has anyone been successful sponsoring a younger husband from a different culture

[Aquarian]

I tried to PM you a few days ago but your inbox was full! Anyway, I left some posts here... Feel free to ask questions here or private...

Yes Mikey...and i hope you succeed also. As for the evidence...i could only send what we have...almost 2 years of daily talking for couple of hours each day...and of course when one meets a person from so far away there is doubts...i did lot of reading in the beginning of our relationship regarding genuine relationships and such stuff. but after couple of months i felt it was counter productive so just based on what i know of him now i trust him completely.....and i just hope the immigration people after reading our talks can also. and i introduced him on skype to my friends here, some coworkers and sons and they also felt that he was genuine...so i only hope our talking will be enough to show what we are about. i have messaged aquarian...i hope she will give me some pointers ...now i guess i submitted all the evidence i could so too late to add more paper. and i will go there again in august. i just hope it will all work out for everyone

 

[Aquarian]

I would not, because I do not think it helps your case.

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is it a good idea to change my name here in canada, i have not done it yet because many people here dont and many take their time with that?
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[Aquarian]

While you have a point, I do not think you need to be so cold about it. We are here to support each other.

Another question i wish they would ask at the interview:

"when this guy leaves you after he gets his PR are you going to go running to the government complaining they didn't protect you enough from your own stupidty and try to weasle out of your responsibilities as sponsor?"

I hope your relationshiop is genuine and that everything works out for you. But if its not, i hope you take full responsibility for it, instead of doing what many Canadian women do which is start screaming for TOUGHER sponsorship rules, which in the end make life difficult for and restrict the freedom of thousands of innocent honest couples.

 

[Aquarian]

Although steerpike was rude in the way he posted it, all he means is that if in the end your husband did just want the visa, leaves you after the two-year condition is finished, and goes on welfare, please be sure you would be ready to repay the government for that, without complaint.

As for spending 2 hours every day, unfortunately, some people will do whatever they need to do to get a visa.

I am sure we are ALL hoping he is the real deal!! Best of luck, keep us posted ok?!

Hello steerpike
i am not sure where you coming from with that comment. all i know is that i truly feel my relationship is genuine. I dont believe anybody would enjoy spending 2 hours everyday for 2 years with somebody just for the heck of it. and if he would leave once he gets here...by now i know him enough so that i dont believe that for one moment...but if he should it will be he whom i would blame not the government....if you have some explanation to your comment please let me know.

 

[Aquarian]

Yes, I have to agree too. Be ready to take responsibility....

The point steerpike and mikeymyke have been trying to make is that you should owe up to your responsibility for your actions. You signed a contract stating that you are responsible for 3 years. You can't turn around and say I am not responsible if my marriage ended shortly after partner landed. You signed a contract so that the government is not on the hook for your unfortunate circumstance if it came to that. It is called being responsible and accountable for your actions. If you had any inkling or doubt about your relationship, you shouldn't sign the papers. It could have been much worst. It used to be 10 years. Be graceful that you are on the hook for 3 years instead of 10 years.

 

[Aquarian]

Ah you know, lolol, there is always somebody who is negative. There is nothing wrong with being realistic, but he has to do in a positive way...I hope everything works out great for you guys! Feel free to ask questions...:

Good luck!

of course we have to be responsible for our decisions...and most of the time we are..thats why you have people loosing homes over it...nobody expects the government to pay for supporting people who entered canada under false pretenses...but it is reasonable to expect that laws are in place which protect citizens from being scammed. thank god we live in a country where we are responsible for our children and families but not for cheating lying spouses who decide to just walk. anyway i am not a grandma yet ...not sure why some people are so eager to try to insult others...and why have i not gotten any answer to the proof of that lying? this talk turned into something other than i intended... i only wanted to know more about people sponsoring spouses younger than themselves...how has it turned into sponsors not being responsible for their spouses? it really seems to me that couple of people here are the applicants who expect they will come to canada at the expense of the spouse and already plan that they will be financially supported for ever. well there is no shortage of jobs here....any decent applicant for whom a relationship does not work out would think of returning home or finding a job...no?

 

[Aquarian]

well said..

soblue3 -

Here's the deal. What any of us there think or don't think about your relationship is not material. All that matters is CIC's view of your relationship and application. What else matters is what you can do to prepare in the event your husband is called for an interview or you are asked to provide more information about your relationship.

You have several "red flags" (as we refer to them on this forum) in your application. Red flags are characteristics about your relationship that may cause CIC to believe the relationship is not genuine. (To be clear, this is not me judging - just trying to explain how applications are viewed from CIC's perspective. I had at least one red flag myself.) While this is not universally true, the pattern that we generally see is the more red flags, the higher the chance of an interview due to CIC's concerns about the relationship. Hopefully you called out any red flags in your application's relatioship write-up and explained why they were not relevant / not an issue between you (e.g. "while there is a significant age gap between us, what makes us very similar is..."). Note that in your case they won't be worried that your intentions aren't genuine. If they call an interview, it's your husband's motives they will be questioning. So he is the one who really needs to be prepared and be ready to answer questions about your relationship. Sometimes men from certain cultures aren't very comfortable with these types of discussions with strangers (actually, most men probably aren't). He should get comfortable. Because looking uncomfortable and uncertain in an interview could send the wrong message about his intentions with regards to you. These would be good things to start discussing with him now.

If you search this forum for "interview questions", you'll find many places where long lists have been posted of the types of questions asked in these interviews. If an interview happens, you should be provided with plenty of notice. However I think it would be wise for you to start slowly preparing now or at least knowing where you can find this information if you end up needing it.

You should also continue to collect evidence that shows your relationship is genuine and ongoing. I kept a box in my bedroom closet after my husband's application was submitted and tossed relevant stuff into it while his application was in process as a "just in case" measure. Sometimes these were airline tickets, sometimes printed emails that I thought were especially good, etc. I didn't end up needing this information. But I think it's much easier to gather additional things gradually rather than waiting until you need them.

Anyway - those are my suggestions so that you are well prepared for whatever happens. Hopefully you'll said through without having to go through the interview process. Good luck.

 

[soblue3]

Thanks...

You could provide 1000 documents of proof, but they could still refuse you. It is quality not quantity they want to see.

However, I do believe they approve cases where both couples have good diplomas and stable careers....It is like they add points...

thanks for responding aquarian and i hope they will take it into consideration because we both well matched in that area...both of us have degrees, i have good job and stable career and he is a teacher both of us work with kids both have background in music but also other areas

 

[Aquarian]

I am hoping he did his army already or has an exemption? If your husband does not have it, he could be on the list and cannot leave the country...

My husband was delayed coming here because of that. We had to wait for his exemption....

Hello,
I have recently filled an application to sponsor my husband to Canada. He is much younger than me, from a different culture and we met on the internet. We have been talking daily for at least 2 hours on the internet. After developing feelings for each other we decided that if our online relationship last for one year i would go and meet him. It did and as my and his feelings appeared to grow we decided that if we like each other in person as much as we did online then we would get married. So in August of last year i travelled to meet him. He lives in a small traditional place and has a big family. His family was just lovely and so was he. We were not able to spend time alone due to his cultural traditions. So after a week of spending time with him and his family we decided to get married. After the marriage we were finally able to spend time together. We went for a beautiful honeymoon and i spend a month with him. In real life he was exactly like i expected...i did not find any lies or discrepancies. We share so many hobbies and interests together. Then in September last year i returned to Canada and in March this year we have submitted our application to immigration Canada. My sponsorship application has been approved and the application has been forwarded to Paris and medical forms have been received. I have not hired a lawyer yet. I have send them pictures from my visit, honeymoon, and my time there. Also many screen shots from our chats on skype. Also, send them screen shots from our talking on msn, facebook and skype and few whole conversations. I was not able to send all of our talking as just on skype there is 1600 pages and even more on facebook (80,000 messages) . But i think i have send close to 400 pages. Now reading other peoples notes i worry if i have send enough and if it will be a problem that we did not talk on the telephone? Also i am curious if it will be ok if i travel there again during the time they are processing the application because now we have been apart for almost 7 months and its getting hard. We are still talking to each other for 2 hours daily but its not the same as being together in person.

 

[soblue3]

He has already dealt with the army, He paid them some fee and finished dealing with them before we married...now he was saying something of taking the marriage certificate for the exemption.

 

[Aquarian]

So he is off the list then, for now? For Tunisia, I have heard that they usually give the exemption when a Tunisian marries a foreigner- unlike Algeria. You should ask him how long he would have to wait for it, though. For us, he was exempted for other reasons, and as of now, ages 30 and up are exempted anyway...

He has already dealt with the army, He paid them some fee and finished dealing with them before we married...now he was saying something of taking the marriage certificate for the exemption.

 

[soblue3]

Although steerpike was rude in the way he posted it, all he means is that if in the end your husband did just want the visa, leaves you after the two-year condition is finished, and goes on welfare, please be sure you would be ready to repay the government for that, without complaint.

As for spending 2 hours every day, unfortunately, some people will do whatever they need to do to get a visa.

I am sure we are ALL hoping he is the real deal!! Best of luck, keep us posted ok?!

well sure i can imagine some people would talk daily just to get a visa...but really i can not see him being in that category..he can have probably better life there....in their culture men have many privileges ...here he will have to contribute to house work and work possibly a job that is offers less prestige than his over there. so he is taking a chance just like i am. yes i will ask him how long it will take him for the exemption

 

[Aquarian]

Good to hear this...

thanks for responding aquarian and i hope they will take it into consideration because we both well matched in that area...both of us have degrees, i have good job and stable career and he is a teacher both of us work with kids both have background in music but also other areas