy and fairytales.(some of you women give them these impressions) There will be disillusion on many sides and some of our men will dream of returning home to paradise, when they find that the freedoms, respect they once had home is gone when they get here. I am ready to take that journey back when my man says enough. Are You ready? Also, the children they have in Jamaica cannot be replaced so when you decide to have kids know that those that came before deserve the love and devotion you will have. If you love a black man, know he comes from a black woman and has black sisters. Base on the common consensus on the forum I can say our men are the love of our lives, let us work to keep it this way. Whether you are a man or woman sponsoring a partner know that these people are individuals and we dont own them when they get here. If you are rich and can fly him/her to paris for lunch or buy him the best seat at the lakers game, or know the person who owns the highest shares in the world remember you will be subject to hurt like anyone else. Be blessed! Walk light, keep love light shining right. Again no editing... just saying! Toss out what does not appeal to you, embrace what you recognize dont be hasty is cussing me. Think of these things!
