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tow75 said:
Hey again everyone,

The IO changed her mind today. My husband called her this morning to say that I had faxed his 2008/2009 university transcript from my work, and she said that she has reconsidered her decision and would need more proof...basically everything she didn't want to take yesterday.She says that she doesn't believe his intention to get married to me because he loves me, but that he's stayed in a relationship with me for over 2 years to get status. She says she believes we live together, and that I love him, but she thinks he's lying.

The IO told my husband that he lied to her because she asked him when he found out he was colourblind he said 2008 when his optometrist said 2009 (she called the optometrist as well). My husband just didn't remember. We didn't meet until 2010, but she says that his bad marks from 2008 and 2009 are proof that he never wanted to study, and just wanted to find someone to sponsor him for residency (which ended up being me).

I called her today and explained that there's no incentive for him to fake a relationship for status - people want to get residency to have a job and to have money a good lifestyle...and these are all the things my husband left behind in Morocco. If he was to leave now and go back there, he would have a beautiful house, expensive car, nice clothes, and a million dollar inheritance that he can't have access to now. He doesn't face any discrimination in his country, his parents are extremely well off, and he only came here in the first place because getting a diploma is important to his parents and extended family, and Canada was the only place that spoke French. My explanation didn't make a difference. Our plans for the future (having kids, which we told about) financial information, cards and the interview don't matter and she told me that. All she wants if proof of my husband's intention when he came here....it was 4 years ago and there's no way to prove it. We sent everything we could think of in the mail - transcripts that my husband's parents pay our rent, facebook chats, even our original birthday/ anniversary cards that we'll probably never get back (no time for photocopies because she said today was the deadline). She already talked to my husband's father, his optometrist, and my landlord and our neighbour called and left messages which she hasn't returned. I don't know what else to do.

I've accepted that we'll have to leave Canada within the next few months..I'm 99% sure she'll refuse because there's no way for us to prove what my husband was thinking 3-4 years ago, when he was 18, young and stupid.

Thanks for your support everyone... and sorry for the long message. I'll let you know what happens tomorrow.
My advice: get an attorney and be ready to file an IAD appeal. Montreal IAD only has 4-6 months for an appeal hearing (better than 24-30 months I hear about for Toronto) and you'll get a completely new hearing. From what you've said, this VO has made up her mind. I strongly suspect you'll do much better at appeal.
 

tow75

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Thanks for your advice computergeek...I thought there were no appeals for inland?? I don't think we would appeal...another 4-6 months of living like this, and being able to afford an attorney, seems out of the question right now, as I'm crazily in debt from supporting my husband for the last 2 years. We need some time of non-immigration life or we'll both lose our minds.

What we're considering now is what our life will be like in Morocco (where my husband is from) after we leave here. I won't stop fighting for my husband... we're young and I can understand why our situation looks suspicious- but we've done everything we can. We've met people who got permanent residency through sponsorship and now accept welfare and work illegally, and people who split up with their spouses before they even got permanent residency...they have all the benefits of that now, and they've never had to do what we've had to do today.

In the interview both my husband and me told the IO (during our separate interviews) that she could give us a visa that's conditional on us living together and being in a relationship for the next 50 years...guess it didn't help.

Are we really a first world country, to give residency and citizenship to the ones who abuse the system and withold it from the real couples??
 

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tow75 said:
Thanks for your advice computergeek...I thought there were no appeals for inland?? I don't think we would appeal...another 4-6 months of living like this, and being able to afford an attorney, seems out of the question right now, as I'm crazily in debt from supporting my husband for the last 2 years. We need some time of non-immigration life or we'll both lose our minds.

What we're considering now is what our life will be like in Morocco (where my husband is from) after we leave here. I won't stop fighting for my husband... we're young and I can understand why our situation looks suspicious- but we've done everything we can. We've met people who got permanent residency through sponsorship and now accept welfare and work illegally, and people who split up with their spouses before they even got permanent residency...they have all the benefits of that now, and they've never had to do what we've had to do today.

In the interview both my husband and me told the IO (during our separate interviews) that she could give us a visa that's conditional on us living together and being in a relationship for the next 50 years...guess it didn't help.

Are we really a first world country, to give residency and citizenship to the ones who abuse the system and withhold it from the real couples??
Ah, sorry, you are correct. Inland doesn't have an option for an IAD appeal. You can go to Federal Court, though, but you'll need to demonstrate that the decision is either procedurally flawed, against natural fairness or contrary to law. However, from what you've described I can see some credible arguments in that general direction. In addition I have found that Federal Courts tend to bend over backwards to review cases that have no prior review.

Of course, you wouldn't need to remain in Canada to apply for leave before the Federal Court. Further, while I know the Federal Court is not de novo, the fact you have left Canada in order to be with your husband will not be lost on a Federal Judge. You might even get a specific order requiring that CIC grant your husband a TRV to return to Canada if you are successful. Decisions like this one (http://decisions.fct-cf.gc.ca/en/2012/2012fc1471/2012fc1471.html) fill me with hope - in that case, the judge ordered CIC to send the PR card to the applicant outside Canada, not to mention awarded costs, both of which are extraordinary remedies.

The other option that you have is to reapply outland. If you are going to do so, I would suggest that you withdraw your application now, before you have a refusal. In that way you can submit a new application from Morocco. Rabat posts a processing time of 8 months (plus 1.5 months for sponsor approval). Nothing says you need to do that immediately - take a year or two and then reapply if you would like. Then if you are refused again you DO have the option to appeal to IAD - and still retain the right to go to Federal Court.
 

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Yes, applying outland is something we're talking about right now. Interesting that the federal court doesn't consider the evidence...but just wondering what you think our credible arguments would be if we went down that road? Other that our relationship is completely genuine, and the best reason the IO has to turn us down is why my husband failed some courses and dropped out of school 4 years ago. It would be a huge help to us if we could know.

I think outland would be the best option for us. We'll order the FOSS notes (or whatever they're called) and remember everything that was said in the interview...she was hard on us, but when she left we both thought she had been hard on us, but fair. She said she had a "good feeling" about the interview, but that she didn't want to give us "false hope"...but she gave us false hope. Clearly she changed her mind after the interview. The only proofs we left her were my husbands lease from 2 years ago (that I cosigned) and one of my bank bills that came to his old address- proof that i lived there before our wedding. How these things can change her mind, I don't know. My husband didn't remember when he found out he was colourblind (why he left school at one point) and accidentally told her 2009 instead of 2008. This is a mistake that anyone could make...I don't remember what year I had my last eye exam either.
When she was on the phone with my husband, she brought up a concern with our short engagement (we knew each other 6 months before the wedding)- she didn't mention this in detail in the interview.

Will getting a refusal affect our future outland application?? The IO said she would be making a decision tomorrow morning (when she gets the info we sent) so there's not much time. She's been so up and down with us that I'm pretty sure it'll be refused, but then again she could read all the info we send and change her mind.
 

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tow75 said:
Yes, applying outland is something we're talking about right now. Interesting that the federal court doesn't consider the evidence...but just wondering what you think our credible arguments would be if we went down that road? Other that our relationship is completely genuine, and the best reason the IO has to turn us down is why my husband failed some courses and dropped out of school 4 years ago. It would be a huge help to us if we could know.

I think outland would be the best option for us. We'll order the FOSS notes (or whatever they're called) and remember everything that was said in the interview...she was hard on us, but when she left we both thought she had been hard on us, but fair. She said she had a "good feeling" about the interview, but that she didn't want to give us "false hope"...but she gave us false hope. Clearly she changed her mind after the interview. The only proofs we left her were my husbands lease from 2 years ago (that I cosigned) and one of my bank bills that came to his old address- proof that i lived there before our wedding. How these things can change her mind, I don't know. My husband didn't remember when he found out he was colourblind (why he left school at one point) and accidentally told her 2009 instead of 2008. This is a mistake that anyone could make...I don't remember what year I had my last eye exam either.
When she was on the phone with my husband, she brought up a concern with our short engagement (we knew each other 6 months before the wedding)- she didn't mention this in detail in the interview.

Will getting a refusal affect our future outland application?? The IO said she would be making a decision tomorrow morning (when she gets the info we sent) so there's not much time. She's been so up and down with us that I'm pretty sure it'll be refused, but then again she could read all the info we send and change her mind.
I would suggest you fax her asking for an extension so you can submit additional documentation. She's brought up concerns and you'd like additional time to try to address them. This will give you time to consult with a lawyer. Perhaps that way you can withdraw the application if it looks like it would be advantageous to do so.
 

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The only thing is that we've already given her everything we have. emails, facebook chats from 2 years ago, letters from friends, neighbours, landlords, the originals of all our cards from birthdays, Valentine's day, anniversaries (which I'm sure we won't get back) all my financial information, all of my husband's, all his school transcripts, my health and life insurance stuff with him as my beneficiary (this ended up working against us because now the IO thinks my husband is getting a great deal by marrying me - he gets 70,000 dollars if I die suddenly, and this would be a reason to stay with me until he gets residency because he is my irrevocable beneficiary- also I've only had this insurance for a couple months) and wire transfers from the last 2 years showing that my husband's parents pay our rent.

My landlord has called the IO 6 times today, and left a message, and got no call back. My neighbour called as well and didn't get an answer. I don't know what evidence there is left, unless we can get some sort of psycological assessment that says my husband is not enough of a sociopath to fake an extremely close, intimate relationship for 2 1/2 years. I don't know where else to go. I wrote a letter today explaining to her that I proposed to my husband, and that I was so taken up with the idea of marrying him that I didn't want to wait - I don't believe in long engagements. I included a screen shot of a facebook chat with my husbands mother after she wanted us both to go back to Morocco to LIVE WITH HER INDEFINITELY because the process was taking so long saying that the sponsorship was my idea...and I'm sure the IO will still think my husband is a liar. There's no way to prove he isn't in her mind...she's convinced that I'm telling the truth and we both said the exact same things...in fact he gave her a better description of our life together than I have.

I'm at my wit's end here.
 

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tow75 said:
I included a screen shot of a facebook chat with my husbands mother after she wanted us both to go back to Morocco to LIVE WITH HER INDEFINITELY because the process was taking so long saying that the sponsorship was my idea...and I'm sure the IO will still think my husband is a liar.
I think that's great. Is it in French? If it's in Arabic, she's entitled to ignore it. Also, if it's in French, she may say it was staged. (Edit: Unless it's normal for them to communicate in French.) But if it's from well before you found out there would be an interview, it's positive, because you'd have been less likely to stage it.

I'd say keep thinking of stuff like this and fax it to her before tomorrow morning.

She'll make her decision based on whether she thinks it would hold up in court. Try getting a letter from your landlord saying his parents pay the rent. If you had time, you could make it an affidavit.

It's ridiculous for her to say it's one-sided when the reason he doesn't have money is that he can't work legally.

Edit: Also, I think you can go over the emails and other documents you've already submitted and highlight the parts that rebut her arguments. Frankly, I think you have nothing to lose in asking for an extension. She's raising specific arguments against you that you couldn't have foreseen. She gave you a chance to respond orally, but you should be allowed to look for appropriate documents to submit too.
 

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The conversation is in French, from October 9th of this year (we found out about the interview on December 7th) I just mailed in every screen shot of almost every conversation we've ever had... starting from before we applied for immigration. My husband's parents speak both Arabic and French...the higher class educated people all do- they are bilingual French and Arabic. I mentioned in the interview that when my husband's mother comes to visit, I talk to her in French- my French is not perfect but I do my best. I'm sure she can understand my message - I'm not that bad.
I also sent in basically every email in my inbox from my parents mentioning my husband (asking how he is, inviting him to stay at their house, plans for visiting our apartment, asking what he wants for Christmas, etc etc.)
We sent in honeymoon tickets, bus tickets from staying with my parents this past summer, and our bus reservations to spend Christmas with my parents (leaving this Saturday).

But, like the IO said, none of this matters, because she believes my husband to be so good of a liar that he can lie to all of our friends, my parents, our landlords, neighbours, his parents etc etc. I don't understand what she wants, and when I asked her this on the phone earlier today she said, "i'll leave that up to you to decide".
 

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tow75 said:
The conversation is in French, from October 9th of this year (we found out about the interview on December 7th) I just mailed in every screen shot of almost every conversation we've ever had... starting from before we applied for immigration. My husband's parents speak both Arabic and French...the higher class educated people all do- they are bilingual French and Arabic. I mentioned in the interview that when my husband's mother comes to visit, I talk to her in French- my French is not perfect but I do my best. I'm sure she can understand my message - I'm not that bad.
I also sent in basically every email in my inbox from my parents mentioning my husband (asking how he is, inviting him to stay at their house, plans for visiting our apartment, asking what he wants for Christmas, etc etc.)
We sent in honeymoon tickets, bus tickets from staying with my parents this past summer, and our bus reservations to spend Christmas with my parents (leaving this Saturday).

But, like the IO said, none of this matters, because she believes my husband to be so good of a liar that he can lie to all of our friends, my parents, our landlords, neighbours, his parents etc etc. I don't understand what she wants, and when I asked her this on the phone earlier today she said, "i'll leave that up to you to decide".
I think the most telling things will be conversations between him and his parents. Highlight the parts of your emails that support you. Also, letters from people who know you who believe that you're not gullible enough for you to let this happen. This worked in an appeal case. If you can get letters from both your parents explaining why they weren't at the wedding, that might help. But that's a bit of a minefield, since you may want to revisit this later.
 

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I already did lots of highlighting. We have four letters, from my lanlord (who lives downstairs) our neighbours, my best friend, who I lived with when I started dating my husband, and my husband's best friend. The IO called my husband's father this morning, and he told her himself why he wasn't at the wedding (he's a wedding planner and has an insane work schedule) we've already arranged for my husband's mother to call her tomorrow morning right at 8:30 AM. In my best friend's letter she said that she's never doubted our feelings for each other, my neighbours (who we spend a lot of time with, and who are in their 40s- more reliable that 22 year olds??) even mentioned the affectionate nicknames we call each other. My landlord said that we are a "wonderful couple". My husband wrote her another explanation letter stating why he failed school, and wrote at the end that if my country doesn't accept him, his country will accept me with open arms, and that will be our home.

Again, no idea how we can do anything better.

The situation with my parents is very complicated but they love my husband, in parts of the emails I sent in they talk about his generous nature, and how thankful they are for him helping my sister out with random things (fixing phones, moving her into her appartment, etc) They have a vendetta against young marriage which is why they weren't at the wedding.

I think you're right that we'll need an immigration lawyer at some point, but right now I barely have enough money for us to eat dinner so it might have to wait.
 

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tow75 said:
Yes, applying outland is something we're talking about right now. Interesting that the federal court doesn't consider the evidence...but just wondering what you think our credible arguments would be if we went down that road? Other that our relationship is completely genuine, and the best reason the IO has to turn us down is why my husband failed some courses and dropped out of school 4 years ago. It would be a huge help to us if we could know.
The Federal Court will consider the evidence - but only the evidence that was before the officer. Further, they give great latitude to the officer making the original decision. However, if a Federal Court judge reviews the evidence and concludes that the decision is not within the range of reasonable outcomes, she or he may overturn the decision and send it back to CIC for reconsideration.

It sounds to me like the VO has fixated on this specific event. But yes, it's a judgment call. Some of what you have described is suspicious - her initial refusal to take your documents, now her insistence you provide them. Overall, rather odd. But the Federal Court is definitely not a guarantee.

Still, you painted a rather compelling story - this is a person of wealth who married for love. He isn't gaining an improved economic background, he's giving it up. I don't find the 2009/2010 thing about colour blindness to be particularly compelling, either. When you look at what you have laid out for us, it doesn't sound like an MOC to me.

If you DO send additional documents, I'd suggest laying out your argument one more time. Explain the error in the date, lay out your case. Ask people in your life to read it and see if they find it compelling. In the end, you want a clear case that lays out your relationship, why it is genuine, what he has given up for this relationship. You want anyone reading this write-up to come away with a clear understanding of the legitimacy of your relationship. Lay it ALL out. Anything you add to the case now can be considered by a Federal judge - and what you want is a clear roadmap that leaves no other reasonable conclusion other than the genuine nature of your relationship.

tow75 said:
I think outland would be the best option for us. We'll order the FOSS notes (or whatever they're called) and remember everything that was said in the interview...she was hard on us, but when she left we both thought she had been hard on us, but fair. She said she had a "good feeling" about the interview, but that she didn't want to give us "false hope"...but she gave us false hope. Clearly she changed her mind after the interview. The only proofs we left her were my husbands lease from 2 years ago (that I cosigned) and one of my bank bills that came to his old address- proof that i lived there before our wedding. How these things can change her mind, I don't know. My husband didn't remember when he found out he was colourblind (why he left school at one point) and accidentally told her 2009 instead of 2008. This is a mistake that anyone could make...I don't remember what year I had my last eye exam either.
When she was on the phone with my husband, she brought up a concern with our short engagement (we knew each other 6 months before the wedding)- she didn't mention this in detail in the interview.
If you think it's going to be a refusal, and you won't pursue a judicial review, you really should consider withdrawing the application rather than letting the IO make her decision. Indeed, what I'd say is "after consideration, we have decided an outland application would be better. Accordingly, please withdraw this application."

tow75 said:
Will getting a refusal affect our future outland application?? The IO said she would be making a decision tomorrow morning (when she gets the info we sent) so there's not much time. She's been so up and down with us that I'm pretty sure it'll be refused, but then again she could read all the info we send and change her mind.
There is no way that a refusal will have anything but a negative impact on a future application. In my own case, I had to deal with this and I can see how my initial rejection was an issue in consideration of the second application. I had an advantage - I was in Federal Court on the first refusal (for a skilled worker application) and it looked likely I would win. That's a rather unusual situation and it led to some pretty strong arm-twisting to get my second (spousal) application approved in record time.

But I can see it in the notes for my case: "Based on information provided, further review required due to previous inadmissibility."

Then the notes five days later:

"Reviewed file and case analysis: FOSS: PA previously refused SW application on A38, medical inadmissibility for excessive demand. That file currently has application for leave for JR pending with Federal Court. Current
medical result is Passed (M39 - EDE). No other eligibility or admissibility concerns noted on previous file. PA residing in Canada on WP since 2009, recently applied to extend. PA currently has TRP appln in process in
Seattle. Based on evidence on file, I am satisfied the relationship is genuine and has not been entered into primarily to gain immigration status in Canada."

So yes, they definitely look at your previous refusals.
 

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Hello Tow75,

It really seems you've done as much as you could. I feel bad for you. Some immigration officers seem to get an idea in their head about people and think anything that's not exactly the way they think it should be, like your husband's marks, mean that really they're only interested in getting into Canada. I mean, they'll say that if you can't remember what you ate together five days ago, you're really lying about living together. It makes me ashamed of our government. At least in the U.S., these interviews are taped, so if you appeal, it's not just the officer's say so about what happened in the interview.

I think your application is likely to be accepted on appeal when you reapply outland. I think you should talk to a lawyer this time, though, if your application is rejected. There may be some reason that I don't know that would make it advantageous to appeal now. I think if you can pay $200 to get this basic advice, it would be worth it.

What Computergeek says might be true - it might be better to withdraw. It's too bad you won't have a chance to discuss it with a lawyer.

Good luck.
 

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Thanks for your replies everyone. We really have done everything we could. I wrote 3 different letters today (one explaining why I sent a specific message to my husband's mom, one explaining why I proposed and wanted to get married fast, and the last one explaining why my husband could not have faked a relationship with me for 2 years). She said she would consider anything with a postage stamp of today...anything after that is out. She could have already made a decision for all we know. We sent everything by priority mail, and it will arrive tomorrow for sure. I really don't have the 200 for the lawyer right now...after the holidays might be a different story. Another useful piece of info that I didn't mention is how incompetent our consultant is...he promised us we'd have permanent residency (or a work permit) right after the interview, and told us they for sure wanted to give my husband a visa. Looking back at our initial application, it was very weak- no letters from our landlord or anyone else, and half our photos were taken out...but we trusted the consultant because we were young and stupid.

Here's one of the letters I sent to the IO today- I'm hoping I wasn't too severe because I wrote all 3 of the letters I sent in about 30 mins ( I took our names out):


To: Ms. [IO]:

Regarding: The authenticity of [my husband's] relationship with me

It has been insinuated by yourself both in our interview yesterday, and when I gave you a call this morning, that [my husband] is simply with me for the purpose of gaining permanent residency, and will soon end our relationship if he is granted status. Although two and a half years of living a lie would sound like a daunting task to most, what you say is hypothetically possible. However, if you were a close friend of ours or had a better insight into our relationship, there is no doubt in my mind that you would share my perspective on the authenticity of our relationship.

Although you have indicated your need for facts in order to come to a decision about the authenticity of our relationship, it cannot be disputed that relationships and marriages are based on emotions, which are frequently illogical, highly unpredictable, and rarely make sense to anyone else that the people in the relationship themselves.

The only proof [my husband] and I can give is that that is a result of our relationship which is based on emotions and love. I can say with 100% certainty that it would impossible for anyone to “fake” what [my husband] and I have together. He is a very emotional and sensitive person, more so then myself, and his reactions to the ups and downs or our relationship cannot be faked ([my husband], unlike most men, cries when he is upset).

The person with the personality necessary to fake our entire marriage would have to be a sociopath or someone with some sort of personality disorder.

Sincerely,

[my name]

I realized I made a few typos in that just now. Sorry for bombarding everyone with a ton of stuff...but what I write here (and reading your responses to my husband) makes us feel so much better and not so alone. All we can do is our best- we said that in the interview as well.
 

frege

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tow75 said:
Thanks for your replies everyone. We really have done everything we could. I wrote 3 different letters today (one explaining why I sent a specific message to my husband's mom, one explaining why I proposed and wanted to get married fast, and the last one explaining why my husband could not have faked a relationship with me for 2 years). She said she would consider anything with a postage stamp of today...anything after that is out. She could have already made a decision for all we know. We sent everything by priority mail, and it will arrive tomorrow for sure. I really don't have the 200 for the lawyer right now...after the holidays might be a different story. Another useful piece of info that I didn't mention is how incompetent our consultant is...he promised us we'd have permanent residency (or a work permit) right after the interview, and told us they for sure wanted to give my husband a visa. Looking back at our initial application, it was very weak- no letters from our landlord or anyone else, and half our photos were taken out...but we trusted the consultant because we were young and stupid.

Here's one of the letters I sent to the IO today- I'm hoping I wasn't too severe because I wrote all 3 of the letters I sent in about 30 mins ( I took our names out):


To: Ms. [IO]:

Regarding: The authenticity of [my husband's] relationship with me

It has been insinuated by yourself both in our interview yesterday, and when I gave you a call this morning, that [my husband] is simply with me for the purpose of gaining permanent residency, and will soon end our relationship if he is granted status. Although two and a half years of living a lie would sound like a daunting task to most, what you say is hypothetically possible. However, if you were a close friend of ours or had a better insight into our relationship, there is no doubt in my mind that you would share my perspective on the authenticity of our relationship.

Although you have indicated your need for facts in order to come to a decision about the authenticity of our relationship, it cannot be disputed that relationships and marriages are based on emotions, which are frequently illogical, highly unpredictable, and rarely make sense to anyone else that the people in the relationship themselves.

The only proof [my husband] and I can give is that that is a result of our relationship which is based on emotions and love. I can say with 100% certainty that it would impossible for anyone to “fake” what [my husband] and I have together. He is a very emotional and sensitive person, more so then myself, and his reactions to the ups and downs or our relationship cannot be faked ([my husband], unlike most men, cries when he is upset).

The person with the personality necessary to fake our entire marriage would have to be a sociopath or someone with some sort of personality disorder.

Sincerely,

[my name]

I realized I made a few typos in that just now. Sorry for bombarding everyone with a ton of stuff...but what I write here (and reading your responses to my husband) makes us feel so much better and not so alone. All we can do is our best- we said that in the interview as well.
I think there's a negative undercurrent there towards the IO. I can't really blame you, but I don't know if it will help.

I think it's good you said that he couldn't fake it - that you'd know it. Unfortunately, your youth probably doesn't help here. If you'd had more time, it would have been good to have people who know you describe you as mature.

It's not an easy situation because she's deliberately trying to make sure you don't have time to respond. Given that, I think you're doing an excellent job coping.

On the other hand, I don't think she really has a right to ignore anything you fax to her now, if it's there for her in the morning. Not that you'll want to do that, but I don't like what she said about the postmarks.
 

tow75

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Yeah I totally agree...could have thought that through a bit more thoroughly but we wanted to fax her the mail receipt before the end of the day so I didn't have time to read it over.
Lots of people have described me as mature...my parents, and the IO herself:

"You're a young couple but you're very mature." exact words as we were putting our coats on to leave the interview

I think she wanted to see how emotional we get...I hope I didn't get too emotional.