aerogurl87 said:
Not necessarily, since that would mean an increased amount of people going to different countries and finding someone they barely know and sponsoring said person. Which leads to an increase in the probability of fraudulent marriages.
You can apply inland in which case you don't have to leave your spouse. Or you can apply for them to get a visitor visa, in which case you don't have to be apart or they can get a work visa or a student visa. Lots of options for those who can figure out a solution to living together after getting married. Or you can apply as common law and don't have to get married (which is what my boyfriend and I are doing). And if you really love someone, do you really look at spending thousands to get to know them as a burden? I know when I met my boyfriend I was a broke college student making about $7.25 a hour and working part time. Yet I managed to scrounge up enough money to come see him for two weeks after talking online for 3 months. It was hard, but worth going through for the man I love. Plus, shouldn't you be getting to know them in person and meeting their friends and family before you marry them? I'd think most people would want to know what they were getting themselves into fully before tying the knot.
Appeal the decision in that case. CIC aren't psychics and are human, so they do make mistakes. That doesn't mean you have to give up though. And when someone moves to Canada they go through these exact situations anyway. So either way, someone is going to have to make a sacrifice and move to another country. I gave up two job offers for good jobs before I came here almost 2 years ago on a work visa. I gave up seeing my nephews grow up, being near my best friends and all of my family, to move to Canada.
So if she wouildn't have gotten through, you think your brother would have just given up on their relationship? Because if that's the case, then I think you should rethink if that person is worth it in the first place. The reason CIC wants to know you are married or common law or in a conjugal relationship, is because they want to know that you are fully committed to being with your spouse long term. A fiance shows a certain level of commitment, but not full commitment in their eyes. It's the same reasoning behind why the military doesn't consider fiances and girlfriends to be family. You aren't fully committed to each other yet in their eyes and may be just "testing the waters". So the possibility that you may up and leave them when you land, is greater.
Some of the points are well taken however there are certain parts of the world where they don't give out visas to come to Canada very easily. The Philippines is one of those. Unless you have a really good job to return to and lots of money in the bank, chances are Canada's not giving you a visa to come.
My biggest beef is having a wife and not being able to touch her until the CIC eventually get moving and process everything so we can be together. I realize some people have a lot of spare cash and can fly back and forth to where ever their spouse is several times a year. I'm not one of those.
After 20 month without my wife (and trust me, .. 20 months without intimacy makes Tim a grumpy guy) I know someone can come up with a better system than we have.
They come out with all kinds of other visas, .. let them come out with a spousal visa too, so a couple that have just been married don't have to face close to as 2 year wait before they can live together. I'm all for national security, cracking down on fraud and all, .. but lets face it if you wanted your significant other living on the opposite side of the planet you might just as well be pen-pals
Also for those who wonder I met my wife on a social site, talked with her for several hours a day for a year before going over and marrying her. Over that one year I knew her so much better than I did the domestic I'm divorced from. It's amazing what you can learn about someone, their family, their upbringing, what they've done with their lives and so on when all you can do is talk. When I met my wife in person I felt even better about my decision, and by the time I came back to Canada I knew without a doubt I found my perfect match. We had such a busy itinerary while I was there with traveling, meeting her family, and just having a good time in general that i have absolutely no doubts about her.
I get that a lot of Canadians, ... the CIC included feel that everybody just can't wait to get into Canada, but not everybody has a terrible life in their country of origin. Some move strictly for the reason that they married someone and couldn't care less where they live, .. as long as they get to live together. It's just too bad it takes so long for most peoples dreams to come true, due to the way CIC rules are set up right now.
