How does the goverment expect people to continue relationships w/o marrying?

[acer925]

This post is one example of the common unexpected difficulties that US/Canadian marriage/partner relationship face. In both countries the government forbids married couples to do what is commonly expected of them. Move in together, work and live/raise a family. Under the current Canadian law this is impossible in most cases.

You are either forced to live apart or not work for the first 6-12 months. In my own situation I moved here got married, but have been unable to work without a work permit. And now after a year my marriage/partner doesn't want to sponsor me because of the undue stress of supporting me this past year. She is afraid that she will have to do this for the next three years. I am not a free loader, as I have depleted well over $10,000 savings since coming here for living expenses. My wife rightfully expected that I would come here and support her. But instead she has been forced to carried the full load.

Not to get personal, but if you spent over $10k of your own money and she still doesnt wanna sponsor you that's kinda messed up. I came here with no money and my gf has supported me for over a year and she loves me more now than she ever has, it shouldnt have anything to do with finances if she really loves you. Isn't she aware that you weren't able to work by law? It seems like she is the one looking for a sugar daddy perhaps? O

 

[acer925]

Take note that the U.S. does recognize "common law spouses" where you became one in a country where common law carries all the privileges of marriage. I believe that Canada is one of those, so you should try to confirm that if that is your situation. (It may actually vary by province, depending on what criteria this depends on.)

You know I read something like that, It was a bit confusing though. I have a phone number for the US immigration, I called them before and they told me that either getting married, an employer sponsoring, or starting a business with like a crazy amount of money is the only ways of getting a green card but im gonna ask them what if we are common law spouses here in CAnada and then come to the states, will they recogniz that.? I actually read that only certain states recognize it and others dont..but I thought that was only from common law marriages from within the states, not from CAnada?

 

[BeShoo]

I actually read that only certain states recognize it and others dont..but I thought that was only from common law marriages from within the states, not from CAnada?

Well, I don't know and it's off the topic of this forum, but you need to look into it further. Start by following that link I left earlier.

It's true that many states don't recognize it, or it they do, they may not give it the same privileges as a regular marriage, but you are more interested in what the federal government recognizes, because immigrations is a federal matter and not a state matter.

 

[acer925]

Well, I don't know and it's off the topic of this forum, but you need to look into it further. Start by following that link I left earlier.

It's true that many states don't recognize it, or it they do, they may not give it the same privileges as a regular marriage, but you are more interested in what the federal government recognizes, because immigrations is a federal matter and not a state matter.

I spoke with the US immigration office and they said that they do net recognize any common law marriages. Marriage is the only way. I didnt mean to get off topic, but since we would have to get common law here in Canada I figured someone would know ,plus I couldnt get on to stupid visajourney.com

 

[BeShoo]

According to this, some common law marriages qualify, but not Canadian ones:

http://immigrationezee.com/ezee/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=66&Itemid=72

I can't say how accurate or up-to-date that page is.

 

[HoneyBird]

This post is one example of the common unexpected difficulties that US/Canadian marriage/partner relationship face. In both countries the government forbids married couples to do what is commonly expected of them. Move in together, work and live/raise a family. Under the current Canadian law this is impossible in most cases.

You are either forced to live apart or not work for the first 6-12 months. In my own situation I moved here got married, but have been unable to work without a work permit. And now after a year my marriage/partner doesn't want to sponsor me because of the undue stress of supporting me this past year. She is afraid that she will have to do this for the next three years. I am not a free loader, as I have depleted well over $10,000 savings since coming here for living expenses. My wife rightfully expected that I would come here and support her. But instead she has been forced to carried the full load.