has anyone been successful sponsoring a younger husband from a different culture

[soblue3]

Hello,
I have recently filled an application to sponsor my husband to Canada. He is much younger than me, from a different culture and we met on the internet. We have been talking daily for at least 2 hours on the internet. After developing feelings for each other we decided that if our online relationship last for one year i would go and meet him. It did and as my and his feelings appeared to grow we decided that if we like each other in person as much as we did online then we would get married. So in August of last year i travelled to meet him. He lives in a small traditional place and has a big family. His family was just lovely and so was he. We were not able to spend time alone due to his cultural traditions. So after a week of spending time with him and his family we decided to get married. After the marriage we were finally able to spend time together. We went for a beautiful honeymoon and i spend a month with him. In real life he was exactly like i expected...i did not find any lies or discrepancies. We share so many hobbies and interests together. Then in September last year i returned to Canada and in March this year we have submitted our application to immigration Canada. My sponsorship application has been approved and the application has been forwarded to Paris and medical forms have been received. I have not hired a lawyer yet. I have send them pictures from my visit, honeymoon, and my time there. Also many screen shots from our chats on skype. Also, send them screen shots from our talking on msn, facebook and skype and few whole conversations. I was not able to send all of our talking as just on skype there is 1600 pages and even more on facebook (80,000 messages) . But i think i have send close to 400 pages. Now reading other peoples notes i worry if i have send enough and if it will be a problem that we did not talk on the telephone? Also i am curious if it will be ok if i travel there again during the time they are processing the application because now we have been apart for almost 7 months and its getting hard. We are still talking to each other for 2 hours daily but its not the same as being together in person.

 

[mikeymyke]

Your communication history seems good, but CIC generally frowns upon people who marry on the first meeting, and it seems you married your husband just 1 week after you met him in person. The age difference and different culture may or may not hurt your application, depending on the country.

Where is he from?

 

[CdnandTrini]

Hello,
I have recently filled an application to sponsor my husband to Canada. He is much younger than me, from a different culture and we met on the internet. We have been talking daily for at least 2 hours on the internet. After developing feelings for each other we decided that if our online relationship last for one year i would go and meet him. It did and as my and his feelings appeared to grow we decided that if we like each other in person as much as we did online then we would get married. So in August of last year i travelled to meet him. He lives in a small traditional place and has a big family. His family was just lovely and so was he. We were not able to spend time alone due to his cultural traditions. So after a week of spending time with him and his family we decided to get married. After the marriage we were finally able to spend time together. We went for a beautiful honeymoon and i spend a month with him. In real life he was exactly like i expected...i did not find any lies or discrepancies. We share so many hobbies and interests together. Then in September last year i returned to Canada and in March this year we have submitted our application to immigration Canada. My sponsorship application has been approved and the application has been forwarded to Paris and medical forms have been received. I have not hired a lawyer yet. I have send them pictures from my visit, honeymoon, and my time there. Also many screen shots from our chats on skype. Also, send them screen shots from our talking on msn, facebook and skype and few whole conversations. I was not able to send all of our talking as just on skype there is 1600 pages and even more on facebook (80,000 messages) . But i think i have send close to 400 pages. Now reading other peoples notes i worry if i have send enough and if it will be a problem that we did not talk on the telephone? Also i am curious if it will be ok if i travel there again during the time they are processing the application because now we have been apart for almost 7 months and its getting hard. We are still talking to each other for 2 hours daily but its not the same as being together in person.

Hello soblue3 and the answer to your question is yes, many people, both men and women on this forum are successful in sponsoring spouses from other cultures, younger than themselves. There are also many couples that meet online and marry these days as well. If you can afford to travel and visit your spouse by all means go ahead and save every boarding pass, receipt, photo etc. and send along to support your application. My husband and I were once apart for 18 months due to a variety of circumstances (he was not able to get a visa to travel to see me in Canada) and we had a long distance relationship for 6 years before we got married. After we married (in his country) we submitted our application and were approved within 8 months. I am 5 years older than him and we are from different cultures (both English speaking however).

The important thing is that your application is clear, complete and addresses any concerns that CIC might have. If you can give a bit more info. about where you and your hubby are from you may be able to go read on a specific thread stories that are more relevant to your situation or hear from others with situations similar to yours. So take heart , there are many of us on this forum willing to share our experiences and encourage you along the way. Blessings.

 

[scylla]

Since you married so quickly, there's probably a decent chance your husband is going to be called for an interview. I would start preparing for this now by collecting additional information that supports your relationship is genuine (taking another couple of trips there would certainly be a good idea) and ensuring your husband is comfortable in an interview situation where he has to speak about his relationship with you.

If by any chance your husband is from Morocco, we have quite an active thread here for people sponsoring significant others from that country.

 

[jomz]

I agree with Scylla, prepare for an interview.

And to answer your other question, difference in age (less than 5 years) not much of an issue, larger gap can become a problem if also there are religious/cultural differences.

What also makes a difference to be honest is your personal appearance. They will judge you based on the pictures. So if you are for example 45 but look to be 30 and he is 30, it will be easier to pass on appearance.

If he is muslim and you are not, and you are much older than him (outside child bearing age), married on first visit, and if you have been previously married or have kids from past relationships this will raise suspicion.


Our file: I am older than my husband by 4 years. However on appearance I do look younger than my husband. Different background and culture. Same religion. No prior marriages/no kids on both sides. Met in person 1.5 years prior to our formal engagement and 2 months later we had a large traditional wedding. 6 visits in total in the last 2 years. Expecting our first baby now. Visa Office was Rabat one of the hardest ones when it come to mixed married. Our file was approved in less than 4 months ( Rabat processing is 8 months).

 

[Obronibini]

Hello,
I have recently filled an application to sponsor my husband to Canada. He is much younger than me, from a different culture and we met on the internet. We have been talking daily for at least 2 hours on the internet. After developing feelings for each other we decided that if our online relationship last for one year i would go and meet him. It did and as my and his feelings appeared to grow we decided that if we like each other in person as much as we did online then we would get married. So in August of last year i travelled to meet him. He lives in a small traditional place and has a big family. His family was just lovely and so was he. We were not able to spend time alone due to his cultural traditions. So after a week of spending time with him and his family we decided to get married. After the marriage we were finally able to spend time together. We went for a beautiful honeymoon and i spend a month with him. In real life he was exactly like i expected...i did not find any lies or discrepancies. We share so many hobbies and interests together. Then in September last year i returned to Canada and in March this year we have submitted our application to immigration Canada. My sponsorship application has been approved and the application has been forwarded to Paris and medical forms have been received. I have not hired a lawyer yet. I have send them pictures from my visit, honeymoon, and my time there. Also many screen shots from our chats on skype. Also, send them screen shots from our talking on msn, facebook and skype and few whole conversations. I was not able to send all of our talking as just on skype there is 1600 pages and even more on facebook (80,000 messages) . But i think i have send close to 400 pages. Now reading other peoples notes i worry if i have send enough and if it will be a problem that we did not talk on the telephone? Also i am curious if it will be ok if i travel there again during the time they are processing the application because now we have been apart for almost 7 months and its getting hard. We are still talking to each other for 2 hours daily but its not the same as being together in person.

do all that others have said and just stay calm am sure you will be ok. There's a march thread you can join as well . The seniors have spoken so that's it , gather more evidence just incase.,

 

[soblue3]

Hi, Thanks so much for your responses. I am from Canada he is from Tunisia. Yes we married quick...well over one year of talking daily first. We could have waited but its not easy for me to leave my job and just go there...and he cant just get visa for here...also because of his traditional family we could not have been alone together before the marriage...i know it sometimes sounds so out of this world even to me that i did this...but i we fell in love and i did not see how else it was possible for us to be together if we did not marry. i am planning to go again in august ...unless we hear some news before then...at my current job i have to book my holidays for the summer few months ahead so not able to just leave any time. Well there is more than 5 years ...but thank god on the pictures its not so obvious...so i think if they just look at the looks we will be ok .i have show our pictures to many people since coming back to canada and people say they would not guess there is much age difference...so i hope the immigration officers will also think that. .i hope to god because if they refuse i really have no idea what we will do...he asked me to come there but i have good career here and its not so easy to just leave...also my sons...they are independent now but i dont want to just leave them and my parents....well i will put up a fight i guess ....we are from different religions...well he is religious i am spiritual, but appears that the basic values of his religion are not so different than mine.

 

[soblue3]

oops i messed up i guess rabat is in morocco...

 

[mikeymyke]

i hope to god because if they refuse i really have no idea what we will do...he asked me to come there but i have good career here and its not so easy to just leave...also my sons...they are independent now but i dont want to just leave them and my parents....well i will put up a fight i guess ....we are from different religions...well he is religious i am spiritual, but appears that the basic values of his religion are not so different than mine.

On the flip side, by sponsoring your husband, you're forcing him to leave his entire family back home, a family and a country where he's lived for his entire life, think about that too.

Because of your relationship background, I think there's a good chance you will have an interview, and by the end of the interview, they will likely ask you "If we refuse your husband's PR, what will you do?" And if you're really adamant to stay in Canada and not live anywhere else, this will hurt your chances, because VO's dont like it if you do not have a backup plan for living elsewhere besides Canada if PR is refused.

 

[soblue3]

well, if there is no other way i will go to him...of course. and yes...he is also little scared of coming here..everything is new..he has never been out of his country...also there he teaches music...here he will have to do something else...unless he goes back to school...really there is many complications...but i feel if we can be together we will be ok...

 

[jomz]

soblue3, I think right now the best you can do is try and go to visit your husband. In many cases one visit is not enough to satisfy a visa officer that the marriage is genuine. Other than that, I think what you have in your favour is the visa office. Paris is fast and not too discriminating. There is one member on the forum, her name is Aquarian. She went through Paris, and also there were cultural/religious differences in her file, age difference, also she married after very short courtship (5 or 6 months). Her file was approved, she is married to an Algerian man. Find her on here and she can give you more information on the Paris Visa Office.

See her post on page 6. and try to send her a private message.

http://www.canadavisa.com/canada-immigration-discussion-board/thread-for-outland-paris-applications-t149184.0.html;msg3037269#msg3037269

 

[soblue3]

thanks so much again...i will look at that thread

 

[mikeymyke]

Yeah to be honest, I didn't think Aquarian would succeed, but she must've gathered a lot of good relationship proof, good for her.

 

[mikeymyke]

well, if there is no other way i will go to him...of course. and yes...he is also little scared of coming here..everything is new..he has never been out of his country...also there he teaches music...here he will have to do something else...unless he goes back to school...really there is many complications...but i feel if we can be together we will be ok...

Having a Plan B is a good idea, because you both won't be so stressed during the PR process, since no matter what happens with the PR application, it wont matter because you both will end up together anyway. For me, I love my wife, and although I'd much rather live in Canada, I will not leave her alone.

 

[drewday]

soblue3, I think right now the best you can do is try and go to visit your husband. In many cases one visit is not enough to satisfy a visa officer that the marriage is genuine. Other than that, I think what you have in your favour is the visa office. Paris is fast and not too discriminating. There is one member on the forum, her name is Aquarian. She went through Paris, and also there were cultural/religious differences in her file, age difference, also she married after very short courtship (5 or 6 months). Her file was approved, she is married to an Algerian man. Find her on here and she can give you more information on the Paris Visa Office.

See her post on page 6. and try to send her a private message.

http://www.canadavisa.com/canada-immigration-discussion-board/thread-for-outland-paris-applications-t149184.0.html;msg3037269#msg3037269

yes joms is right Aquarian is a nice lady .. private message her...