INLAND APPLICATIONS 2013

[JHWife2011]

This is more of a rant than anything else.

My family doesn't like my husband very much. We lived with my mother and step father for 6 months after we were married. My mother tried endlessly to get me to not marry my husband. She thought he wasn't "good enough" and she thought I could do better. My step father even said if I went through with marrying him, that I would break my mother's heart. Clearly, they didn't understand that we were in love and wanted to be together. We got married November 2011 and lived with them till April 2012 when a huge argument caused my step father to kick us out of the house 1 week before we planned on moving into our own place. My step father was horribly mean during the fighting calling me all sorts of names and my mother stood by and said nothing. We never told them about my husband's immigration status as I felt their judgement would be way too harsh and that they would be really single my husband out from the rest of the family. Well we eventually told them and that's exactly what has happened. To the point that my own mother went to a medium/physic and apparently they medium told her that I will have a son with my husband then we will lose a baby and then he is going to leave me and I will remarry and have a daughter with my new husband. My mother knows I struggle with infertility and I found it really hard when she told me this. She is keeping her distance and wont form a relationship with my husband because of this.

Fast forward to October 2013 my husband and I share a Facebook page, and someone started cyber stalking us, it was bad! They stole our pictures created a fake pages, started harassing my family, said really horrible things about me on this page, accusing my husband of cheating on me with them, that this person was pregnant for him and everything. But they knew so much intimate details about my family it was just too weird that it was some random person doing this. This cyber stalking went on for about a month and a half and my entire family was in an uproar because they were all being harassed they all blamed my husband saying he was cheating and this was the result. Eventually it all died down. My older sister just a couple weeks ago admitted to me that she thinks my younger sister was behind the fake page. I was talking to my husband about the possibility of it being my younger sister that was doing this to us, and he confronted her. She told him she didn't like him because he is "illegal" NO IDEA what that even means lol and he isn't even! anyway she denied having anything to do with it and then turned around and threatened me saying she has no problem going to the police and saying he threatened her family (which he never did) she said I am going to regret defending my husband because I'm going to lose my family over it. Its just sad, very sad situation. My husband is a great guy, he is funny, and caring. Loves doing things for others. He is a people pleaser. I find it heart breaking that they've never given him a fair chance. I feel badly for my husband because he is judged so harshly by people that don't even care enough to get to know the real him. Exactly what I was trying to protect him from, is exactly what happened. He doesn't deserve the harshness, its breaking my heart.

Sorry this is so long, but truly no one else besides you fine group of people can truly relate to where I'm coming from on some level

 

[sage81]

This is more of a rant than anything else.

My family doesn't like my husband very much. We lived with my mother and step father for 6 months after we were married. My mother tried endlessly to get me to not marry my husband. She thought he wasn't "good enough" and she thought I could do better. My step father even said if I went through with marrying him, that I would break my mother's heart. Clearly, they didn't understand that we were in love and wanted to be together. We got married November 2011 and lived with them till April 2012 when a huge argument caused my step father to kick us out of the house 1 week before we planned on moving into our own place. My step father was horribly mean during the fighting calling me all sorts of names and my mother stood by and said nothing. We never told them about my husband's immigration status as I felt their judgement would be way too harsh and that they would be really single my husband out from the rest of the family. Well we eventually told them and that's exactly what has happened. To the point that my own mother went to a medium/physic and apparently they medium told her that I will have a son with my husband then we will lose a baby and then he is going to leave me and I will remarry and have a daughter with my new husband. My mother knows I struggle with infertility and I found it really hard when she told me this. She is keeping her distance and wont form a relationship with my husband because of this.

Fast forward to October 2013 my husband and I share a Facebook page, and someone started cyber stalking us, it was bad! They stole our pictures created a fake pages, started harassing my family, said really horrible things about me on this page, accusing my husband of cheating on me with them, that this person was pregnant for him and everything. But they knew so much intimate details about my family it was just too weird that it was some random person doing this. This cyber stalking went on for about a month and a half and my entire family was in an uproar because they were all being harassed they all blamed my husband saying he was cheating and this was the result. Eventually it all died down. My older sister just a couple weeks ago admitted to me that she thinks my younger sister was behind the fake page. I was talking to my husband about the possibility of it being my younger sister that was doing this to us, and he confronted her. She told him she didn't like him because he is "illegal" NO IDEA what that even means lol and he isn't even! anyway she denied having anything to do with it and then turned around and threatened me saying she has no problem going to the police and saying he threatened her family (which he never did) she said I am going to regret defending my husband because I'm going to lose my family over it. Its just sad, very sad situation. My husband is a great guy, he is funny, and caring. Loves doing things for others. He is a people pleaser. I find it heart breaking that they've never given him a fair chance. I feel badly for my husband because he is judged so harshly by people that don't even care enough to get to know the real him. Exactly what I was trying to protect him from, is exactly what happened. He doesn't deserve the harshness, its breaking my heart.

Sorry this is so long, but truly no one else besides you fine group of people can truly relate to where I'm coming from on some level

JHwifey, is this story about you or someone else? where is your husband from?

 

[JHWife2011]

Sage - I wish it was about someone else lol. Its about myself and my husband. Not looking for advise really, just more venting because not everyone is going to understand where I'm coming from besides people that are in the same boat as us (in terms of immigration/judgemental people towards that etc) My husband is Jamaican. Its not a race thing either my sister has been with a Grenadian for 15 years and they have a daughter together, and to be honest he is a cheater, liar, he uses everyone and anyone but yet he is a King in their eyes, I don't get it!

 

[Daizey]

This is more of a rant than anything else.

My family doesn't like my husband very much. We lived with my mother and step father for 6 months after we were married. My mother tried endlessly to get me to not marry my husband. She thought he wasn't "good enough" and she thought I could do better. My step father even said if I went through with marrying him, that I would break my mother's heart. Clearly, they didn't understand that we were in love and wanted to be together. We got married November 2011 and lived with them till April 2012 when a huge argument caused my step father to kick us out of the house 1 week before we planned on moving into our own place. My step father was horribly mean during the fighting calling me all sorts of names and my mother stood by and said nothing. We never told them about my husband's immigration status as I felt their judgement would be way too harsh and that they would be really single my husband out from the rest of the family. Well we eventually told them and that's exactly what has happened. To the point that my own mother went to a medium/physic and apparently they medium told her that I will have a son with my husband then we will lose a baby and then he is going to leave me and I will remarry and have a daughter with my new husband. My mother knows I struggle with infertility and I found it really hard when she told me this. She is keeping her distance and wont form a relationship with my husband because of this.

Fast forward to October 2013 my husband and I share a Facebook page, and someone started cyber stalking us, it was bad! They stole our pictures created a fake pages, started harassing my family, said really horrible things about me on this page, accusing my husband of cheating on me with them, that this person was pregnant for him and everything. But they knew so much intimate details about my family it was just too weird that it was some random person doing this. This cyber stalking went on for about a month and a half and my entire family was in an uproar because they were all being harassed they all blamed my husband saying he was cheating and this was the result. Eventually it all died down. My older sister just a couple weeks ago admitted to me that she thinks my younger sister was behind the fake page. I was talking to my husband about the possibility of it being my younger sister that was doing this to us, and he confronted her. She told him she didn't like him because he is "illegal" NO IDEA what that even means lol and he isn't even! anyway she denied having anything to do with it and then turned around and threatened me saying she has no problem going to the police and saying he threatened her family (which he never did) she said I am going to regret defending my husband because I'm going to lose my family over it. Its just sad, very sad situation. My husband is a great guy, he is funny, and caring. Loves doing things for others. He is a people pleaser. I find it heart breaking that they've never given him a fair chance. I feel badly for my husband because he is judged so harshly by people that don't even care enough to get to know the real him. Exactly what I was trying to protect him from, is exactly what happened. He doesn't deserve the harshness, its breaking my heart.

Sorry this is so long, but truly no one else besides you fine group of people can truly relate to where I'm coming from on some level

Wow, I'm very sorry to hear what you and your husband have been having to go through! To have to go through this immigration process, with your family being the exact opposite of supportive is very frustrating. Luckily my husbands parents are the kindest people I've met, but I definitely have family back home that are the same, very quick to lay judgement on people and try to start unnecessary drama. Sad to say, I don't miss them at all having moved here.

The only thing I can say is to distance yourself from your family, as hard as that is. They are only creating stress, and you don't need any more of that! If they really care about you, they will learn that your husband is your life and they should welcome him. Though damage has probably already been done. My thoughts and prayers are with you both! *hugs*

 

[sage81]

Sage - I wish it was about someone else lol. Its about myself and my husband. Not looking for advise really, just more venting because not everyone is going to understand where I'm coming from besides people that are in the same boat as us (in terms of immigration/judgemental people towards that etc)

i feel your pain, family is important and at the same time your present family is important than any other extended family. the best thing to do is to stay clear off your family, focus more on your own family and soon they we realized and everything gonna be fine.

 

[JHWife2011]

Wow, I'm very sorry to hear what you and your husband have been having to go through! To have to go through this immigration process, with your family being the exact opposite of supportive is very frustrating. Luckily my husbands parents are the kindest people I've met, but I definitely have family back home that are the same, very quick to lay judgement on people and try to start unnecessary drama. Sad to say, I don't miss them at all having moved here.

The only thing I can say is to distance yourself from your family, as hard as that is. They are only creating stress, and you don't need any more of that! If they really care about you, they will learn that your husband is your life and they should welcome him. Though damage has probably already been done. My thoughts and prayers are with you both! *hugs*

Aww thank you. its been a very very hard 2.5 years. I will tell you that. We've been going through the immigration process virtually alone, no support from family, going through infertility, testing, surgery, treatments all just him and I. Its made us stronger no doubt, but the drama is what is exhausting. We don't get invited to any holidays, birthday parties, family get togethers, nothing. Its sad. They don't ask about our struggles are coming along with starting a family nothing, they don't care. Distancing ourselves is exactly what we've been trying to do, but it always seems like something comes up and draws us back in

 

[JHWife2011]

i feel your pain, family is important and at the same time your present family is important than any other extended family. the best thing to do is to stay clear off your family, focus more on your own family and soon they we realized and everything gonna be fine.

Thank you and you are right, I just have to keep focusing on what is important. My husband is a good man, he will be a great father one day, and I will support him through anything just like he would support me through anything as well.

 

[minime#]

Aww thank you. its been a very very hard 2.5 years. I will tell you that. We've been going through the immigration process virtually alone, no support from family, going through infertility, testing, surgery, treatments all just him and I. Its made us stronger no doubt, but the drama is what is exhausting. We don't get invited to any holidays, birthday parties, family get togethers, nothing. Its sad. They don't ask about our struggles are coming along with starting a family nothing, they don't care. Distancing ourselves is exactly what we've been trying to do, but it always seems like something comes up and draws us back in

So sorry to hear that your are going through this stay strong, give it time and eventually everyone will see the kind and loving person that he is. Been there with my in laws and with time they saw that what they were told were all lies. This too shall pass.....keeping u. In my. Prayers pm me if u need to talk or vent or rant lol

 

[God be with us]

This is more of a rant than anything else.

My family doesn't like my husband very much. We lived with my mother and step father for 6 months after we were married. My mother tried endlessly to get me to not marry my husband. She thought he wasn't "good enough" and she thought I could do better. My step father even said if I went through with marrying him, that I would break my mother's heart. Clearly, they didn't understand that we were in love and wanted to be together. We got married November 2011 and lived with them till April 2012 when a huge argument caused my step father to kick us out of the house 1 week before we planned on moving into our own place. My step father was horribly mean during the fighting calling me all sorts of names and my mother stood by and said nothing. We never told them about my husband's immigration status as I felt their judgement would be way too harsh and that they would be really single my husband out from the rest of the family. Well we eventually told them and that's exactly what has happened. To the point that my own mother went to a medium/physic and apparently they medium told her that I will have a son with my husband then we will lose a baby and then he is going to leave me and I will remarry and have a daughter with my new husband. My mother knows I struggle with infertility and I found it really hard when she told me this. She is keeping her distance and wont form a relationship with my husband because of this.

Fast forward to October 2013 my husband and I share a Facebook page, and someone started cyber stalking us, it was bad! They stole our pictures created a fake pages, started harassing my family, said really horrible things about me on this page, accusing my husband of cheating on me with them, that this person was pregnant for him and everything. But they knew so much intimate details about my family it was just too weird that it was some random person doing this. This cyber stalking went on for about a month and a half and my entire family was in an uproar because they were all being harassed they all blamed my husband saying he was cheating and this was the result. Eventually it all died down. My older sister just a couple weeks ago admitted to me that she thinks my younger sister was behind the fake page. I was talking to my husband about the possibility of it being my younger sister that was doing this to us, and he confronted her. She told him she didn't like him because he is "illegal" NO IDEA what that even means lol and he isn't even! anyway she denied having anything to do with it and then turned around and threatened me saying she has no problem going to the police and saying he threatened her family (which he never did) she said I am going to regret defending my husband because I'm going to lose my family over it. Its just sad, very sad situation. My husband is a great guy, he is funny, and caring. Loves doing things for others. He is a people pleaser. I find it heart breaking that they've never given him a fair chance. I feel badly for my husband because he is judged so harshly by people that don't even care enough to get to know the real him. Exactly what I was trying to protect him from, is exactly what happened. He doesn't deserve the harshness, its breaking my heart.

Sorry this is so long, but truly no one else besides you fine group of people can truly relate to where I'm coming from on some level

JHWife,

Really sorry to hear this. We know family is imp. And very very difficult to handle their rudeness nd cruelty . But, my friend u know, u are living with a person who is worth it. U both trust each other, stand by each other , love each other. So, don't worry. Possibility is that, eventually, when ur family finally sees that u are happy, they will accept it.
Till then......keep calm

Take care

 

[GatorSPO]

July applicant - got the letter that my wife's PR app has been transferred to CPC-M

 

[ruppcs]

July applicant - got the letter that my wife's PR app has been transferred to CPC-M

You applied the same day as us. Maybe I'll have a letter in the mailbox when I get home from work. And hopefully they get going on applications again next week!

 

[danib]

They almost never update eCAS.. Call an agent tomorrow morning and they will tell you

Best of luck danib!

Thank you Cirene! I called them today and the answer was exactly that: they cannot see in my e-cas but if I sent with track number it is there :

But...just in case,I've sent again lol

 

[danib]

When was your document delivered? You'd better call them right away if they received it for a long time.
In my case, it took one week for them to open the envelop. They would update the medical on e-cas, but other documents may not. Good luck!

I've sent it in Nov.2013 and you're right crester, they do not update this information at e-cas.
Well, I called them today and the answer is..wait

Thank you !!! Good luck to all of us!

 

[frenchwapiti]

Aww thank you. its been a very very hard 2.5 years. I will tell you that. We've been going through the immigration process virtually alone, no support from family, going through infertility, testing, surgery, treatments all just him and I. Its made us stronger no doubt, but the drama is what is exhausting. We don't get invited to any holidays, birthday parties, family get togethers, nothing. Its sad. They don't ask about our struggles are coming along with starting a family nothing, they don't care. Distancing ourselves is exactly what we've been trying to do, but it always seems like something comes up and draws us back in

JHWife2011,
I feel really sorry reading your life. The process of immigration is already a tough thing to go through and you have all these family troubles. Some people are jalouse when they see happy people and they try everything to destroy your happiness. Stay far away from them, because they are negative and not good for you, might they be from your own family! Protect yourself and the man you love from these negative persons and focus on what is important for you both. Your love, the immigration for your husband and your future child. You will see it will all turn out fine. I am sure of that. When LOVE reigns the impossible can be attained.
"HUG" and don't loose faith

 

[Ponga]

It's been said that people enter our lives for...

A reason

A season
or
A lifetime

Unfortunately, even family can sometimes be #1 or #2