yaar aap baar baar apni hi situation describe kr rahay ho, is it so hard to understand that not everyone is in a situation to actually do what they want to do, or perhaps you haven't experienced or seen anyone in situations like that?mahmudp said:marium.shahid you are taking us wrong... its good your husband love u,,, and that should be the case...I am not saying ppl should visit pakistan ... you are lucky you had a chance to be with your husband whether it be thailand or anyone in the world.... what we are discussing is ppl they dont visit their wives at all.... and we are saying in general.... imagine how wud you feel that your husband have no time to visit you for 2 years....
I got married jan 12 2013... however i couldnt submit my application until december 2013.... but still visited my wife 5 times... went for 2 honeymoons.... malaysia and thailand.... its not about honeymoon or any thing... its about to show your wife that you care... and definitely your husband he cares for you so he visited you whether be it in cina or thailand........
a close friend of mine, did his PhD in agricultural's field from UBC, was a part time lecturer here, couldn't afford to go visit his wife & 2 kids, because he wasn't defence or cantt class society, he couldn't afford, his father had cancer, and mother was sick, his wife was taking care of them, whatever he was earning he was sending that for their medical treatment. one day i asked him when are you planning to go to pakistan he just started crying and then i realized he couldn't have because of the situation. some of us friends managed to pay for his ticket and he came along with me to pakistan. right now he is working for NZ government earning almost half a million $/year wife is there, so are his parents and he is happy with it. what do you do in that situation?
another guy i met he is in his 50's even today he start crying because he came to the USA and somehow got some allegations against him so it delayed his process of becoming citizen hence he couldn't visit in the meanwhile his son was almost 4 years old. even today he has tears when someone talks about it. another guy got sick 2 months from the day he arrived here, he was hospitalized with abbesses in brain hence a bit tricky treatment he went through in the meanwhile his Mom was dying to see him worried, she had a nervous break down but he was from a family where he couldn't afford his Mom's ticket even as he came here for better life and ended up in a hospital. what do you say?
yaar sub ki situation different hoti hy, not everyones situation is the same or even close to the same.
hope this long ass email with a few examples did help you what we are trying to say here.