Gave up today on my husband's PR visa

[TammyW]

I officially gave up today on my husband's PR visa. I'm Canadian he is Mexican, here is why:

1. He was asked to voluntarily leave the USA, year found out today 2007, not a deportation but voluntary request to leave.

2. He has 2 children in USA, both minors. He has not seen them since leaving the USA. His exwife does not communicate with him in any way, be tough if not impossible to get the kids to get the medicals, or even get exwife to respond with a 'no'.

3. Found out through research today that he was convicted of 2 DUIs in the USA, one in March 2003 and other December 29, 2006. Second one was where he was found out to be an illegal.

It's just too much. I have pealed the onion skin off layer by layer and every day there is something new that is found out to be a problem.

I have a clean record and am a good sponsor prospect, so the problem would not be me, it's all the above that would be combined just too much to over come.

I feel heart broken that I find out these things now and I have just been through a lot here living in Mexico, that didn't work out, now through his life being under a magnifying glass I found out the truth. I have a broken life and a broken heart. I go back to Canada now, get through the corruption of Mexican brokers and customs, get my other affairs in order here, book my ticket and back to home to Canada to restart my life, knowing visa is a lost cause and I can't stay in Mexico as I have no job prospects here and no future.

Thank you everyone that responded to my postings and for your good advice. God Bless.

 

[scylla]

Wow - that's brutal that you only discovered these things about your husband now.

The things you have listed could certainly be overcome during the sponsorship process if you were serious about continuing the relationship. But given you just found out about the DUIs and voluntary departure now, I think you're making the right decision ending the relationship. Relationships are nothing without honestly.

Good luck.

 

[warzo]

I officially gave up today on my husband's PR visa. I'm Canadian he is Mexican, here is why:

1. He was asked to voluntarily leave the USA, year found out today 2007, not a deportation but voluntary request to leave.

2. He has 2 children in USA, both minors. He has not seen them since leaving the USA. His exwife does not communicate with him in any way, be tough if not impossible to get the kids to get the medicals, or even get exwife to respond with a 'no'.

3. Found out through research today that he was convicted of 2 DUIs in the USA, one in March 2003 and other December 29, 2006. Second one was where he was found out to be an illegal.

It's just too much. I have pealed the onion skin off layer by layer and every day there is something new that is found out to be a problem.

I have a clean record and am a good sponsor prospect, so the problem would not be me, it's all the above that would be combined just too much to over come.

I feel heart broken that I find out these things now and I have just been through a lot here living in Mexico, that didn't work out, now through his life being under a magnifying glass I found out the truth. I have a broken life and a broken heart. I go back to Canada now, get through the corruption of Mexican brokers and customs, get my other affairs in order here, book my ticket and back to home to Canada to restart my life, knowing visa is a lost cause and I can't stay in Mexico as I have no job prospects here and no future.

Thank you everyone that responded to my postings and for your good advice. God Bless.

I am so sorry. that's just brutal. My understanding is that you haven't yet sent in your application. Please don't, and come back home to Canada.

 

[screech339]

Oh Man. Talk about being brutal. Sorry to hear. If I may ask, how did you find out about the two DUI's and volunteer request to leave? Was it listed in the FBI report?

Screech339

 

[MysticMidnight]

I'm so sorry to hear about that, hon. That's a pretty crummy ending. I can't believe how much stuff he hid from you.

I wish you the best of luck with restarting your life back in Canada. If you ever need an ear I'm a pretty good listener

~Midnight

 

[TammyW]

Oh Man. Talk about being brutal. Sorry to hear. If I may ask, how did you find out about the two DUI's and volunteer request to leave? Was it listed in the FBI report?

Screech339

I knew he had to leave the USA and was illegal before, that he told me. The DUI I just found out yesterday that he had a DUI charge, after pressuring him, he said he had one, I called the San Diego court house this morning and gave his info that is when I found out he had 2.

 

[Kayaker]

Sorry to hear

Since you've decided to walk away, every step will be in the right direction!

 

[canadianwoman]

So sorry to hear about this. Good luck in the future.

 

[guyanese24]

so sad, hope you are doing well!

 

[keesio]

TammyW - sorry to hear of this. But I applaud you to have the strength to take a stand on your husbands dishonesty. He can't even be honest even to his own wife when his sponsorship depended on honesty, it is a bad sign. Take care and good luck to the future

 

[AshleyAnne]

Makes you wonder if he was just using you for immigration since he lied about so much.....

 

[jesty195]

I am so sorry to hear it.

Wish you all the best!!!!

 

[fruitball4u]

Wow, what a horrible way to find out something like that. I'm sorry that you have to go through this.

 

[susana]

Dear Tammy,

I just read your post and it breaks my heart , you know how I feel! I hope to have the opportunity to meet you in the near future. Come home ! You are not alone and you are strong enough to get through this. Family and friends are here for you.
Hughs !